Do blokes tend to upgrade and women tend to downgrade?

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I worked on factories for 33 years so saw lots of marriage breakups and of course I've seen a lot of breakups outside of the factory but one thing always remains constant -
That when the man does the breaking up they tend to go for somebody more attractive and when women do the breaking up they tend to go down a few rungs.
Of course this isn't 100% but out of the 100s of breakups I can't ever remember a time when I said "Why has he left his wife for that?".
Over the last month I've seen the new men of 3 women who broke up from my mates and one looked like a complete dork, one had a mohawk and various rings through his face and the other looked like Keith from The Office (of course they may all be really nice blokes with a great personality).

So is this a pattern that you've seen or do you think I'm talking out of my bottom?
 
First thought that popped into my head "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"
They might seem like a step down to you, but to them they may be perfect.

Otherwise, maybe after a break up, men can generally handle better emotionally, but women can't get back in to the game properly?
 
Women (especially young-ish women) want stability (ie money). Men tend to be more shallow, preferring looks. Women place more emphasis on personality.

This sums up to:
-Older men want younger women, (some) younger women want older men.
-Older women want men their own age (more mature), think looks are less important, and often believe that they were not good enough for the man they had.

Yes they are sweeping generalisations, but they are true in more cases than not.
 
Women never downgrade EVER....

Starts out like so:
young girl will date anyone.
Young women dates boy with car, gets dumped will only date boys with car
Young women dates boy with a car and his own flat, Girl will now only date man with car and flat.
Young women dates boy with posh car and flat and good job, women will now only date men with posh car and good job and flat.
women dates man with posh car posh flat and very good job etc etc


Mans dating
young boy will get with any girl
young Man will try with any women
etc etc
 
I thought this thread was more about men becoming more independent and self-sufficient as they grow up i.e. get a good job, get promoted, move up the career ladder etc whereas women may get a degree and a job, but then move 'down' to being a housewife and relying on the man's income. I guess I'm wrong though :p

I haven't really experienced many break-ups, because I'm still young, so can't really comment on the actual subject matter!
 
chumpit said:
Women never downgrade EVER....

Starts out like so:
young girl will date anyone.
Young women dates boy with car, gets dumped will only date boys with car
Young women dates boy with a car and his own flat, Girl will now only date man with car and flat.
Young women dates boy with posh car and flat and good job, women will now only date men with posh car and good job and flat.
women dates man with posh car posh flat and very good job etc etc
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Chris Rock? :)
 
It's true thou. It's not really as much as their gold diggers, it's just women want stability, protection and they want to know that you can take care of them and their children (even if they have none), what does that better then anything else?

Money
 
it depends what you say as "downgrade"


whats the point of being with a looker if shes going to stab you in the back all the time ?
 
I find a lot of women who have been "burned" in the past, tend to go for less attractive, who know they are with a more attractive partner.

It makes them feel more secure as they think the men are less likley to stray.

Also the less attractive men, tend to have big cocky personalities :confused:.
 
As women get older the number of hot ones gets fewer where as men stay "good looking" for longer and also generally get wealthier.

Some women age really badly. Looking at facebook pictures of girls in my year some of them were stunners but now look 10 years older than me. Narrow escape!

so I reckon when it goes wrong the man is usually in a better position to go and get some younger totty.
 
I know a few people, who have left their wife’s for something really ruff. Especially the person I knew who left his lovely blonde wife for someone who was a skinny teenage chav, 15 years younger than him and also he was the same age as her own dad. Its situations like that which always come back to bit you in the bum later on in life, no matter how happy you are with the person at that time.
I have a few female friends who moan about men and want a man who’s rich, I always say “Get off your lazy arse and learn how to become rich yourself and stop relaying on men to get money for you so you can spend it on crap”
 
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