[TW]Fox;17169387 said:
Aye, fair enough she might be sick of his whinging but there are ways and means to solving problems... whipping your knickers off whilst in another relationship at the time is definitely not one of them.
Pretty sure GF is cheating on me.
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Aye, fair enough she might be sick of his whinging but there are ways and means to solving problems... whipping your knickers off whilst in another relationship at the time is definitely not one of them.
I agree with you.. And regards to Fox's comment, I don't see how he can comment saying something like that. He knows nothing about the relationship that we had and he cannot base that on one silly mistake on my half which I admitted to and I knew I was wrong. So please Fox, don't judge me on that alone, because I treated my girlfriend with upmost respect and I have been with her for 1 year 3 months as my first relationship and I am not the one who want's to go swanning off with someone else.. sure, I am curious about what it may be like to be in a relationship with someone else.. as would anyone who is in their first relationship but the fact of the matter is that I loved this girl, and I would never in a million years have done anything like that. So yeah, you can say what you like about why we're not together any more.. but until you know what the relationship was really like, please don't form judgements on me as a person..
If I recall correctly, you read his message to her. So you should know what he wrote.
Maybe she's trying to create doubt in your mind. Doubt snowballs. If you're not sure what he wrote, well, maybe you'll become unsure about everything else. In that context, it doesn't matter that there's hardly any difference between "Are we seeing each other? xx" and "Are we together? xx" in this context. The key thing is the establishment of doubt.
Maybe she was preparing to jump to him and is now flailing because you've moved away.
Maybe she was after him as a bit on the side while staying with you.
Maybe she wasn't actually going to go with him, but was feeding her ego by knowing that she could do.
Maybe she was toying with the idea in her head and now she's freaked out by reality intruding on her fantasies.
Maybe she's enough of a fool for her babble about friends, working with him and not holding a grudge to be true. But that's one hell of an implausible stretch. That's so much of a stretch that it's into magick territory. "I dunno babe, although Adam is a **** I dont wanna rub it in his face. Lets take it slow and see how it goes. xx" is not something anyone says to a friend except in the context of a lover also being a friend.
One of these.
worthy and puke-tastic at the same time
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...whether in the cemetery or not.
She came round this morning crying her eyes out.. said she had been to the cemetery before coming to mine to see my mum, said she talked to her about trying to make me see that I was taking it the wrong way and that she meant 'take it slow and see how things go' as a friendship to the other guy as she has to work with him and doesn't like holding grudges. I genuinely felt really bad.. but I guess that's just because I hate to see people upset. She showed me a photo album that I made her for valentines with all our special pictures with tears in here eyes telling me of all the good times we had.
Man she knows how to get at my emotions
Regardless, I told her I never want to see her again or hear of her and told her to go. Which she did.. crying.
she should have been thinking about you and not about what the other guys pocket rocket is like if she doesn't already know before hand.
'take it slow and see how things go' - what a load of BS.
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Everyone at school and university did it, and the habit has continued.
Poor grammar also annoys me...you missed an 'as' in there somewhere.
Some people thrive on drama and like their lives to play out like a soap. I suspect this girl is one of them. Personally I wouldn't bother with 'serious' relationships for sometime to come. Use your teens and 20s for fun and if something more solid comes along fine, but lying drama queens, facebook espionage and 'loving with all your heart' may as well be avoided.
This ^^. The only "love" I ever said to gf's when I was younger was "I love your rack". Next the biatch and move on or you'll end up getting one-itis (as in, she's "the one"). Best cure for one woman is another my friend.
I haven't read the whole of your other thread and not contributed to this one, but at least well done for standing your ground. Best of luck.
HA
Best suggestion in the thread so far
Im serious, shes not worth all the trouble mate
Besides she drives an MG-ZR, you should have outted her a long time ago.
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Might be worth having a look at any subsequent Facebook messages, just to see if the crying games was all a rouse.
...then post them here
...then post them here
Has to be done! If not epic fail...
On a more serious note... keep yourself occupied with things don’t mope about, from what I’ve read of the thread you have made the right choice... and I really don’t think you will regret your actions, Prob’s best without count it as a lucky escape,
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Well driving an MG ZR is a good enough reason to dump her !
When people work together for 8+ hours a day you do get to know them better, and some times better than the partner at home.
It seems she has lost her way and been having a relationship at work with one else. Well when that ends she will have to deal with the fall out at work.
So dump her and let every one know what, so she will feel very cheap.
And move on, as this is your 1st relationship I take ! ?
If so, you have a lot of life ahead of you !
When people work together for 8+ hours a day you do get to know them better, and some times better than the partner at home.
It seems she has lost her way and been having a relationship at work with one else. Well when that ends she will have to deal with the fall out at work.
So dump her and let every one know what, so she will feel very cheap.
And move on, as this is your 1st relationship I take ! ?
If so, you have a lot of life ahead of you !
Man she knows how to get at my emotions
Regardless, I told her I never want to see her again or hear of her and told her to go. Which she did.. crying.
Women are like that sometimes.
Really, good job sticking to your decision. Hopfully you can move on soon.
One thing that I forgot to mention that was quite important (sorry, my head is really messed at the moment)..
The guy.. sent me messages straight after he apologised for telling my girlfriend that he liked her at the cinema.. telling me that she'd be flirting with him over text.. he even forwarded me 2 messages that she apparently sent, and told me to check her sentbox. I confronted my girlfriend about this and she denied it all.. I told her, well, in that case.. he's just trying to stir **** and we should both tell him what a **** he is and never speak to him again - those sort of people just arent worth it. We both agreed to delete him from facebook which I did.. and my girlfriend told me that she had deleted his number and sent him a text telling him how disgusted she was for trying to break our relationship up. However, when I sat her down and tried to get her to delete him from facebook, she refused saying "I need to have a word with him first".
Yeah.. looks like it. He was just waiting for our relationship to hit rock bottom before making his move :/
Even though my girlfriend and I aren't together any more.. I did speak to her telling her to promise me not to even be friends with him.. she didn't trust me once before about him being dodgy yet she befriended him again.. and I want her to trust me this time. I just dont want her getting hurt (I wouldn't want anyone to get hurt tbh as it's not nice - I should know) and what genuine guy tries to break up someone's relationship before pouncing the minute after? She refused.. told me to Please star out swearing fully. Thanks. VS. off and try to control someone else.
The guy.. sent me messages straight after he apologised for telling my girlfriend that he liked her at the cinema.. telling me that she'd be flirting with him over text.. he even forwarded me 2 messages that she apparently sent, and told me to check her sentbox. I confronted my girlfriend about this and she denied it all.. I told her, well, in that case.. he's just trying to stir **** and we should both tell him what a **** he is and never speak to him again - those sort of people just arent worth it. We both agreed to delete him from facebook which I did.. and my girlfriend told me that she had deleted his number and sent him a text telling him how disgusted she was for trying to break our relationship up. However, when I sat her down and tried to get her to delete him from facebook, she refused saying "I need to have a word with him first".
Yeah.. looks like it. He was just waiting for our relationship to hit rock bottom before making his move :/
Even though my girlfriend and I aren't together any more.. I did speak to her telling her to promise me not to even be friends with him.. she didn't trust me once before about him being dodgy yet she befriended him again.. and I want her to trust me this time. I just dont want her getting hurt (I wouldn't want anyone to get hurt tbh as it's not nice - I should know) and what genuine guy tries to break up someone's relationship before pouncing the minute after? She refused.. told me to Please star out swearing fully. Thanks. VS. off and try to control someone else.