Would you stick in a relationship if you were always apart?

[MiNxYyY]

Been with my current GF about 14months and we are both working now.

The problem is we never see each other anymore, its been a week since we last met and we only get to talk for a few mins each day but we do text most of the time.

With me working 7am - 4pm and her working 4pm until 2am, its impossible to be able to fit seeing each other in.

How long would you keep like this before you said enough was enough?

 

[Gilly]

Is this every day?

 

[MiNxYyY]

Is this every day?

i work monday - friday 7 - 4, she works mon - fri 4 - 2

on a saturday i work 6am - 12pm and she does 7am - 1pm but then teaches dance from half 1 - late so we just get to text when she has a break from dance, and now im workin just on a sunday in a supermarket from half 10 - 5 and she works at a bar from 4 - 11

 

[skippy2421]

I think the answer to Gilly's question will dictate the answer to this. If this is every day things will not work for obvious reasons, you can't go out with somebody you don't see. If you see each other weekends i can't see any problem.

EDIT: Just seen your answer and jeez i don't envy your working hours mate. I think your relationship could have some problems if it continues like this. Is there no way for either of you 2 to move your shifts about?

 

[MiNxYyY]

I think the answer to Gilly's question will dictate the answer to this. If this is every day things will not work for obvious reasons, you can't go out with somebody you don't see. If you see each other weekends i can't see any problem.

well this is the problem , she has only started working in the past month or so so when she wasn't working we would see each other regulary, prob everyday, But now its like 20mins on a sunday morning

 

[Shikkaka]

Also depends how into her and the relationship you are? Are the working hours just for now or for the long haul?

Personally it'd drive me potty not seeing my girlfriend.

 

[Freefaller]

Why not see how it goes - if she's only just strated it may work out in the long run... it depends how much you want it to work. I can understand your frustration - completely... not an enviable position to be in.

 

[Alex53]

i work monday - friday 7 - 4, she works mon - fri 4 - 2

on a saturday i work 6am - 12pm and she does 7am - 1pm but then teaches dance from half 1 - late so we just get to text when she has a break from dance, and now im workin just on a sunday in a supermarket from half 10 - 5 and she works at a bar from 4 - 11

Change your weekend jobs for week jobs while the other one is working anyway.

 

[MiNxYyY]

I would like to settle down with her and i do plan to.

Im hoping that it is just a basic rota while she has some experience at her work place and then hopefully she will move onto a day shift rota.

Problem with swapping my weekend shift is it means i would be working late, and i cant because i have an early start the next morning.

 

[Jez]

I would re-consider my working hours in this position, and would expect her to do the same.

If we could not change them, and this was looking to be long term, then i would expect that the relationship was likely to end. There is no way on earth i would let something as trivial as a job break up my relationship though, and i would expect her to feel the same.

 

[MiNxYyY]

I would re-consider my working hours in this position, and would expect her to do the same.

If we could not change them, and this was looking to be long term, then i would expect that the relationship was likely to end. There is no way on earth i would let something as trivial as a job break up my relationship though, and i would expect her to feel the same.

I know what you mean, but with today's job availability i need to work as many hours as i can.

 

[Jez]

I think its the fact that she does night work. Obviously you will have explored it, but i think the onus should be on her to get a normal job so that the two of you may spend the evenings together.

 

[Malakite]

Join her dance class

 

[arknor]

do you not live together? if not now is time to start imo

 

[MiNxYyY]

Join her dance class

she teaches kids between the ages of 2years and 14

 

[MiNxYyY]

do you not live together? if not now is time to start imo

Nope, we both live at home still, i have enough money to start renting but im trying to save a deposit.

 

[Smithy]

I can't offer much to your predicament other than you're both working too hard.

 

[skippy2421]

I would like to settle down with her and i do plan to.

Im hoping that it is just a basic rota while she has some experience at her work place and then hopefully she will move onto a day shift rota.

Problem with swapping my weekend shift is it means i would be working late, and i cant because i have an early start the next morning.

Sounds like an awful position to be in. If this is a temporary thing you should make it through, however if not i would seriously look at trying to move some shifts around*.


Anyways best of luck with everything, it doesn't sound like a nice place to be in. lol and i whinge i only see my misses at weekends, guess i haven't got as raw a deal as i thought.

* i appreciate this is not as easy as it sounds but if it is possible it would help you 2 greatly.

EDIT: i really am too slow at this posting in GD malarky, just ignore me

 

[[FnG]magnolia]

What do you want to do?

 

[ChrisJSY]

Always? No.
If you can do something about it? More likely yes.

You guys really needing to work this much?