The girl you like/liked does the dirty you

rz30

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How do you take it, say your were younger and you find out the details when your older, that's she totally screwed around and trashed your name in the mud, i could handle it all apart from the trashing of the name, silly little girlrs!!

Now i know a lot of guys that would just t brush it off and say what the hell, but a few years down the line they usually come around and feel some remorse, but it still leaves you feeling hollow and neglected inside so how do you deal with the pain? How do you deal with breaking someones trust in such a personal way.
 
By posting nudes.

Edit: Or, learning to emotionally distance yourself from people and the world, so that you can never be hurt. And while you may live a hollow existence, alone, you will retain the superior knowledge that you are an impregnable fortress of cold, unwavering stoicism. You are the Tower. The Lone Wolf. You are the Keeper of the Forgotten Realm, the Wall, the Mountain.

Either that, or talking about it with someone you feel comfortable opening up to. Or write it down. Record it on your computer. Make a video. Let it out, vent about how you feel, eventually realise that they have dishonoured themselves by their dishonourable actions. Learn to move beyond the events of the past.

Also, post nudes.
 
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You're only in pain because, at heart, you still like her. Sort that out and you'll be fine.
 
When I was younger I'd have probably felt I was to blame and probably tried to take the moral high-ground and tried to make it work or stay friends. Either way, I think I'd probably be quite emotional.

These days, I'd just walk no questions asked. If she cheats on me, I'm gone and I won't bat an eyelid. If they hypothetically decided to reproach me a few years down the line, they'd have a tough job of it. They burnt the bridge, not me. They were the one who ****ed up so they're the one who can 'hurt' and learn their lesson.

She'd have to be something beyond special for me to allow her back into my life. If I'm ever cheated on the girl may aswell be effectively dead for all I care. I want a partner, not a stupid, selfish little girl. Coming back years down the line is just too little too late I feel.
 
Have you ever done the meditation exercise where you imagine breathing in white light, and every exhalation is cloudy and dark with all your troubles and you keep breathing it out until it is clear and the stress and angst has left your body?

So just do that except swap white light for random totty, breathing in for boinking, and exhaling for...well you get the picture..
 
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When I was younger I'd have probably felt I was to blame and probably tried to take the moral high-ground and tried to make it work or stay friends. Either way, I think I'd probably be quite emotional.

These days, I'd just walk no questions asked. If she cheats on me, I'm gone and I won't bat an eyelid. If they hypothetically decided to reproach me a few years down the line, they'd have a tough job of it. They burnt the bridge, not me. They were the one who ****ed up so they're the one who can 'hurt' and learn their lesson.

She'd have to be something beyond special for me to allow her back into my life. If I'm ever cheated on the girl may aswell be effectively dead for all I care. I want a partner, not a stupid, selfish little girl. Coming back years down the line is just too little too late I feel.
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Exactly this. Having felt the lash of a cheater, I won't let that sort of thing happen again. There's nothing good in letting someone walk all over you. Understanding has a limit. And you must draw a line exactly before you start to compromise your integrity.
 
Gackt said:
By posting nudes.

Edit: Or, learning to emotionally distance yourself from people and the world, so that you can never be hurt. And while you may live a hollow existence, alone, you will retain the superior knowledge that you are an impregnable fortress of cold, unwavering stoicism. You are the Tower. The Lone Wolf. You are the Keeper of the Forgotten Realm, the Wall, the Mountain.

Either that, or talking about it with someone you feel comfortable opening up to. Or write it down. Record it on your computer. Make a video. Let it out, vent about how you feel, eventually realise that they have dishonoured themselves by their dishonourable actions. Learn to move beyond the events of the past.

Also, post nudes.
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Very deep for the early hours of the morning, I like it.
 
rz30 said:
and trashed your name in the mud, i could handle it all apart from the trashing of the name
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lol because this is what matters in life. Your post reminds me of jeremy kyle guests screaming that one another have a reputation. Trivial.

And it sounds like you got stung and that's what you're annoyed about anyway, not your 'reputation'.

I'm guessing you're 16-17 right?
 
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