Annoying guy hassling my girlfriend

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I apologise in advance for a boring story :)

So this guy has been causing me and my current gf grief for a while now, He's sort of a friends friend. Basically before me and my gf got together last year she'd been on a night out and snogged him, nothing more. He then obtained her number and started texting her asking when they were meeting up again, she said she was sorry and wasn't really interested and that was that.

About a month later I started seeing her, but we then kept running into him on nights out, he'd come up to her and ask for a kiss or say when are they going to meet up. She rejected him every time, if a little on the kind side. He still kept doing it so i decided to confront him about it, he said that he didn't know that we were going out and that he would lay off, a lie as she'd told him several times she was with me.

The same night I confronted him he waited for my gf outside the toilets, as she left he pulled her to one side and started telling her he loved her and couldn't believe she'd cheated on him :confused: He then left when I came looking her. Since then we've run into him several times in town, He acts all friendly towards me but as soon as he see's my gf alone he starts asking her to come back to his house and that she should leave me for him. She's told him to get lost every time and come to find me, however he always leaves before I find him.

Now last month on my birthday he did the same thing but was all over her, again saying stuff like come back to mine, and even said 'I can't belive you cheated on me with him'. I turned around in time to see her push him away and for him to then grab hold of her, I ran straight over and pushed him off and was honestly about to engage in fisticuffs before the bouncers stepped in. Since then i've had some of his friends come up to me and say that he's told them he's been seeing my gf for months.

My gf went out with her mates at the weekend and had him following her around all night again, saying the usual come back to mine and he dosen't need to know stuff. She tried to get rid of him but in the end decided to leave town and come to mine, he then started ringing her so I answered it and told him where to go.

No doubt he's gonna try something again when she's out, and if i'm there i don't know how long i can stay calm, he makes me that angry.

Sorry for my long boring story :p Any advice what to do?
 
Are you entirely sure that she didn't go out with him? I know quite a few girls who have gone out with several guys at once before making their minds up with which one they want.

It would be one thing if he was just trying to get her to dump you, its just really odd that he seems to think they were in a relationship.
 
Next time you see him you need to pull him aside and tell him enough is enough, simple as that! If things carry on its quite simple, you spark him out cold! K POW!
 
Well done for not knocking him out, many people would have. (Or even killed him, if you are Platinum87)

Let the police know, say he's stalking her, they should be able to get rid of him for you.
 
Mate either more happened than just a snog initially or he has become irrationally obsessed with her. Either way you need to man up or your girlfriend needs to file harrassment charges at the local nick!

Is it bothering her as much as its bothering you? Thats the main question. If the answer is yes then get the ball in motion...
 
He's clearly doing it for the lulz. That, and she's obviously in heat. The smell drives rival males a bit loopy.
 
Probably time for your girlfriend to report it to the police. Suppose the other option is to give him a good kicking but that could have some bad consequences
 
I would tell the places you go as you enter that your GF is being Stalked & you may need some help if he turns up. ;)
Also ring the old bill & report him so it's on record.
Sounds like your GF is handling it well & you have done well not to batter him.
Hopefully he'll get the message if the old bill visit him or the Bouncers sling him out as a Stalker.
Good luck.
 
If it's that bad, report it and have it on record. Make a note of every time he contacts her or something?
 
Assuming it is how the OP said, that GF didn't go out with him...

Pick either of the below.

  1. You/mates go and beat the **** out of him
  2. Go to the police, harassment etc.

I'd be going for 2, but fizzle being a fine upstanding member of society would go for 1.
 
I know someone like this. he's not a bad person and wouldn't cause any harm but he hasn't had much experience with women. If he gets the slightest sign of anything at all from a woman, he will persue persue persue untill he either succeeds (rare to never) or he gets an almighty **** *** that even he knows there is no recovery from in terms of a relationship developing.
 
Perhaps avoid the clubs he goes to or go somewhere else if you see him. Your gf should report him to the police for harassing her.
 
Thanks for advice peeps, will talk to the gf tonight about the police.

Just to clear up, it was only a snog on the dancefloor, I have friends who were there that night and we even talked about it with her the next day. He generally seems like a complete wierdo to me.
 
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