Just found out my ex has a new boyfriend

I'm in a similar situation OP and it's not good. :(

Broke up with my GF of (only) 18 months a couple of months ago (rather suddenly, which I think is a big part of it). Luckily we now live at opposite ends of the country, which is one of the reasons we split up. I still think about her every day but haven't yet been told she has a new boyfriend (and I don't want to know for this very reason). Still a kicker, I was really happy with her, even with the distance and it's probably the main reason we split up. :(

I'm like you with regards to relationships, I don't fall in love easily and when I do it takes a long time to get over them, I still think about her every day and don't think i'm really ready for another realtionship yet. Contrary to what others have said sleeping around probably isn't going to help and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with way too much emotional baggage. Perhaps just try and get out more but don't force it, don't actively look but if someone comes along that you click with then see how it goes. That's what i'm sort of doing at the moment (although where I live is terrible for women) so i'm hoping i'll be sorted by the time I go back to uni and find someone there perhaps.
 
soundb0y said:
Haha when I was 14/15 me and my girlfriend split and she started going out with a girl.

Would have been fine but I didn't even get to watch anything!
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I was seeing a girl for a couple of months when we first started uni, she is now an out and out lesbian and detests the idea of sex with guys, luckily for me she had a couple of guys between me and her lesbian fetish.:p

She was kissing this new girl she was seeing earlier and it just felt very odd (we became very good friends during uni, probably because the reason we stopped seeing each other was because we realised there was no real chemistry), not because she was kissing a girl, but because it was like watching your sister kissing someone.:p
 
know what you mean, took a couple of years for me together over my ex. After we had been apart 2 years I fund out my ex got a new guy and I was very upset.
 
Dude, you really do need to find yourself a girl. It would take your mind off your ex. I split up with my fiancee in Jan after she stole from me then found out that she had a weekend fling with some random guy 2 weeks later. That messed me up quite a bit but i found a new girl a few weeks ago and she has helped take my mind off my ex.
So the phrase 'to get over one, get under another' really does work :D
 
Munkyman said:
Dude, you really do need to find yourself a girl. It would take your mind off your ex. I split up with my fiancee in Jan after she stole from me then found out that she had a weekend fling with some random guy 2 weeks later. That messed me up quite a bit but i found a new girl a few weeks ago and she has helped take my mind off my ex.
So the phrase 'to get over one, get under another' really does work :D
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this.

getting a new lady in your definitely will help :)
 
Rroff said:
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The truth is most women aren't as committed to relationships as we would like to think and they would like to admit.
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Actually the inside scoop from all my female friends is that women effectively break up with you in their minds longs before doing it in reality.

So sometimes what seems like a sudden end of a relationship has actually been on the cards in their mind for months, which is why they can move on so much easier.

I've done the same, stayed with a gf for 9 months knowing full well that it would not be lasting, so when I finally did end it, I was able to move on much easier.
 
tbh a year, are you sure this is her first new BF ? most women have at least one option lined up before they end the current one. I would incredibly surprised if this was her first relationship since you.
 
Chin up old boy, everyone's been there. Get out and enjoy life with your mates, you'll meet another girl in time and soon forget about your ex.
 
get over it.
she has decided to change things in her life, you havent. No wonder you broke up if you cant even sort yourself out after a year of not being happy.
 
"Really don't know why its taking me so long to get over this. Have had a couple of one night flings since, but I miss her love, even though she was a bit intense."

That old theory about longing for something you can't have?
 
When people whine about their Ex finding a new partner, I dont find it too surprising that they got dumped in the first place.
 
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