do you consider married women out of bounds

Foxtrot26 said:
if i catch anyone messing with my beffer half i'll give them a ******* medal i'm married to her and cant get any so good luck to them
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i dont understand why people put up with that :S

cant be in a sexless marriage its the whole point of beeing married!

Not that I'm advocating it - but I hate the perception that somehow if the guy does nothing its all fine and dandy - if shes prepared to sleep with someone other than her husband does it make a difference if she does the act or not?
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ofcourse it does....
most wouldnt cheat if they knew they would get caught.

if you want sex with a married woman tell her you want to phone her husband and tell him first i bet you wont get any that let you
 
So because she's offering it's okay because she's the married one? Seriously..

Stop thinking about your own pleasure and give a thought for the kids that might be caught in between a divorce if things proceed, or the husband/wife on the other end of it. To those who say 'yes', would you want to be the reason for that? And how many of you who say yes come from broken homes?
 
twentyone said:
So because she's offering it's okay because she's the married one?
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Pretty much.

twentyone said:
Stop thinking about your own pleasure and give a thought for the kids that might be caught in between a divorce if things proceed, or the husband/wife on the other end of it. To those who say 'yes', would you want to be the reason for that? And how many of you who say yes come from broken homes?
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I wouldn't get involved with a married woman with kids. If the children were grown up (18+) and no longer lived at home then I might consider it but I doubt it.

I don't come from a broken home. My parents have been married for about 30 years, I think.
 
how would you know she had kids? she might lie and say she has non assuming you met her on a girly night out or whatever..

doubt i could even trust my wife on a night out anymore with how she keeps going on about men on the tv, good job were seperating.

sick of her watching something on the tv then phoning her friend "did you see XXX in spartacus omfg" etc..

my next partner will be one who doesnt like twilight aswell my wife tried to stick a twilight poster on the bedroom wall and i was like WTF? ripped it up and threw it in her face like she would if i was imature enough to stick a page 3 girl poster up
 
arknor said:
how would you know she had kids? she might lie and say she has non assuming you met her on a girly night out or whatever..

doubt i could even trust my wife on a night out anymore with how she keeps going on about men on the tv, good job were seperating.

sick of her watching something on the tv then phoning her friend "did you see XXX in spartacus omfg" etc..

my next partner will be one who doesnt like twilight aswell my wife tried to stick a twilight poster on the bedroom wall and i was like WTF? ripped it up and threw it in her face like she would if i was imature enough to stick a page 3 girl poster up
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why would you get jelous of guys on tv,thats so insecure
 
Dickyb0b said:
why would you get jelous of guys on tv,thats so insecure
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im not jealous i just find it ridiculous the way her and her friend go on about men all the time on the tv.

shes let her self go so much i doubt anyone else would be intrested! theres nothing to get jealous about and there hasnt been for along time.

our seperation is a huge weight lifted!
 
Magic_x_uk said:
If you knew 110% she was interested! as you had already spent time together.
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No.

If you also knew without question that you both get on amazingly well and feel like you have known each other years.
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No. You're 'new' and 'different' to hubby for just now. This'll change.

It could also be said that this person feels like your soulmate.
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Give over! Fine, you want to stick your penis in someone else's wife but don't dress it up in soulmate rubbish. Say it for what it is - you want to get laid.

Also, getting together with someone who is prepared to cheat on their other half doesn't bode particularly well for your future relationship. She's done it once so when do you become old news and she fancies a change?
 
Slime101 said:
No, she's married. Dont be an arse.
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This.

Also, you'd know that she can't be trusted. She breaks her word and she lies about it. You're talking about someone who swore an oath and broke it - no small thing. Her word is meaningless. Nothing is stopping her cheating on you.
 
jp_bl_68 said:
That's a bad analogy, imo. I'm not taking anything, it's being given to me. She's an adult capable of making her own decisions, for better or worse. She chose to get married and now she's choosing to throw it away.
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I think this is a better analogy:

A partner in a business decides to steal from it. They need someone to help them carry the stuff they nick from it. If you help them, knowing that they're stealing the stuff, are you also a thief? Or is it fine because they gave it to you?

Or, if you want it one step removed than that:

Someone you know nicks a lorryload of stuff from OcUK. They tell you this, show you the nicked stuff and offer to give you some of it because they like you. Here you go, mate, have an Ultima Viper and a 27" Dell Ultrasharp, freshly nicked from OcUK's warehouse. Would that be OK with you because "I'm not taking anything, it's being given to me."?
 
Don't both of those analogies make the assumption that the husband/business partner/OcUK are innocent victims? That's not always going to be the case with a married couple. The chances that the husband is in no way responsible for his wife's infidelity are slim.
 
jp_bl_68 said:
Don't both of those analogies make the assumption that the husband/business partner/OcUK are innocent victims? That's not always going to be the case with a married couple. The chances that the husband is in no way responsible for his wife's infidelity are slim.
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It still doesn't give you the right to interfere though does it?
 
jp_bl_68 said:
Don't both of those analogies make the assumption that the husband/business partner/OcUK are innocent victims? That's not always going to be the case with a married couple. The chances that the husband is in no way responsible for his wife's infidelity are slim.
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In the same way, you could argue that the businesses in those analogies are in some way responsible for the thefts - if they were completely secure then the thefts couldn't have occured.

People are responsible for their own choices. A husband is not responsible for his wife's choice to be unfaithful. A business is not responsible for a thief's choice to steal.
 
The wife has made a commitment to her husband of her own free will and she breaks it of her own free will. I've done nothing to actively break up the marriage, I've just let her know that I'm available and interested. If the marriage fails it's on her, and possibly the husband depending on what her reasons are for leaving him. Under those circumstances I really don't see how I'm responsible for breaking up the marriage.
 
jp_bl_68 said:
The wife has made a commitment to her husband of her own free will and she breaks it of her own free will. I've done nothing to actively break up the marriage, I've just let her know that I'm available and interested. If the marriage fails it's on her, and possibly the husband depending on what her reasons are for leaving him. Under those circumstances I really don't see how I'm responsible for breaking up the marriage.
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The thieves in the examples I gave stole stuff of their own free will. In the second example, you would have done nothing to actively help the theft.

So, I ask you again - would you consider it OK? If not, why not?
 
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