Neighbour complaining. What do you guys think is reasonable.

britboy4321 said:
Yea I kind of agree. TBH I dodge conflict. I'd rather move house altogether than have a 'neighbour war', as it sounds like a living hell to me ... :(

For two weekends in a row we went to about 1am, pretty loud, with no warning to them in advance. On the second one, at about 11.30, he told me to STFU. They have a 7 month old kid.

In my defence, I did (immediately) STFU and we were pretty hished until 1am, immediately as he made his very first complaint. Trouble is now I feel kind of frustrated and annoyed even though I'm the bad guy. I need a detached place. Which means (round here) I need to find an extra £400K from somewhere :(
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You're well out of line. He has a 7 month old child :/ He probably gets next to no sleep as it is!

Also, huge facepalms at snowdog
 
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lawl, man goes round house tells you to STFU and you feel bad and want to move after playing music after 11pm when you didn't let your Neighbour know in advance (Not to mention having a newborn)?

I think the first thing you should do, even if you "dislike" conflict is go round and apoligise.
 
Depends if you have children.

Without children
During the week - 10pm
During the weekend - 12am
One off - 2am

With children
During the week - 9pm
During the weekend - 10pm
One off - 12am

If you get on that well, you may end up inviting the neighbours round anyway ;)
 
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I can understand why parents get upset with people keeping kids up at a young age. Getting babies into routine can be a nightmare and when they get out of sync its causes issues for everyone in that house. I don’t like parents that use kids as ammo to try and control others. I just think respect should be both ways really and people who don’t have kids should understand why they might get upset.

Thing is people that live mid terrace or in flats should be more respecting of their neighbours then others as its more likely to affect them. Simple thing here is get to know your neighbours and speak to them just giving a simple heads up or ask what is an acceptable noise level you can get away with without upsetting anyone.

Britboy having 2 parties in a row in your own words being loud I think is out of order. I notice you said he didn’t say anything at the first one maybe that’s because he thinks a one off is acceptable as most people do.

Just man up and go and talk to them about it. Apologies and see if there is a way you can have your cake and eat it. By this I referring to what i already said try and find out what the maximum level of noise you can get away with out next door hearing it. This way you still get to have your parties and not have to worry about ****** off your neighbours. Also being in your garden passed 11/12 making loads of noise i think is out of order.

One other thing is you might want to ask your friends to be more respecting if they are louder then normal. I always notice at parties that the people hosting the party are normally more respecting then the people visiting. The old rule of its not my house I don’t have to worry about upsetting the neighbours can always be applied at parties for disrespecting people. I'm not saying this is the case just saying what I have found in the past and could be good advice for you.
 
Difficult one this, very much depends on if the neighbour has kids or not and at what age.

As i am now (living with parents but am currently working atm) even if i had my own place i would say:

weekdays: 11pm
Weekends: 2/3am

on one offs well knock yourselves out as long as i know in advance.

If i had kids and dependant on their age things would change, a young kid then yeah it would 9pm on a weekday and 10pm on a weekend.

one offs i'd still forgive.

However if my child was a little older i.e 5 or 6 i would let up on weekends again.

I wouldn't insist on complete silence either. the odd door slam and noises i could live with.
 
The thing is i'm a reasonable man but i will do things when i want, and if i want to make noise on a one off occasion till 6 in the morning, i will. But like i say, i'm reasonable so it won't be during the week and it will be a one off. If i was asked nicely, i'd even turn it off with good reason.
If anyone had a problem with this i'd give them something more to worry about. :p

Its funny because when i work shifts my neighbours dont keep quiet, they turn on their printing press and vacuum. I am my own man so why should i conform to your sleep cycle. Give and take isn't it?
 
snowdog said:
Which should go at the cost of others ? Their 10 hours or whatever are more important than a normal persons 7 hours of sleep ?
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Well, yes. They're kids and therefore require more protection than adults do in general. An adult who is having problems sleeping can use medication/earplugs etc etc to aid their sleep - a child may not have those options or is reliant on a parent to provide them. While it would be nice for everyone to get precisely what they want if a priority needs to be chosen then it's almost always going to be children ahead of adults.
 
Illustrating my point exactly, people get kids and then consider themselves and their kids more important than the rest... Kids are a choice, they don't make you or them more important suddenly than the rest.
 
snowdog said:
Illustrating my point exactly, people get kids and then consider themselves and their kids more important than the rest... Kids are a choice, they don't make you or them more important suddenly than the rest.
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Indeed, as a parent you made the choice to have children but the choice, once made, is non-reversible so since the children do require more protection than most adults they become a priority. I say the choice is non-reversible, you can of course get rid of children but the legal system rightly tends to frown on those who treat their children like puppies after Christmas.

It's also worth noting that the children did not have a choice in the matter so unless you want to punish those who are innocent for the "crimes" of the parent because you feel they are disrupting your life then you've got a problem.
 
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It's also worth noting that the children did not have a choice in the matter so unless you want to punish those who are innocent for the "crimes" of the parent because you feel they are disrupting your life then you've got a problem.
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Abit OTT? It's abit of noise once every few month. This is not a crime
 
snowdog said:
Incidentally, most of the people that moan seem to be parents who think their kids seem to give them the right to be more important than the rest. No doubt the same people who vote for Labour or Tories and generally love authoritarian BS.
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You will find that most normal people complain about noise after a certain hour and not just parents. Of course you know an awful lot about UK politics or is it just bull****.
 
britboy4321 said:
1) What time do you expect to barely hear the neighbours. For them really to start calming it down and at max 'talking quietly'..
a) During week?
b) During weekend?

2) What time do you basically expect silence - the fun should have stopped now its unreasonable for you to hear a squeak really ..
a) During week?
b) During weekend?

3) How often would you allow you neighbours a 'big blowout'. Really special occassion, they warn you in advance, 50 people hammered round their house, and you 'let them' party loudly and have a proper knees up until 4am or later? Ever? How often?
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1a) 11pm
1b) 11pm
2a) 1am
2b) 1am
3) depends if i can go around
 
im woken every morning at 6.30am (i go to sleep about 2am) by the neighbours getting the kids ready for school ,the doors are never shut they are slammed ,then every month or so they have a blow out on a sat night till 3am ,tbh we get on with them ok ,it just means we dont have to be too care full about keeping the noise down ourselves ,its so easy to enter into confrontations with neighbours
 
The big point no-one here has clarified is what is a reasonable noise level up to these cut off hours, is everyone stating 11pm etc saying that up until this time anything goes? Can I put my thousand watt PA system on and play the birdie song on endless loop as long as I turn it off at exactly the specified time?

I don't expect my neighbours to be silent ever really I just expect them to 99% of the time not affect my life, I start to get annoyed if I have to crank my tele up to drown out their music for any length of time. I consider their stereo to be too loud at anytime if I can recognise the song and sing along but I'll ignore it if it is only for a few tracks, I have no kids so thats not my reason before the crazies attack. I'm just a firm believer that you shouldn't affect other peoples lives in a negative way on a regular basis, I live in a terrace so I accept that doors banging and people running up and down the stairs will always be audible but sustained loud noise at anytime of the day or night on anything more than an occasional basis is not.
 
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