Job\life dilema..

MasterPlan1 · 19 May 2010 at 08:17

A little bit of background on myself\current job before we get on to the present day, I currently work as a shift sys admin in a DC in vauxhall, I also have an amazing girlfriend who's american, and lives in tucson, AZ who is going to be studying in brussels come september...

Recently my job has become tiresome, I've begun to hate the people I work with and I just wanted out, so like anyone would do, they started looking for a new job, low and behold, I got one, paying 30k, 9-5, project work as well as being a sys admin for a rather large global advertising company in the London branch.

Upon telling the global DC manager that I got the job, he made me an offer of going to NY DC, as the UK one is in the planning of being shut down, this has messed with my head slightly because of the whole girlfriend thing, but - she's coming over here in a few months... So it's not exactly ideal, as we'd be playing atlantic switcheroo. Also, this job is for the same company, so I'd have to deal with the same toss pot managers\developers\general retards that I currently deal with. But, owing to the fact that it's going to be in the states, the pay will be considerably higher than the UK job, as cost of living etc is higher. Still shift work though, albeit more of a rolling rota kinda thing... But NY will be a bit lonely, I know I'll make friends, but I won't have my GF there for another year, she'll still be X000 miles away..

I've got a confrence call with the NY DC manager and the global one this afternoon, so I'll get more info on the NY job then. But because of the closure of the UK DC, I'd probably be involved in the move of stuff from UK to NY..

Anyhoo, what would you do? Or any advise? Anything...?

Thanks for reading.

Lamo · 19 May 2010 at 08:24

It sounds like your talking yourself out of it just now.

More money - but cost of living higher - no real gain here
Your misses will be further away
You will deal with the same "tosspot managers"
You will be lonely in NY
it will be shift work - rather than the new 9-5

Guerrilla · 19 May 2010 at 08:28

As above, i'd be tempted to go with the 'new' job it seems a better solution in the long run... but it's easy to say what to do looking from the outside a lot different having to live with the choice.

Good luck with whichever you choose

MasterPlan1 · 19 May 2010 at 08:28

Yeah, I did kinda notice that upon typing it all out tbf, I guess the only real bonus of the NY thing is after she's done her masters, I'll already be established in NY, and I won't have to worry about visas and whatnot, I'd already be there... I'll see what happens in the confrence call, but when I think about it truthfully, I'm kinda leaning towards the London job more.

MasterPlan1 · 19 May 2010 at 08:31

Also the fact that it does kinda wreck my plans of popping the question, the bar we met at in Paris, is now a ice cream shop - so I was going to take her there whilst she was studying and buy her some ice cream and put the ring on top.

Lamo · 19 May 2010 at 08:34

It is a lot to think about and only you can make the final choice. Good luck with what ever you do.

Showboat · 19 May 2010 at 08:35

Some jobs provide travel for you or family/friends, to help deal with the relocation, they may pay a large part of your flying back and fourth.

MasterPlan1 · 19 May 2010 at 08:40

Showboat said:
Some jobs provide travel for you or family/friends, to help deal with the relocation, they may pay a large part of your flying back and fourth.

Yeah, my planned 4th of July holiday would essentially be free that way, as they want me to start end of June.

apatia77 · 19 May 2010 at 08:50

Take the new job and hope for the best.

Neodite · 19 May 2010 at 08:59

Is your G/F planning on moving back to the states after the year? Or have you not got that far yet?

If it was me i think id want to go NY. If you choose to stay id be more than happy to take your job

MasterPlan1 · 19 May 2010 at 09:04

Neodite said:
Is your G/F planning on moving back to the states after the year? Or have you not got that far yet?

If it was me i think id want to go NY. If you choose to stay id be more than happy to take your job

We've not got that far yet - we just know that she's coming over to brussells to study for a year for her masters, then we'd go from there...

robgmun · 19 May 2010 at 09:11

Lamo said:
It sounds like your talking yourself out of it just now.

More money - but cost of living higher - no real gain here
Your misses will be further away
You will deal with the same "tosspot managers"
You will be lonely in NY
it will be shift work - rather than the new 9-5

To be frank it's a bit of a no brainer, take the new job.

Neodite · 19 May 2010 at 09:14

MasterPlan1 said:
We've not got that far yet - we just know that she's coming over to brussells to study for a year for her masters, then we'd go from there...

What do you think will happen? Do you think she would be willing to move to London?

Have you spoke to her to see what she thinks yet? You are going to pop the question after all

MasterPlan1 · 19 May 2010 at 09:26

Neodite said:
What do you think will happen? Do you think she would be willing to move to London?

Have you spoke to her to see what she thinks yet? You are going to pop the question after all

I have spoken to her, and I know her views - we both want to move to the states, somewhere in the north east when we decide to settle down, she's not adverse to living in the UK for a while though, but I want to move to the states myself too.

lazer46 · 19 May 2010 at 09:38

I would go with the new company mate. Obviously you are not happy with present employer. I think you would regret staying with them.

Neodite · 19 May 2010 at 09:40

In that case, which job pays more and will help you save up most?

Might aswell make the best start for you both

JayToukon · 19 May 2010 at 09:44

The only real decision maker here is your missus imo and how important your relationship is. I'm in a similar kind of situation at the moment just not to extremeties of being thousands of miles apart, just 100+.

Without the GF factor i'd take the job in NY and start a new life but that's just my two cents.

iviv · 19 May 2010 at 09:52

Given you both want to end up in the states, wouldn't it be easier to take the job there? That way, you don't have to deal with visas and so on? Plus you'll already have a job there. If you stay in the UK, you'll see your girl sooner, but you'll be leaving the job after a year or two to try and find one in the US?

Kyle009 · 19 May 2010 at 10:17

You're being offered the chance to move to the US with a job? Take that definitely. Once you are over there you can always look for something better if you still don't like it and the bonus is you'll be there.

If it doesn't work out you can easily come back. Being apart from your girlfriend may be tough, but would you be seeing her that much if she's doing a masters? I'm sure she'll be pretty busy herself!

MasterPlan1 · 19 May 2010 at 10:23

If you're in the states with a work visa from a sponsored company you can't move to another job I don't think... The more I think about the move to the states, and think about this company, the more I hate it... if it was offered to me a year ago when I wasn't so ****ed off at this place, I'd totally have taken it.

But re: her doing her masters, I'd be visiting her on the weekends, once or twice a month, finish up work on a friday, jump on eurostar and zoom to brussells...