I didn't meant to imply that we were wearing kid gloves, I was just stating that it seems a combination of talks and force have greater success than just talking, or just force.
Also the minimisation of civilian casualties has to be a priority, I'd agree.
From your personal point of view where do you see the balance of responsibility being? Primarily towards protecting your soldiers, at the higher risk of casualties in the populace, or primarily towards the populace but increased risk to your soldiers? I realise there is a balance to be made, and the McChrystal approach seemed to be pushing towards risk minimisation to civilians.
It would seem intuitive that having the local populace 'on side' would be of great benefit, but I suppose you risk your own troops morale too?
It is a difficult question, but ultimately you are there to protect the civilian population and so their safety is paramount. If the balance is correct then reducing civilian loses incurred by allied troops should reduce allied loses in turn.
There has been a lot of criticism of the RofE that McChrystal instituted, but my personal opinon is that the media have made assumptions on it's implementation are are not true or at least exaggerated and so it is difficult to judge. All the RofE I have been subject to allow you to protect yourself and those under your command or within your responsibility first and foremost.
From what I gather Patraeus has not changed those RofE only issued better instructions on their implementation to the troops.
And agreed. Military Force is simply a tool to be used to garner a political objective, as I have said before it will be the politicians who decide this war one way or the other.