Just found out my ex has a new boyfriend

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Even though been its a year since we broke up, am feeling pretty gutted. Feels like I've been left behind on the scrap heap.

Clearly, she's moved on, whereas I've been thinking about her ever since we broke up. She also looks different as well - different hairstyle, more exuberant, lots of makeup, big beaming smile. I don't recognise her. He looks a bit pensive in the photos. I wonder if she'll grind him down with her volatility when she doesn't get her own way, or if they'll liver happily ever after?

Gutted :(

Really don't know why its taking me so long to get over this. Have had a couple of one night flings since, but I miss her love, even though she was a bit intense.

*sigh*
 
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Think of it this way. At least you know shes only doing the no pants dance with 1 person and not getting wasted at the weekend and doing it with numerous individuals each week.
 
MarkDavis said:
Even though been its a year since we broke up, am feeling pretty gutted.

Clearly, she's moved on, whereas I've been thinking about her ever since we broke up. She also looks different as well - different hairstyle, more exuberant, lots of makeup, big beaming smile. I don't recognise her.

Feels like I've been left behind on the scrap heap.

Gutted :(
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Same here, but my ex got with someone 2 weeks after splitting with me saying shes not ready for a relationship.

That feeling of "not good enough" really sucks.
 
MarkDavis said:
Even though been its a year since we broke up, am feeling pretty gutted.

Clearly, she's moved on, whereas I've been thinking about her ever since we broke up. She also looks different as well - different hairstyle, more exuberant, lots of makeup, big beaming smile. I don't recognise her.

Feels like I've been left behind on the scrap heap.

Gutted :(
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Not trying to be funny but she seem's to be happy so just be happy for her, it's been a year, what did you expect?
 
Lots of useless responses so far. Very conscientious, OCUK.

MarkDavis said:
Clearly, she's moved on, whereas I've been thinking about her ever since we broke up. She also looks different as well - different hairstyle, more exuberant, lots of makeup, big beaming smile. I don't recognise her.
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This is very common indeed. When a relationship has ended, a lot of girls change their appearance [hair is the obvious way] in order to signify a new beginning and a rejection of their own self.

It sucks if you're still in love with her, and she may well have made a point about just how happy she is now. I would try to appear unaffected and start doing things for yourself more. Go out on your own or with others, go on holiday, buy new stuff etc. You broke up for a reason and if you did end up going out again you'd just be reminded about why you broke up in the first place. I've got together again with exes before, it doesn't work.
 
Yes, yes, yes, move on, move on, move on.....

But emotions don't move on so quickly. I don't fall in love easily, but when I do, my emotions run pretty deep, so for me, it takes time for emotions to dissipate. And there's the regret over misundertandings, over things that couldn't be worked out, over times when we behaved in ways that were unkind to each other (even though we loved each other), sadness over the loss of hopes and dreams, thoughts about what might have been if the circumstances had been different (we both had stressful job situations, I was contracting in London etc).

I guess I'm still recovering from my breakup. I've been through the angry / depressed phase, but I guess it doesn't help that I moved to a place (Nottingham) for her so everyday is almost like a reminder of the reason why I came here.

*sigh*

Maybe knowing her new situations will help me come to closure with this situation and move on. I guess I knew that all along in the back of my mind, but I guess you get into denial.
 
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Yeah, I broke up with my ex about 2 years ago now, And there's still feelings there, we were together 5/6 years and we're still friends. Im not in love with her, No, But I still regret some of the things that caused us to split, I am happy where i am now in my life. But there's always that wondering of could things have been different, etc. And residual feelings.

Thing is I am a better person now for not being with her, 6 years in a stale relationship caused me to become quite down on myself and I also managed to get extremely unfit. Sometimes it's better to get out of that sort of relationship.
 
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