A girl problem! Sorry!

If I'm honest, it sounds like your both in your late teens. If that is the case, I wouldn't even put the effort into worrying about it. IMO, real life doesn't begin until your late 20's. Everything before that is just fun/practice.
 
Duggan said:
First of all well done getting off the drugs. Secondly did your mate know how you felt about felt about her or did he just think you weren’t interested so made a move?

You could end up losing a mate and someone you want to be with as well. You have to ask yourself can you stay friends with her in the picture. If you turn around now and declare your undying love even if she gets back with you I would think your mate will no longer want to know you.

You strike me as the sort of bloke that always wants what he can’t have. I have a friend like that he seems to get women then breaks up with them for whatever reason and then as soon as they seem unreachable again he’s suddenly interested.

Just ask yourself if you still want to have a best mate or her. If you do end up saying something to her you could lose any chance with her and she could tell him resulting in the end of the relationship
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Ive already lost him as a mate, he knew how i felt about her! Bit of an idiot to be bonest! I dont think im the type of bloke that wants what he cant have...i just in a wierd place in my life. I didnt know what i was doing with myself!
 
Tripnologist said:
If I'm honest, it sounds like your both in your late teens. If that is the case, I wouldn't even put the effort into worrying about it. IMO, real life doesn't begin until your late 20's. Everything before that is just fun/practice.
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True but i think we had some strong feelings with each other. I want to spend my time with her. Ive never had a relationship and i want to experience one. She's never had one either...just a boyfriend in high school for 6 months.
 
Thermaltake said:
I know yeah...i do find it difficult letting people in tho!
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Same here but at some point you have to let someone in or else you will just end up being a loner.

Not easy but small steps at first is how i did it...im still pretty guarded especially when it comes to women but with my fiancee it just came naturally...im like an open book with her:p
 
If you want to experience a relationship my advice isn't to spend it with this girl, from what you've said she got mad over nothing and, let me get this straight, got annoyed you had a drug problem but still got with you to begin with?
Sounds like she wanted you to change but decided this after you two hooked up, like many people.
I don't think I'd have the patience or care for someone like this, you make it sound like she sleeps around a bit.

Edit: You sound like you hate yourself and don't like many things, I think you should start with realising you can do better than her.
 
Thermaltake said:
She's really not like that tho...she doesnt contact me if i dont contact her. I suppose you'll say that she cant really like us then. But her telling me she doesnt want to hurt herself again makes me think she isnt going to contact me.
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Yep, you bet I will say that. She doesnt contact you unless you contact her first? Certainly sounds to me that she isnt all that interested. When I fell for my wife I did everything I could to be with her/talk to her. As she did with me.

Step back from the situation, take yourself out of your shoes so that you arent looking at things from a biased perspective and tell me what you would say if I said my mate was chasing a girl but she never contacts him unless he does first. I'd wager you would be inclined to think that the girl isnt really into him.
 
Thermaltake said:
True but i think we had some strong feelings with each other. I want to spend my time with her. Ive never had a relationship and i want to experience one. She's never had one either...just a boyfriend in high school for 6 months.
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By all means then, tell her exactly how you feel. Lets look at the possible outcomes and the pros and cons of each.

1. You tell her how you feel and she reciprocates.
Pros: You'll have your relationship.
Cons: None.

2. You tell her and she doesn't reciprocate.
Pros: At least you know.
Cons: None. You're no worse off than you are now.

3. You don't tell her at all.
Pros: None
Cons: You'll never know.
 
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