Meeting girls and Chat up lines..........
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A six pack is harder to show off than a good rack though, unless you are "the situation".
Not to mention its about the face more than anything, a good body will get you nowhere if you are not rich or good looking.
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Maybe not, but it sure seems like it when I go out, either alone or with friends.
This.
Was in a hugely popular restaurant for foreigners in Phuket the other night and a table across from me was easily one of the Top 10 woman I ever ever seen. Let her "catch" me looking at her a couple of times then went for the kill, looked at her and when she looked at me I did not look away, was a good 5 seconds of solid eye contact and had her smiling before I looked away.
Shame she was with someone else because I would have so been taking it to the chatting stage!
I believe you just have to be genuine and yourself. There is either something there or there is not, does not take a pickup line to surface it.
pec's and arms more than anything tbh. Six pack is more of a beach showoff item or a cheeky shirt lift, but don't overdo any bulking up, especially on the torso, otherwise you just end up looking fat, a la Ronnie in jersey shore, plus -most- girls find bodies like that disgusting.
Get a decent haircut, dress well but appropriately, look after your skin and stay well washed. Excercise will help but short of plastic surgery that's all you can do to compensate for your personality. If you need to ask on an internet forum clearly you have a sense of inferiority regarding your personality or sex appeal (NOTE, that did not read you have an inferior personality or are unattractive). Just get chatting, there will be chemistry if there is, if not, you probably won't see her again so no biggie.
I tend to find it's easier to be natural around a girl when you're alone with her (not dark alley, like in a park), otherwise the temptation is too strong to avoid awkward moments by just talking to people either one of you are familiar with.
I am 15 though so I'm just going off my limited experience
pec's and arms more than anything tbh. Six pack is more of a beach showoff item or a cheeky shirt lift, but don't overdo any bulking up, especially on the torso, otherwise you just end up looking fat, a la Ronnie in jersey shore, plus -most- girls find bodies like that disgusting.
Get a decent haircut, dress well but appropriately, look after your skin and stay well washed. Excercise will help but short of plastic surgery that's all you can do to compensate for your personality. If you need to ask on an internet forum clearly you have a sense of inferiority regarding your personality or sex appeal (NOTE, that did not read you have an inferior personality or are unattractive). Just get chatting, there will be chemistry if there is, if not, you probably won't see her again so no biggie.
I tend to find it's easier to be natural around a girl when you're alone with her (not dark alley, like in a park), otherwise the temptation is too strong to avoid awkward moments by just talking to people either one of you are familiar with.
I am 15 though so I'm just going off my limited experience
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hahaha, over half a decade younger than me and you have a better grip on things.
Don't worry, as he gets older he will realise that the girls just find him boring and are copping off with the dodgy wannabe gangbangers with questionable hygiene and that most important attractor of the opposite sex....A Car.
Don't worry, as he gets older he will realise that the girls just find him boring and are copping off with the dodgy wannabe gangbangers with questionable hygiene and that most important attractor of the opposite sex....A Car.
haha I guess that's true, but the only thing I can do to change that is to change who i am and become the one night stand guy or some generic tough guy, and I'm neither of those so I'll stick to being the nice guy, I'm not in it to try and get with as many girls as possible, I'm enough of a girl (views and interests, all my mates put it down to me being in the closet) to be perfectly fine being close friends with girls, as a result I'm stand-in gay best friend for a girl I know right now, until she finds someone who's actually gay
haha I guess that's true, but the only thing I can do to change that is to change who i am and become the one night stand guy or some generic tough guy, and I'm neither of those so I'll stick to being the nice guy, I'm not in it to try and get with as many girls as possible, I'm enough of a girl (views and interests, all my mates put it down to me being in the closet) to be perfectly fine being close friends with girls, as a result I'm stand-in gay best friend for a girl I know right now, until she finds someone who's actually gay
Don't worry, you got plenty of time.
just remember, Why love one, When you can love them all....
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pec's and arms more than anything tbh. Six pack is more of a beach showoff item or a cheeky shirt lift, but don't overdo any bulking up, especially on the torso, otherwise you just end up looking fat, a la Ronnie in jersey shore, plus -most- girls find bodies like that disgusting.
Get a decent haircut, dress well but appropriately, look after your skin and stay well washed. Excercise will help but short of plastic surgery that's all you can do to compensate for your personality. If you need to ask on an internet forum clearly you have a sense of inferiority regarding your personality or sex appeal (NOTE, that did not read you have an inferior personality or are unattractive). Just get chatting, there will be chemistry if there is, if not, you probably won't see her again so no biggie.
I tend to find it's easier to be natural around a girl when you're alone with her (not dark alley, like in a park), otherwise the temptation is too strong to avoid awkward moments by just talking to people either one of you are familiar with.
I am 15 though so I'm just going off my limited experience
Good attitude for someone as young as you.
However, "pecs and arms" don't necessarily do it for everyone, remember there's variation in life, some women life big strong men, others like slim types, some like nerdy types, etc... So you really can't generalise. However I understand what you're trying to imply, i.e. appealing the the more superficial side of things - which I must admit, does count and does work for initial "interest", combined with not being too ugly, and having a reasonable amount of wit about you - whilst this sounds arrogant, it's done me no disservice
However I agree with everyone of your later points. Be yourself. You're not going to get every girl swooning after you. However, some will like you others won't. Striking up a conversation is easy, it's just initial contact that some people have some trepidation over.
Monopolise the situation if one presents itself, don't try too hard, and take a hint.
Meeting people for a bit of fun is easy, meeting a person you're interested in for something more serious happens more often than not by coincidence or accident.
Good attitude for someone as young as you.
However, "pecs and arms" don't necessarily do it for everyone, remember there's variation in life, some women life big strong men, others like slim types, some like nerdy types, etc... So you really can't generalise. However I understand what you're trying to imply, i.e. appealing the the more superficial side of things - which I must admit, does count and does work for initial "interest", combined with not being too ugly, and having a reasonable amount of wit about you - whilst this sounds arrogant, it's done me no disservice
However I agree with everyone of your later points. Be yourself. You're not going to get every girl swooning after you. However, some will like you others won't. Striking up a conversation is easy, it's just initial contact that some people have some trepidation over.
Monopolise the situation if one presents itself, don't try too hard, and take a hint.
Meeting people for a bit of fun is easy, meeting a person you're interested in for something more serious happens more often than not by coincidence or accident.
As the guy in the film said: "dude teach me"
Seriously though, feel free to pop some hints through Trust. Got some things going on, but a lack of education in this department has me lagging....
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Don't worry, you got plenty of time.
just remember, Why love one, When you can love them all....
Plenty of love to go round is a good way to go
+1 on the Arf.
How is it a status symbol of wealth, etc when every Tom, Dick, Harry and Nooby has one?
"Hi, I have an iPhone, suck me now pls?"
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I don't know if it's something you can "teach" ? Happy to share some thoughts and advice - drop me a mail if you want.
Good attitude for someone as young as you.
However, "pecs and arms" don't necessarily do it for everyone, remember there's variation in life, some women life big strong men, others like slim types, some like nerdy types, etc... So you really can't generalise. However I understand what you're trying to imply, i.e. appealing the the more superficial side of things - which I must admit, does count and does work for initial "interest", combined with not being too ugly, and having a reasonable amount of wit about you - whilst this sounds arrogant, it's done me no disservice
However I agree with everyone of your later points. Be yourself. You're not going to get every girl swooning after you. However, some will like you others won't. Striking up a conversation is easy, it's just initial contact that some people have some trepidation over.
Monopolise the situation if one presents itself, don't try too hard, and take a hint.
Meeting people for a bit of fun is easy, meeting a person you're interested in for something more serious happens more often than not by coincidence or accident.
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What I meant by pec's and arms was that there the only muscles that make a visible difference when dressed, depending on what you're wearing, not that they lead to every girl in the room falling over you
There will of course aways be girls who like different things, just as there are guys who like different things, but I would say having a little bit of muscle is what to go for if you're aiming for anything, no point aiming to please a minority and go for the weedy look If nothing else, most clothes aren't designed to fit the weedy body.To be honest until the past half year or so I was pathetic around girls, at least I thought I was. I'm at an all boys school until 17 so I hadn't been thrust out of my comfort zone, but when I was (long story) I realised what an idiot I'd been. On a level I'd always known it would be perfectly easy, but I think on a subconscious level I'd never fully acknowledged that until it happened, so I'd always be overthinking everything and getting stressed out, ultimately wimping out.
At the end of the day, best case scenario, you meet someone you really like, start going out etc. or become really good friends worst case scenario, you don't get on amazingly well and don't talk again, i.e. the same situation as prior to meeting them. Just go for it OP
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I went to an all boys school, didn't seem to have a negative effect on meeting girls, but I was a late bloomer anyway as I was more interested in spending time with mates, sports and travel. Made up for it though!
I guess I've spent so long in the gym that it's natural for me to see people with relatively well developed arms/chest/shoulders etc... so for me it's not something that's "specific".
Becoming friends can be a good conduit for more development, but not always. It really does depend. There are simply no hard and fast rules - but the more you put yourself out of your comfort zone the easier it becomes.
For example, some people struggle giving presentations in front of a group of people - I find it particularly easy and rather enjoyable. However, when I started, my heart would feel like it's about to explode. Now it's just part of the process and not hard work.
Chatting to a girl used to be a little bit "oh ****" but now, it's just like chatting to any one really.
If you try and share a bit of banter with every girl you have contact with on a day to day basis, it soon becomes second nature flirting and being charming around people, to such an extent that you don't realise you're doing it.
One of my friends is so natural and relaxed around girls that you can almost visibly see them swooning around him (it does help that he's rather handsome - the git), but he doesn't even realise the effect he has because for him it's not something he's asctively doing, he's just being himself. That is perceived as confidence, and confidence really does open doors. If you're comfortable with yourself, you display confidence, and that in turn makes you feel more comfortable subconsciously and in turn perpetuates that cycle.
It's good to address it in small chunks at a time. Strike up a conversation with a check out girl in the supermarket, or the girl at the newsagent, coffee house etc... Share a couple of niceities. Soon, it'll become natural.
Now Londoners will know how extraordinary this is, but you can even strike up conversations on trains/tube given the right situation! I know! In London!
I guess I've spent so long in the gym that it's natural for me to see people with relatively well developed arms/chest/shoulders etc... so for me it's not something that's "specific".
Becoming friends can be a good conduit for more development, but not always. It really does depend. There are simply no hard and fast rules - but the more you put yourself out of your comfort zone the easier it becomes.
For example, some people struggle giving presentations in front of a group of people - I find it particularly easy and rather enjoyable. However, when I started, my heart would feel like it's about to explode. Now it's just part of the process and not hard work.
Chatting to a girl used to be a little bit "oh ****" but now, it's just like chatting to any one really.
If you try and share a bit of banter with every girl you have contact with on a day to day basis, it soon becomes second nature flirting and being charming around people, to such an extent that you don't realise you're doing it.
One of my friends is so natural and relaxed around girls that you can almost visibly see them swooning around him (it does help that he's rather handsome - the git), but he doesn't even realise the effect he has because for him it's not something he's asctively doing, he's just being himself. That is perceived as confidence, and confidence really does open doors. If you're comfortable with yourself, you display confidence, and that in turn makes you feel more comfortable subconsciously and in turn perpetuates that cycle.
It's good to address it in small chunks at a time. Strike up a conversation with a check out girl in the supermarket, or the girl at the newsagent, coffee house etc... Share a couple of niceities. Soon, it'll become natural.
Now Londoners will know how extraordinary this is, but you can even strike up conversations on trains/tube given the right situation! I know! In London!
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Indeed. Simple things, like, when I was on holiday a few years ago, a pretty blonde girl (not normally my type) sat on the sun lounger next to me (we had seen one another a few times that week), I went to buy a drink and asked her if I can borrow her table for putting my drink on it, she replied with a smooth Russian accent "It's not my table, but you can buy me a drink if you're going to use it...", and that was that. A summer of joy it was!
Russian women are hot. They all seem to be blonde and slim i found. I got lucky with a stunner once in bulgaria. She spoke good english too surprisingly.
I broke the ice by singing 'Sweet Home Alabama' on the karaoke with her.
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lolwut? Is all I have to say
It probably doesn't help that when we approach people for laughs they tend to be 50-something bankers who think we're going to mug them, then we ask for a hug
