Straw poll: mid-twenties- time to settle down?

SiD the Turtle

SiD the Turtle

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Hi chaps, a question for you all.

I'm 26, and all around me friends and acquaintances are splitting into two groups of people, those who want to settle down and start having kids, and those who want to carry on enjoying life (don't mean to be biased against having kids, couldn't think of a better phrase) and have no plans to be settling down and popping out mini versions of themselves.

Conversely if I look at my parents and other people of my parents' age, most were already married and having kids at my age.

Is your mid-twenties time to be settling down?
 
20`s you should have had years ago.

Most kids are older than there dad`s now a days :P (Don't Be a Menace to South Central While Drinking Your Juice in the Hood)

Nah on a serious note I don't see any rush at your age tbh.
 
You'll know when you are ready.

If you got to ask you are not ready. In my experience it all just happens anyway, don't try to hard or you'll simply make bad decisions.

The right Girl will come along and it will feel right and voila, you've settled down.
 
I find the same (I'm 27) and my parents were married and had their own place in their early-mid twenties.

I'm perfectly happy how I am for the next couple of years, so if you are as well then just enjoy it :)
 
Surely the right time to 'settle down' is when you meet the one person you want to spend the rest of your life with? That might happen when you are 25 or it might not happen until you are 45.

EDIT: If you are talking specifically about having kids, the same sort of thing applies. When you meet the right person you are ideally going to want time together before having children (if at all). The younger you are the more luxury you will have in the choice for how long you are going to wait :)
 
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SiD the Turtle said:
Conversely if I look at my parents and other people of my parents' age, most were already married and having kids at my age.
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Different attitudes towards sex might account for that. Twenty/thirty years ago there was still some pressure to be married or at least be in a serious relationship before having sex. Settling down in your twenties probably didn't seem so daunting under those circumstances.

Also, we're more concerned with remaining young than ever before.


Is your mid-twenties time to be settling down?
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For me, definitely. In fact I'd say it's probably too young for a lot of people. You'll get to 50, be working your arse off to pay for uni and mortgages, wishing you'd done more when you were free.
 
i'm the same age OP, living with the gf at the moment but have absolutely no intention of having kids anytime soon!

as has been said, as and when the right person/time comes, it's your life to live as you want :)
 
* Warning - incoming generalisations that do, however, hold some truth *

Most people in their early to mid 20's don't know what they want, who they are or how they see their life working out. This isn't knocking them at all, it's just a reflection on how most people develop. Occassionally you'll meet people of this age who are together, married, maybe have kids, and they're delightfully happy but it's rare.

I know exactly one couple who did the whole childhood sweethearts thing and they're really happy together and have two kids. Most of my friends are married but they did the same as me in that they got married in their early 30's. Sometimes this is just circumstance - you can't dictate when you're going to meet 'the one' - but often it's through choice and an understanding of when they feel they're ready.

Ok, final generalistion : your 20's are for messing about, finding out who you are, where you want to be, and growing up to the next phase of being a bit more responsible, a bit more 'together' and a bit more comfortable with who you are and what you want in a partner.

I'll now wait for the hundreds of posters who are happily married with 2 perfect children and are 22 years old :)
 
I'm 27, I've got my own place and a girlfriend but I'm no where near the point of her moving in with me and settling down with kids.. I can only just about look after myself, plus I like spending too much money on toys..
 
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Don't be crazy. Do whatever you want to do!
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Addendum: don't do whatever she wants you to do. Do what you both want with no hint of doubt. If you're concerned and feel it's not the right time to get married/have kids/settle down for life - don't do it. If it's not right for you it's a path to ruin.
 
I havent had a proper relationship since I was 18. I'm now 23.

I don't want commitment until I am in my 30s.

However you never know what happens.

I want the 20s to be my years as selfish as that sounds
 
Im 23.9 and have a 2 bedroom apartment which i bought when i was 21, and have lived with my girlfriend for the past 2 years. I feel "settled" but i dont want kids yet as i feel im still too young to be a dad. Getting a puppy though at the start of october so thats kinda like a child right? :p

I can see me with a kid or two before im 30 though, mainly because i dont know how long ill be able to take my girlfriends subtle "PUT A BABY IN ME" hints...
 
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