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The problem with that is that if you think its saveable and its not then he will never get over the girl.
Getting over a girl
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The problem with that is that if you think its saveable and its not then he will never get over the girl.
There is nothing you can do, nothing is right or wrong. If you want to cry then cry, if you want to sleep around do it. I personally found that going for drives and just parking up and thinking helped. But its each to their own.
It all happens for a reason x
It all happens for a reason x
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Smash a new pasty then tell Her : )
yeah get back in touch with your mates, if they are good mates they will understand, bt please dont find another girl then ditch them agian, our 1 mate does this and he seriously gets slagged off....
if all else fails, whack some bobby mcferrin on always cheers me up
if all else fails, whack some bobby mcferrin on always cheers me up
Just go out to some nightclubs and dance up to any girls you like and you very soon find a new GF or a one nighter or some new female friends
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Very sound advice.
Its hard!! The worst thing i done in your situation is held out hope for a reconciliation (which i messed up by shagging one of her mates and to be honest she is a swamp donkey now days so luck escape )its easy to say don't get depressed but i cried like a bitch drank/smoked/popped al sorts but that is not the answer!
Go out for a few beers, let your hair down a bit, get down the gym...when you go and see your nipper don't sit there and fawn over your EX, in a few months, if you still want to ask her out on a date..
)its easy to say don't get depressed but i cried like a bitch drank/smoked/popped al sorts but that is not the answer! Go out for a few beers, let your hair down a bit, get down the gym...when you go and see your nipper don't sit there and fawn over your EX, in a few months, if you still want to ask her out on a date..
It ended a couple of days ago, not a couple of months. Something has happened and until one or te other comes out with the root cause there is little chance of rescuing it. I'd chance on it beig saveable.
i did this, thought i was going mad. would drive for like 100 mile round trips listening to 'i wanna be adored' by the stone roses over and over. mad times now i look back but i really didn't know what to do with myself and driving was the perfect sanctuary
You have had some really sound advice in this thread allready but heres my view.
1. Find out what exactly it is that has caused this divide between you. Im guessing you dont know as it appears like its come out of the blue, for you at least.
2. If its something which can be changed just plant the seed in her mind, we can still make this work etc etc.
3. Give her a day or two to mull it over then come together and have a talk about the situation.
You have shared something very special together and hopefully you will make it through this together. Keep us posted.
1. Find out what exactly it is that has caused this divide between you. Im guessing you dont know as it appears like its come out of the blue, for you at least.
2. If its something which can be changed just plant the seed in her mind, we can still make this work etc etc.
3. Give her a day or two to mull it over then come together and have a talk about the situation.
You have shared something very special together and hopefully you will make it through this together. Keep us posted.
My man told me last summer that he wasn't in love with me anymore. I threw myself into my hobbies, made some new friends and got back in touch with some old ones. All were brilliant and I couldn't have done it without them.
I'm almost a year down the line now and realised I'm actually happier in myself now then I was with the ex. Everything happens for a reason, I really do believe that.
I'm almost a year down the line now and realised I'm actually happier in myself now then I was with the ex. Everything happens for a reason, I really do believe that.
Yup, friends that won't ditch you.
It was only 2 days ago Dude & you have an 18 month old child.
Priority should be sorting a decent home out for yourself so you can start having your child stay over & get some stability in all your lives again.
Forget about how you feel as its Not important, Your Child is !!!
Right then...
Once you've manned up & realised being a man is not about whinging approach the X & ask about visiting the child etc & what she plans.
If she is Serious then you can sort access out, If she isn't this will let her know it's time to choose/make her mind up.
Lastly.
Good luck.
Priority should be sorting a decent home out for yourself so you can start having your child stay over & get some stability in all your lives again.
Forget about how you feel as its Not important, Your Child is !!!
Right then...
Once you've manned up & realised being a man is not about whinging approach the X & ask about visiting the child etc & what she plans.
If she is Serious then you can sort access out, If she isn't this will let her know it's time to choose/make her mind up.
Lastly.
Good luck.
if only i had that advice the last time....took me a while to realise this, it works though
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Sorry to hear you are going through this. My wife of 5yrs left me last September so I know how it is. As others have said time IS a healer and you will get over her. In the meantime it will be rough but you cant let it overtake you and put your life on hold. I made that mistake initially and just about saved myself from sinking into a black hole of despair. This forum helped loads, when I was sad I posted on here and the replies were swift. So you can do the same. OcUK crew rocks
But yeah - keep yourself busy, do something youve been putting off - dont wallow in the house thinking of the good old days - its natural that you will do that but dont let it consume you. That time has now past. She has made her choice now you must also move forward.
If there is any hope of saving it via conselling etc then by all means do it but its REAL important that BOTH sides want to save it. If its just one partner then it aint gonna work IMHO. Dont beg, and dont push - keep your dignity. If she wants to return she will do so of her own free will and if she doesnt - well then close the door on that chapter and get on with life.
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Lol lol
But yeah - keep yourself busy, do something youve been putting off - dont wallow in the house thinking of the good old days - its natural that you will do that but dont let it consume you. That time has now past. She has made her choice now you must also move forward.
If there is any hope of saving it via conselling etc then by all means do it but its REAL important that BOTH sides want to save it. If its just one partner then it aint gonna work IMHO. Dont beg, and dont push - keep your dignity. If she wants to return she will do so of her own free will and if she doesnt - well then close the door on that chapter and get on with life.
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