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Neighbour complaining. What do you guys think is reasonable.
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If it's just a bit of noise occasionally then I'm sure the kids will live just fine but that wasn't really my point, the whole post is in response to snowdog's idea that other people having children should not affect your life - unfortunately enough it may do if you happen to live near them and you (that is a generic rather than specific you) should show a bit more consideration for the children who did not make a choice than you might otherwise do if it were only adults living nearby.
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Agreed. Simple fact is you will find it hard to not live around people with children so its all about give and take. Some noise is fine as long as its not all the time.
Snowdog your have to live in a remote location or on a island somewhere by yourself if you want to play music when ever you like as loud as you like. It would be nice to live like that but in reality it doesnt work that way your just end up ****** someone off unless you have the most understanding neighbours in the world. Remember in Britain we all love to complain
.I work nights so fully understand the pain of being woken up by all sorts of noise like people cutting their lawns, screaming kids playing etc but I choose to work shifts and I get paided more to do so wouldnt think of playing music in the middle of the night just because I work shifts.
Neighbour complained about out post-England match party and beers on Saturday at my place. Well, the noise level it produced drunkenly going into the evening ..
So, just so I have some viewpoints about what people consider is reasonable - Imagine new neighbours move in next to you .. here are some questions about reasonableness with regards to noise ..
1) What time do you expect to barely hear the neighbours. For them really to start calming it down and at max 'talking quietly'..
a) During week? 11pm
b) During weekend?11pm
This is the official time music has to be turned down and seems reasonable to not annoy your neighbors!
2) What time do you basically expect silence - the fun should have stopped now its unreasonable for you to hear a squeak really ..
a) During week? Dont need silence but it would have to be pretty quiet after 11.
3) How often would you allow you neighbours a 'big blowout'. Really special occassion, they warn you in advance, 50 people hammered round their house, and you 'let them' party loudly and have a proper knees up until 4am or later? Ever? How often? As long as i am invited it isnt an issue
also i dont mind it over weekends but in the week would be a real pain!
So, just so I have some viewpoints about what people consider is reasonable - Imagine new neighbours move in next to you .. here are some questions about reasonableness with regards to noise ..
1) What time do you expect to barely hear the neighbours. For them really to start calming it down and at max 'talking quietly'..
a) During week? 11pm
b) During weekend?11pm
This is the official time music has to be turned down and seems reasonable to not annoy your neighbors!
2) What time do you basically expect silence - the fun should have stopped now its unreasonable for you to hear a squeak really ..
a) During week? Dont need silence but it would have to be pretty quiet after 11.
3) How often would you allow you neighbours a 'big blowout'. Really special occassion, they warn you in advance, 50 people hammered round their house, and you 'let them' party loudly and have a proper knees up until 4am or later? Ever? How often? As long as i am invited it isnt an issue
also i dont mind it over weekends but in the week would be a real pain!No.
No.
I know enough that those 2 are way too authoritarian and that goes against my principals. Unfortunately there is no UK party that represents my exact thoughts ( libdems come close but they are to progressive), but luckily, here, the party that represents exactly that what I think, won the elections. But in the UK the combo of Tories and libdems should, together, exactly represent my thoughts.
None of the state saying '' do this do that oh noes bad for the environment taxtaxtax ohnoes think of the children think of the poor immigrants or think of the poor not working'' but simply, work and you keep your money and do whatever you like with it and no BS rules like lasering on the motorways 24/7 or don't do drugs do not make noise ever get off the street ahhhhhhhh working on Sunday is bad god doesn't want it blablabla...
Secular, liberal and economic conservative (and capitalist ofc.), that is the way forward.
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Are you drunk or just talking crap
Those possibilities aren't mutually exclusive you know!
Are you drunk or just talking crap
I am atm
.But I don't understand why there isn't a conservative liberal party which is big in the UK at all. Nor in any other surrounding countries around here. Only Denmark comes close overall to how it is here.
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Those possibilities aren't mutually exclusive you know!
First I was like
then I was like then I was like
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But I don't understand why there isn't a conservative liberal party which is big in the UK at all. Not in any other surrounding countries around here. Only Denmark comes close overall to how it is here.
It all makes sense. Damn it I was right for once
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I got a bit annoyed because the neighbours with the kid
1) Obviously have no friends (I have never known them to invite anyone round their house they just sit every single night and watch tv)
2) Obviously never go out ever anywhere as they are amazingly dull
3) Obviously watch 'Holby city' together as the highlight of their social calender, and remember the storyline from the last 9 years of Corry ..
4) Never had a social life & never had any friends so don't even know what it's like.
5) Like getting all upperty about their rights, especially when we're next door having an AWESOME time with 25 people that are all a really good laugh. Maybe they think 'um - why is the most exciting thing we've ever done 'buy a new washing machine'?? These guys make me feel bad - er -- IT'S OUTRAGEOUS .. THE WHOLE NEIGHBOURHOOD SHOULD HAVE TO SIT IN SILENCE LIKE WE DO WHILST WE WATCH WHATEVER TAT IS ON TV EVERY NIGHT OF THE WEEK ..
It was about 35 minutes after an England game, and we're chatting loudly. I think because he has never had a life, as someone else said, he may be jealous or something of people having a good time. I bet he's been on about 3 'good nights' in his life, and on all of them by 9.35pm he's said 'Ooh I'm tired I'm off to bed' and been shocked and dismayed at people behaving remotely outrageously for fun ... :/
Living my life never making any sound (or as little as humanly possible) after 8pm just sounds like a really, really rubbish life. A waste, if you will. Just sounds like it would suck. like I'll reach 55 and realise I have watched 4 hours of TV a night and done almost nothing exciting actually for myself, in other words WATCHED life rather than LIVED life :/
Telling all my friends at 10pm at anything social -- 'Listen dudes it's been great but can you please all leave now ..', AT 10PM? That's the time your parties have to stop when you're 14 years old isn't it? Not when you're an adult .. 10PM is what you tell adolescent children isn't it?
Besides, when kids are tired they sleep through anything unless you've trained them to expect absolute silence, thats the fact of it.
1) Obviously have no friends (I have never known them to invite anyone round their house they just sit every single night and watch tv)
2) Obviously never go out ever anywhere as they are amazingly dull
3) Obviously watch 'Holby city' together as the highlight of their social calender, and remember the storyline from the last 9 years of Corry ..
4) Never had a social life & never had any friends so don't even know what it's like.
5) Like getting all upperty about their rights, especially when we're next door having an AWESOME time with 25 people that are all a really good laugh. Maybe they think 'um - why is the most exciting thing we've ever done 'buy a new washing machine'?? These guys make me feel bad - er -- IT'S OUTRAGEOUS .. THE WHOLE NEIGHBOURHOOD SHOULD HAVE TO SIT IN SILENCE LIKE WE DO WHILST WE WATCH WHATEVER TAT IS ON TV EVERY NIGHT OF THE WEEK ..
It was about 35 minutes after an England game, and we're chatting loudly. I think because he has never had a life, as someone else said, he may be jealous or something of people having a good time. I bet he's been on about 3 'good nights' in his life, and on all of them by 9.35pm he's said 'Ooh I'm tired I'm off to bed' and been shocked and dismayed at people behaving remotely outrageously for fun ... :/
Living my life never making any sound (or as little as humanly possible) after 8pm just sounds like a really, really rubbish life. A waste, if you will. Just sounds like it would suck. like I'll reach 55 and realise I have watched 4 hours of TV a night and done almost nothing exciting actually for myself, in other words WATCHED life rather than LIVED life :/
Telling all my friends at 10pm at anything social -- 'Listen dudes it's been great but can you please all leave now ..', AT 10PM? That's the time your parties have to stop when you're 14 years old isn't it? Not when you're an adult .. 10PM is what you tell adolescent children isn't it?
Besides, when kids are tired they sleep through anything unless you've trained them to expect absolute silence, thats the fact of it.
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1. Kids dont sleep through anything when they are tired or need sleep that is just crap. I can tell you that from experiance. If thats what you think no one here can help you.
2. Have you spoken or got to know your neighbour or just making random swiping statements on here say.
3. No one is telling you to live your life the way your neighbours want, just that you should respect them as they should respect you. (Didnt you already say they didnt complain until your second party)
4. Obviously and I bet are your choosen words but from what you have said it doesnt seem you know anything about them, other then guessing.
The best advice Ill give is that if you respect your neighbours and get to know them you shouldnt have these issues. I think every reasonable neighbour will be happy to let you have party every now and again. But just expecting you can do it all the time when you want is unfair. Advance warming is the key.
Lastly Man up and talk to them about it and see if they are reasonable before going nuts without having all the facts or understanding why they have issues.
Wow this reply was to long sorry for wasting your life if you didnt take any of this advice on board.
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We live in a block of flats and had two people (One directly above and one next to us) that where always loud.
Guy above was understanding and he slowly turned his music up and i told him when it was to loud and he kept it under that from then on.
Next door however didn't care and could hear *thud thud thud* from the music till all hours. So as soon as 11pm arrived the police got called every night and they told them all to go home, they soon got stopped when they came out every night and one night the police kicked the door in
There is no excuse to blast your music all hours so that everyone around you can here it too.
Oh nvm i see snowdog still lives with mummy and daddy. Maybe he will understand more when he gets his own place and has a family, or he will be a hardcore raver all his life innit
Guy above was understanding and he slowly turned his music up and i told him when it was to loud and he kept it under that from then on.
Next door however didn't care and could hear *thud thud thud* from the music till all hours. So as soon as 11pm arrived the police got called every night and they told them all to go home, they soon got stopped when they came out every night and one night the police kicked the door in
There is no excuse to blast your music all hours so that everyone around you can here it too.
Oh nvm i see snowdog still lives with mummy and daddy. Maybe he will understand more when he gets his own place and has a family, or he will be a hardcore raver all his life innit
Told you off and you felt guilt and shame, you weren't grown up enough to handle these feelings so you've turned the shame of your actions into anger at your neighbour.
You sound like all the guests on the Jeremy Kyle show.
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My can be load time is from 9am to 9pm. But a one off should be forgive, if it's constant then it should be complaining time.
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But I'm not dating my own sister who is a crack addict.
You sound like a middle aged man that moans about small things because he doesn't have any big things to moan about!
Luckily I am quite lenient, as are my 'rents. We live in a semi-detached next to a family of Irish, and there LOUD, so they REALLY dont mind if we throw parties every now-and-then (birthdays, Germany matches, England matches etc). As long as were not 'stupid' its cool. Dont really mind them, as we have double glazing and insulationy-stuff.