Women and there reasons for breaking up with you

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So, ive been with my fiance for 14 months or so.

Everything was going great, we had good relationship. Went on holiday a few months back and had a blast of a time. 2 weeks ago, she went on holiday with her family to south africa. She came back Tuesday, and its just all gone to ****.

She came round last night, and must admit, i missed her like crazy so i was really excited about seeing her. i thought we had a nice night in, some laughs, tickles and cuddle ( i know i know :p ).

But she says today, that she doesnt know where her head is, and that she wants to be on her own for a while. Now, this came out of the blue, and just shattered me tbh. Her reasons are "i dont want to hurt you, and staying with you when my emotions are everywhere isnt fair on you". Followed by a loverly little " but i do love you so much". i was like ok..... she also said "you was so excited to see me and i just wasnt that excited, and that aint normal".

now, i know she hasnt cheated on me or anything like that, but what gives?
Should i stick around and wait to see what happens or just do one? Really dont know what to do tbh
 
Question, and someone's got to say it so I might as well get it out first.

How do you know with absolute certainty she hasn't cheated? Or, at least met someone else?
 
Not being funny or anything but cant you do what most people do like go with the flow and see how it pans out ?

How can complete strangers on an internet forum advise you when you dont even know yourself ?

Maybe she had an off day or on her period or something ?

maybe she is more excited about the the popes visit ?

These threads about relationships are kind of embarassing and people need to get a grip it makes them look lame.
 
That's pretty quick to be engaged after 14 months, she's probably either having second thoughts about it all going too quickly or she's met someone else.

At the end of the day, she will be able to list off reason after reason, and chicks always try to make it palatable so they can keep one hand on the branch before they get hold of another one, but it always comes down to the simple fact that, to coin a phrase, she just isn't that into you.
 
Perhaps just keep at her as to the reason. I know it sounds bad but it may be the only way she will tell you the real reason.

She may very well be trying to protect your feelings so you need to make her realise you'd rather know why..
 
Just tell her to be honest. You're both adults. If she has cheated, you're better off without her. It's hard to get over someone but sometimes it's for the best.
 
Maybe her parents said something to her.
I think claiming she cheated on the OP is rather dramatic..

That, or maybe you were slightly too excited to see her, and the fact that she wasn't as excited as you made her question something.

Either way, don't jump to any conclusions and certainly let this thing play out a little longer, it's been two days!

Oh, and their*
 
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RedDanDoc said:
Not being funny or anything but cant you do what most people do like go with the flow and see how it pans out ?

How can complete strangers on an internet forum advise you when you dont even know yourself ?

Maybe she had an off day or on her period or something ?

maybe she is more excited about the the popes visit ?

These threads about relationships are kind of embarassing and people need to get a grip it makes them look lame.
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This, I think you're better off sorting this out on your own. Nobody here knows her or what your relationship is like.
 
You had a blast, you can't speak for her. She might have cheated, she might have just thought about it, she may have just thought about how much more fun she had without you.
 
PerfectForm said:
But she says today, that she doesnt know where her head is, and that she wants to be on her own for a while. Now, this came out of the blue, and just shattered me tbh. Her reasons are "i dont want to hurt you, and staying with you when my emotions are everywhere isnt fair on you".
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Wanting to be on her own for a while probably means she's either already cheated or is thinking about cheating. Next thing she'll be doing is pulling a Ross "We were on a break!"
 
It may seem out of the blue, but it's likely been something she's been struggling with inside for a long time. I find girls tend to do that, push it down, push it aside, keep it locked in, whatever. And it seems out of the blue, but to them, it's quite real and has been for a long time.
 
RedDanDoc said:
Not being funny or anything but cant you do what most people do like go with the flow and see how it pans out ?
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The idea behind individualism is to avoid going with the flow

People are such tools - honestly.

Also, I hate to say it OP, but it sounds like she cheated on you.

PerfectForm said:
i thought we had a nice night in, some laughs, tickles and cuddle
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This is a little soppy as well. Grow some balls. Whatever you do, do not act like you're okay with being played by this chick.
 
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