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This! My little boy goes to bed before 8, and I would expect any neighbour to at least respect this. If it was just me, then I wouldnt be so bothered.
Neighbour complaining. What do you guys think is reasonable.
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This! My little boy goes to bed before 8, and I would expect any neighbour to at least respect this. If it was just me, then I wouldnt be so bothered.
1) What time do you expect to barely hear the neighbours. For them really to start calming it down and at max 'talking quietly'..
a) During week? 11 ish
b) During weekend? 12 ish
2) What time do you basically expect silence - the fun should have stopped now its unreasonable for you to hear a squeak really ..
a) During week? never, imo it's unreasonable to expect anyone to be absolutley silent
b) During weekend? as above
3) How often would you allow you neighbours a 'big blowout'. Really special occassion, they warn you in advance, 50 people hammered round their house, and you 'let them' party loudly and have a proper knees up until 4am or later? Ever? How often?
Once every couple of months on the provision that i'm invited
a) During week? 11 ish
b) During weekend? 12 ish
2) What time do you basically expect silence - the fun should have stopped now its unreasonable for you to hear a squeak really ..
a) During week? never, imo it's unreasonable to expect anyone to be absolutley silent
b) During weekend? as above
3) How often would you allow you neighbours a 'big blowout'. Really special occassion, they warn you in advance, 50 people hammered round their house, and you 'let them' party loudly and have a proper knees up until 4am or later? Ever? How often?
Once every couple of months on the provision that i'm invited
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Asking a stranger to live his life making virtually zero sound after 8pm, because of your little boy, just seems a little harsh to me.
Suppose there's 8 of them that are going to have a good time until 10.30pm, vs your little boy who is gonna have a slightly worse night's sleep? Surely the needs of the 8 outweigh the needs of the 1?
If other neighbours have a baby, that goes to bed at 5pm, are you gonna tell your little boy to play in silence for the last 3 hours of every day because of the baby next door?
I really think I just need a detached house
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My parents neighbors have started getting a bit elasticated with their comments to them. they sit most Fridays and Saturday evenings on their Decking with the chiminea on and have a few drinks maby once a month I'm down with my wife and sister and her man is round for food and a drink. nothing loud or that just talking.
Went out on Saturday and got every time we see you, you have a beer in your hand. Old mans response every time I see you you are in your garden... Smoking and complaining about something LOL she soon shut up.
They are the worlds most boring couple. Never go on holiday and if they do theres always something wrong. she spends all her life cleaning. and he just sits and watches football.
A big knees up wouldn't happen. and can see why people would get annoyed with it.
Went out on Saturday and got every time we see you, you have a beer in your hand. Old mans response every time I see you you are in your garden... Smoking and complaining about something LOL she soon shut up.
They are the worlds most boring couple. Never go on holiday and if they do theres always something wrong. she spends all her life cleaning. and he just sits and watches football.
A big knees up wouldn't happen. and can see why people would get annoyed with it.
1) What time do you expect to barely hear the neighbours. For them really to start calming it down and at max 'talking quietly'..
a) During week?
00:00
b) During weekend?
Whenever - no limit
2) What time do you basically expect silence - the fun should have stopped now its unreasonable for you to hear a squeak really ..
a) During week?
02:00
b) During weekend?
Whenever - no limit
3) How often would you allow you neighbours a 'big blowout'. Really special occassion, they warn you in advance, 50 people hammered round their house, and you 'let them' party loudly and have a proper knees up until 4am or later? Ever? How often?
If they've been nice enough to give us notice, I'll be nice enough to not complain about whatever goes on. That said, if it started to become a bi-weekly event or something I might ask them to consider being a bit quieter.
All this said, I'm not sure it'd ever happen. We live in a town that's 90% OAPs, a very well to do town. We're a house of friends and most of our social events either happen or at least start at our place, so we're usually the noisy ones! Never had any complaints though, barring one old woman who complained once when we arrived home from holiday at 3am and the taxi driver from the airport didn't seem able to talk in anything less than a loud bellow. I'm not sure if we can be held responsible for a loud taxi driver.
a) During week?
00:00
b) During weekend?
Whenever - no limit
2) What time do you basically expect silence - the fun should have stopped now its unreasonable for you to hear a squeak really ..
a) During week?
02:00
b) During weekend?
Whenever - no limit
3) How often would you allow you neighbours a 'big blowout'. Really special occassion, they warn you in advance, 50 people hammered round their house, and you 'let them' party loudly and have a proper knees up until 4am or later? Ever? How often?
If they've been nice enough to give us notice, I'll be nice enough to not complain about whatever goes on. That said, if it started to become a bi-weekly event or something I might ask them to consider being a bit quieter.
All this said, I'm not sure it'd ever happen. We live in a town that's 90% OAPs, a very well to do town. We're a house of friends and most of our social events either happen or at least start at our place, so we're usually the noisy ones! Never had any complaints though, barring one old woman who complained once when we arrived home from holiday at 3am and the taxi driver from the airport didn't seem able to talk in anything less than a loud bellow. I'm not sure if we can be held responsible for a loud taxi driver.
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simulatorman said:
In a built up, terraced area I'd have to say I'd agree with this. I've had issues with noisy neighbours before now and last thing you want is being disturbed after midnight because someone is making noise.
It's all well and good people saying 2am or 4am but not everyone is a student who doesn't get up to lunchtime. If you are disturbed until that sort of time in the morning then you are either going to loose half a day the following day due to being knackered or even have issues at work due to tiredness.
Fortunately the Polish people in the other half of my semi are pretty quiet even when they have friends around for a party and my neighbour on the other side works shifts so tends to be very quiet. We have had issues with the people over the back though who have had parties into the early hours of the morning but they seem to have toned things down after lots of people complained last time ...
my last neighbours used to have a handful of people around getting drunk at the weekends and playing music fairly loud and i was fine with it even though theres no seperation between our properties it wasnt to bad and only once a week.
but they kept it all inside if it were in the garden it would be entirely different , i can handle music beeing fairly loud but raised voices all the time no thanks
but they kept it all inside if it were in the garden it would be entirely different , i can handle music beeing fairly loud but raised voices all the time no thanks
Oh of course, no limits are in place if one has an invite!
This is a interesting subject for me after last night, my neighbour had a few friends round and kept me awake at 1am and then woke me up at 5am.
A polite and joking message on facebook earned me an apology and a pass for Fridays football.
Give and take
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Invite them round next time.
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I think the times you stop making a noise a severely reduced if new neighbours have kids. Kids go to bed at 6/7/8 or 9 pm so they get pished if they are woken....
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Since I am a participant in such activity, my answers are:
1) Quiet:
a) During week? 21:00
b) During weekend? 21:00 Sunday evening.
2) Silence:
a) During week? 22:00
b) During weekend? 22:00 Sunday evening.
3) How often would you allow you neighbours a 'big blowout'.
Anytime they'd like, since I'm usually included in theirs and they're usually included in mine.
I'm very close to all my neighbours and we're all usually together during most celebrations. But because of changes in work schedules we all talk to eachother and know when to quiet down. And none of us have any problem opening the window and saying "hey, trying to sleep here!" without risk of offending anyone.
To be honest, there are never any noise complaints from any neighbours except for stupid barking dogs.
1) Quiet:
a) During week? 21:00
b) During weekend? 21:00 Sunday evening.
2) Silence:
a) During week? 22:00
b) During weekend? 22:00 Sunday evening.
3) How often would you allow you neighbours a 'big blowout'.
Anytime they'd like, since I'm usually included in theirs and they're usually included in mine.
I'm very close to all my neighbours and we're all usually together during most celebrations. But because of changes in work schedules we all talk to eachother and know when to quiet down. And none of us have any problem opening the window and saying "hey, trying to sleep here!" without risk of offending anyone.
To be honest, there are never any noise complaints from any neighbours except for stupid barking dogs.
I suppose what is reasonable depends on the area and the demographics.
If you live in a cul-de-sac with lots of young families then there should really be no loud noise from 8pm onwards.
If you live in a predominantly student occupied area then being loud till the early hours is fine.
Best bet is to put yourself in their shoes, and see how you would feel about it.
If you live in a cul-de-sac with lots of young families then there should really be no loud noise from 8pm onwards.
If you live in a predominantly student occupied area then being loud till the early hours is fine.
Best bet is to put yourself in their shoes, and see how you would feel about it.
Just had a little party last weekend actually. No music outside at the BBQ. Chatter is fine, if you want music etc. go inside are my rules
Fireworks (oh yeah
) set off prior to 11pm. Had several neighbours (who are unlikely to want to come) remark on how cool they were
As for the OP: I live in a Link-detached house (connected through garage only) which means you have to have all volumes turned up to 11 just for someone else to hear
As for the big blowout question? A couple of times a year perhaps? I don't know really as most of the people that live round here probably wouldn't party outside till 4am anyway.
Fireworks (oh yeah
) set off prior to 11pm. Had several neighbours (who are unlikely to want to come) remark on how cool they were As for the OP: I live in a Link-detached house (connected through garage only) which means you have to have all volumes turned up to 11 just for someone else to hear
As for the big blowout question? A couple of times a year perhaps? I don't know really as most of the people that live round here probably wouldn't party outside till 4am anyway.