how self conscious would you say you are?

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a good friend of mine is one of the most outgoing people i know, on the face of it, he would appear to be one of the most confident people you could meet. the other day he told me that when he walks into a bar, he is, in reality very insecure about the whole situation and seems to think people are judging him, staring at him etc (he's not on drugs) this really surprised me due to who his character. i wouldn't say i am totally not conscious of social situations, but i am reasonably outgoing and have certainly never walked into a bar, party, any social gathering etc thinking people are staring at me
 
I'm not a complete social recluse and can handle walking into pubs/bars and am reasonably outgoing when I want to be, etc.

I can empathise with the way your friend feels though. Whenever I go into a new bar/pub/whatever for the first time I get a strange feeling for a bout 5-10 seconds, almost like I'm being watched/judged. I think it's relatively normal though because when you walk into a place people near the door often look at you.

The feeling soon goes though. To answer your OP, no more than any normal person I would guess?
 
I'm self conscious, but sort of cover it up with vanity. It's stupid, but if i think I look good, i'll be more outgoing and have more fun as a result. It's psychological really
 
I used to have social anxiety when i was 16.

Im now 20 and im a really confident person. Dont get me wrong, im not bigging my self up but im not self conscious at all.
 
MiNxYyY said:
I used to have social anxiety when i was 16.

Im now 20 and im a really confident person. Dont get me wrong, im not bigging my self up but im not self conscious at all.
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Same kind of thing here, not fully confident yet, but much moreso than 2-3 years ago.
 
When I walk into a bar I barely notice anyone, let alone caring that anyone is looking at me or judging me. Life is too good to care about the negative feelings of others.
 
I used to get it pretty bad. Ruined my life to a degree.

I grew out of it though. When **** REALLY hits the fan and you are possibly going to lose you job and have no home, social anxiety is the last thing on your mind. Plus i'm pretty arrogant and looking down on people really works wonders.

I'm at the point now i can say anything to anyone and not give a care in the world.
 
Never been remotely self conscious apart from obvious situations

(Example - start new job, the team invite you out for lunch. Obviously then I don't start with the sexist/disgusting jokes that I find funny, even though technically I'm 'outta work'. So then I'm self conscious)
 
I sort of force myself to be confident in social situations - But I also feel like I am being stared at when I walk into a bar - I know I'm not but I feel very pressured to move to the bar and out of peoples way very quickly :p
 
cm1179 said:
a good friend of mine is one of the most outgoing people i know, on the face of it, he would appear to be one of the most confident people you could meet. the other day he told me that when he walks into a bar, he is, in reality very insecure about the whole situation and seems to think people are judging him, staring at him etc (he's not on drugs) this really surprised me due to who his character. i wouldn't say i am totally not conscious of social situations, but i am reasonably outgoing and have certainly never walked into a bar, party, any social gathering etc thinking people are staring at me
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i feel like it nearly all the time but i have aspergers so i guess its common for people like me
 
Pretty much. Often its when ive woken up after an enormous Bender and my transgressions start filtering back and I think to myself "Oh Gawd" and "RedDanDoc your such a pig at times..! ".
 
Two years ago I was 10 stone heavier than I am now. Despite losing the weight I still feel very self conscious, I'll use a toilet cubicle to change my shirt in the gym for example, and sometimes I still get this nagging sense that I'm being judged as the fattest person in the room as usually used to be the case.

Hopefully my self esteem will improve in time, but having grown up fat I've always been shy and self-conscious, thus I fear that maybe I never will be comfortable and happy in myself.
 
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Andy said:
i'm pretty arrogant and looking down on people really works wonders.

I'm at the point now i can say anything to anyone and not give a care in the world.
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You remind me of somebody I used to work with. he was an arrogant **** and always though he was better than every1 else.

If he had an opinion he wouldnt care about saying it and wouldnt take critisism on anything he said because what he said was always correct!.....


OP: Dont think I ever feel self conscious as such but probably same as most I do feel uncomfortable in certain situations.

i.e. pooing knowing other people can hear your plops. :( gets me everytime :(

Dan Dan
 
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