A girl problem! Sorry!

Thermaltake said:
True but i think we had some strong feelings with each other. I want to spend my time with her. Ive never had a relationship and i want to experience one. She's never had one either...just a boyfriend in high school for 6 months.
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To be honest doesn't sound like she is that interested, especially as you have to make contact all the time, she never will. She doesn't particularly sound worth it to be quite honest, you'd be better off moving on with your life than trying to chase her, especially if she is with someone that is as crap as he sounds.
She may realise she's made a mistake after some time with him and contact you...not worth you going back to her though.

Move on, there are better more suitable people out there. It may take some time to find one, but it'll be worth it when you do. :)
 
Tombstone said:
Yep, you bet I will say that. She doesnt contact you unless you contact her first? Certainly sounds to me that she isnt all that interested. When I fell for my wife I did everything I could to be with her/talk to her. As she did with me.

Step back from the situation, take yourself out of your shoes so that you arent looking at things from a biased perspective and tell me what you would say if I said my mate was chasing a girl but she never contacts him unless he does first. I'd wager you would be inclined to think that the girl isnt really into him.
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True but she did do everything in her power to be with me, it was me that wasnt...it could be a case of wanting what you cant have but i dont im like that. Maybe i am tho!
 
Thermaltake said:
Ive already lost him as a mate, he knew how i felt about her! Bit of an idiot to be bonest! I dont think im the type of bloke that wants what he cant have...i just in a wierd place in my life. I didnt know what i was doing with myself!
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Well if he is no longer a mate you have nothing to loose in saying how you feel. She can only knock you back which could result in a bad way given your current state of mind.

I hate saying this but time is a real good healer. Just think what you have to do and is the worse outcome worth knowing if she still has feelings for you or likes you.

good luck
 
Thermaltake said:
True but she did do everything in her power to be with me, it was me that wasnt...it could be a case of wanting what you cant have but i dont im like that. Maybe i am tho!
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In what way did she do everything in her power to be with you?

She pulled a guy in front of you, then later went with your mate.
She doesnt contact you unless you contact her.
She wont say I love you etc, unless you say it first.

Perhaps I am not getting the whole picture, but that doesnt sound to me like its doing everything in their power to be with you. I suspect you are trying to convince yourself.
 
Thermaltake said:
You would think so...but she's only slept with me this whole year. Apart from a lad during our break up..she told me that it was a huge mistake tho and everyone makes them.
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Let me tell you something, mistake or no mistake what she has done is disgusting and demoralising. I just finished with my ex after a 10 year relationship and it's killing me to be honest but it happens. Maybe she just lacks a loving companion so she went to your m8 in which case keep a close eye on him, and tell her that you want to be with her and you forgive and understand what she has done but also tell her that it upset's you and if it happen's again your gone. Good Luck with it m8 I hope you work it out
 
Tripnologist said:
By all means then, tell her exactly how you feel. Lets look at the possible outcomes and the pros and cons of each.

1. You tell her how you feel and she reciprocates.
Pros: You'll have your relationship.
Cons: None.

2. You tell her and she doesn't reciprocate.
Pros: At least you know.
Cons: None. You're no worse off than you are now.

3. You don't tell her at all.
Pros: None
Cons: You'll never know.
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Yeah....we had a convosation last night on FB. I basically questioned her relationship with my mate...i asked if it had been going on a while and everything. She said of course not...she then drubbed me for sleeping with a girl whilst we were seeing each other. She said i couldnt have like her that much then! I told her that it was before we started seeing each other...which it was. I told her last night that i still wanted her in my life...she took ages to reply to that then said "Were better off as friends, do you not think? i said that no obviously. I can obviously be friends with her but i want to be more than that.
 
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well done for getting off the drugs! One thing that sticks in your post, "she's waiting for YOU to tell HER you love her" and this after a matter of months, pretty materialistic!

Get yourself in the toon and pull a few lasses man, live a bit and sow your oats, you'll soon find out if she's the one or not. Plenty of fish etc etc etc, there's a whole world of BLART oot there cramming for it man! a wise man once said ;-) They all love it up them man :P lol

good luck and live a bit, you're still young enough.
 
Duggan said:
Well if he is no longer a mate you have nothing to loose in saying how you feel. She can only knock you back which could result in a bad way given your current state of mind.

I hate saying this but time is a real good healer. Just think what you have to do and is the worse outcome worth knowing if she still has feelings for you or likes you.

good luck
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Dont be ridiculous mate! I'm not gonna do a Roaoul Moat! :D
 
Thermaltake said:
I can obviously be friends with her but i want to be more than that.
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No, no you can't.

Sounds horrible, but with the way you're feeling towards her you'll always be thinking 'what if' and 'something may happen' which will result in you missing out on better opportunities etc. and she'll constantly just burn you...been there, done that, it isn't nice. :(
 
If Lucy Pinder came home with you from a night out and opened her legs and said "bang me like no tomorrow" what would your reply be?
 
You seem unable to follow through. Fix that. I dont mean **** yourself.

I mean, You've been wanting to date her, chat with her, etc etc. But when you're alone in a room together you do **** all about it.

You need to as said already "Jump off the bridge" Not in a nasty way, but in a sense that you cant just sit their and expect this girl to stick around if you're not actually showing interest face to face!
 
Ha.... wonder where i can get my hands on a sawn off! Walk down Northumberland street this afternoon prehaps?
 
wannabedamned said:
You seem unable to follow through. Fix that. I dont mean **** yourself.

I mean, You've been wanting to date her, chat with her, etc etc. But when you're alone in a room together you do **** all about it.

You need to as said already "Jump off the bridge" Not in a nasty way, but in a sense that you cant just sit their and expect this girl to be interested if you're not actually showing interest face to face!
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Yeah i know mate...ridiculous! My parents have never shown any love to each other so ive found it difficult at times to show her how i feel about her.
 
Lee2k4 said:
If Lucy Pinder came home with you from a night out and opened her legs and said "bang me like no tomorrow" what would your reply be?
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Id sit down in front of her and have a look then discuss the finer points of astro physics with her:p:D
 
Tombstone said:
She'd probably think that Astro Physics was an east european footballer due to sign for Chelsea and would want to know if you had his number :)
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Probably but then id tell her that the number is between my meat and 2 veg and she would have to find it herself:p:D...in no time we would be having plenty of sexy time:p
 
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