Mortgage is 50/50, it's in both our names sadly. I wouldn't have moved out if it was fully in mine!!
Thanks for the input guys. I feel like a proper took letting it get this far but I just wanted out. I was diagnosed with moderate depression the week before she broke up with me, i'd felt it for years but didn't know what was up with me so asked my ex and my mum for advice and went to get help. Having to deal with her was just the last thing I wanted and to top things off I found it all out on the day the family dog of 16 years died. I just had to get back to my parents and get the support I need. Sounds pathetic doesn't it?
Thankfully, bar this mortgage, life is better than ever. I've already moved on and I'm taking life by the horns. I best get my backside into gear, get on the phone and set the wheels in motion.
I'm prepared to move back in, she thinks I'm calling her bluff but I'm not prepared to be a passenger while she has a cosy little set up. My worries are her boyfriend who seems to have a very short fuse and the potential for her to disappear and stop paying her half into my account. Of course she can't do that but I doubt it would be easy getting anything out of her if she tried hard enough.
I'm not scared of her partner, I can take a hit for the sake of him being extracted legally, it would really make my day. I wouldn't go in there and start anything myself, I know the consequences of that and I need to be as clean cut as possible. My worry is I need someone with me at all times as if anything happens its two vs one. The upside is if I move back in they'll have nothing to sleep or sit on considering its my bed and my sofas.
Again, thanks for the input guys
It's sad to be dealing with this at 25 but it's all life experience I suppose. I have plenty of support from my family so it's not a struggle, in fact im better off and going on my 2nd ever abroad holiday next week. Really looking forward to it.
Thanks for the input guys. I feel like a proper took letting it get this far but I just wanted out. I was diagnosed with moderate depression the week before she broke up with me, i'd felt it for years but didn't know what was up with me so asked my ex and my mum for advice and went to get help. Having to deal with her was just the last thing I wanted and to top things off I found it all out on the day the family dog of 16 years died. I just had to get back to my parents and get the support I need. Sounds pathetic doesn't it?
Thankfully, bar this mortgage, life is better than ever. I've already moved on and I'm taking life by the horns. I best get my backside into gear, get on the phone and set the wheels in motion.
I'm prepared to move back in, she thinks I'm calling her bluff but I'm not prepared to be a passenger while she has a cosy little set up. My worries are her boyfriend who seems to have a very short fuse and the potential for her to disappear and stop paying her half into my account. Of course she can't do that but I doubt it would be easy getting anything out of her if she tried hard enough.
I'm not scared of her partner, I can take a hit for the sake of him being extracted legally, it would really make my day. I wouldn't go in there and start anything myself, I know the consequences of that and I need to be as clean cut as possible. My worry is I need someone with me at all times as if anything happens its two vs one. The upside is if I move back in they'll have nothing to sleep or sit on considering its my bed and my sofas.
Again, thanks for the input guys
It's sad to be dealing with this at 25 but it's all life experience I suppose. I have plenty of support from my family so it's not a struggle, in fact im better off and going on my 2nd ever abroad holiday next week. Really looking forward to it.
