My wife just told me she likes somone else

moremoney said:
We have had a row,,, should i belive her, or is she just getting at me.

If she means it how do i find out who it is ?
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What difference does it make who it is? If she likes someone else then you have a decision to make. If she is prepared to stop seeing this other person, and if you feel you can ever trust her again then you need to decide whether you feel your relationship is worth another shot. If not, for your own sanity and self-respect, then walk away.
 
MrLOL said:
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Dude if your solution to your marriage problems is to post on OcUK.....

well ...

Best not say anymore.
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Behave. There's nothing wrong with soliciting the views of others on the Internet. People do it on here day in, day out, and on subjects far more inane than this.

He doesn't have to act on anything he reads, but if it gives him a fresh perspective then it's well worth doing IMHO.
 
The Mad Rapper said:
Behave. There's nothing wrong with soliciting the views of others on the Internet. People do it on here day in, day out, and on subjects far more inane than this.

He doesn't have to act on anything he reads, but if it gives him a fresh perspective then it's well worth doing IMHO.
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Why is he valuing the opinions of random people on the internet more than his wife !

His marriage is doomed to failure if the first time they have a big row his solution is not to talk it out with his wife, but instead ask the internet !
 
MrLOL said:
Why is he valuing the opinions of random people on the internet more than his wife !

His marriage is doomed to failure if the first time they have a big row his solution is not to talk it out with his wife, but instead ask the internet !
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He hasn't said he has placed more value on the opinions of his wife than ours has he?

Regardless, given she's the cause of his problems, he needs a separate view any way.
 
The Mad Rapper said:
The childish responses in this thread, by people who should really know better, are starting to irritate me.

You say nothing when some who is < 30 years old posts a GF thread, I really don't see what the issue is.

Is this forum ageist now?
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Calm down, grandad.
 
The Mad Rapper said:
He hasn't said he has placed more value on the opinions of his wife than ours has he?

Regardless, given she's the cause of his problems, he needs a separate view any way.
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by asking the internet first and not her, hes doing exactly that !!

And of course he doesnt need a separate view. How are we more qualified to tell him why she says she likes another man than HER ??

Jesus man, if you need a 2nd oppinion, get it from her friends, or friends of you both, not some random people on the internet who cant offer any meaningfull advice.
 
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MrLOL said:
by asking the internet first and not her, hes doing exactly that !!

And of course he doesnt need a separate view. How are we more qualified to tell him why she says she likes another man than HER ??

Jesus man, if you need a 2nd oppinion, get it from her friends, or friends of you both, not some random people on the internet who cant offer any meaningfull advice.
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Eh? The forum members are just as qualified as anyone else to offer advice in general terms. Even more so, as I am sure many of us have been through this before. The fact we do not know the specifics of their relationship only means that there is a limit to the advice that can be given, but in broader terms the issue is universal.

Who cares why she likes someone else more than him? It's irrelevant. That fact is that she does and that's the only issue he should focus on. Why should he even ask her? So she can be nasty and make him feel insecure for the rest of his life? **** that! Don't give her the satisfaction.

He does need a separate view. He cannot trust her, therefore he cannot trust anything she says. He is also too close to the issue to consider it rationally, which is precisely the value of speaking with us.
 
The Mad Rapper said:
The childish responses in this thread, by people who should really know better, are starting to irritate me.

You say nothing when some who is < 30 years old posts a GF thread, I really don't see what the issue is.

Is this forum ageist now?
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I think the majority just no longer feel like offering sensible advice because last year the threads he made he completely ignored everyones USEFUL and SENSIBLE advice and just ended up arguing with everyone calling them rude for offering suggestions on how to sort out his problems in his private life.

It was a lose:lose situation whatever anyone posted in his daughters thread. There was some VERY good advice offered.
 
The Mad Rapper said:
He does need a separate view. He cannot trust her, therefore he cannot trust anything she says. He is also too close to the issue to consider it rationally, which is precisely the value of speaking with us.
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Of course he can trust her.

She's his wife for petes sake. Are you in a long term relationship ? you have some very weird views?

She is obviously saying that for one of a couple of different reasons. It could be because:

1) she feels she needs to hurt him, and has said this to provoke a reaction to see if he hurts as much as she does, or plainly just to spite him. There is no other man at all.
2) she's leaving him, she's found another man who is treating her like a man in the honeymoon period does. All chocolates, flowers and romance. This is her way of bringing up she wants to leave him for this new man.
3) its only partially true, she feels like she wants to leave him for another man because she feels she's not getting what she wants out of the romance and this is a cry for help.

Only she can tell you which of the three it is. He needs to talk to her about what she's feeling and what she wants. Not ask OcUK to tell him to do her sister.
 
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MrLOL said:
Of course he can trust her.

She's his wife for petes sake. Are you in a long term relationship ? you have some very weird views?

She obviously saying that for one of a couple of different reasons. It could be because:

1) she feels she needs to hurt him, and has said this to provoke a reaction to see if he hurts as much as she does, or plainly just to spite him.
2) its entirely true, she's found another man who is treating her like a man in the honeymoon period does. All chocolates, flowers and romance.
3) its only partially true, she feels like she wants another man because she feels she's not getting what she wants out of the romance and this is a cry for help.

Only she can tell you which of the three it is. He needs to talk to her about what she's feeling and what she wants. Not ask OcUK to tell him to do her sister.
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You know, I could have jumped on the band wagon here and flamed the OP (It wouldn't be hard to) but after reading the Mad Rappers comments I think people are trying to jump on him for not doing the same.

In an earlier comment in this thread you said you could not help OP. Yet here I am quoting a post where you assume it must be one of 3 points. Wouldn't it be easier to say this in the first place?

While the OP may be weird/strange or need help to some, just trolling the thread rambling on about it rather than posting on topic doesn't help eaither.
 
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