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Just about to nip to bed so will keep this short.

Was chatting with a mate from work today he's been with his a lass a few years now, bout 4 or I think. She went on holiday last year with friends and for whatever reason when she got back he was suspicious she's been playing away.

So he checked her phone and through that her facebook (silly boy) and saw her been chatting with sone foreign bloke. Can't remember where he was from, spain or Italy or something. They are saying miss you to eachother and all that.

My advice was ignore it, even if something happened holiday fling blah blah don't throw your life away on it. But apparently she is going back there next year which makes things more fruity.

Does he confront her and admit to checking on her thus turning something potentially innocent into world war 3 as he been invading her privacy. Or let it go and she may be shaggibg round behind his back.

I really don't know what to say to the bloke so drop me some at least half decent replies over night as I see him at work tommorow.

Night ocuk!
 
There is no trust and therefore no lasting relationship. He should probably find someone else who he doesn't have to sneakily check on and harbour doubts about.
 
Tango, don't you think that last bit is going a bit far?

I think that seeming as there is no longer trust- to the point where he has to check her phone and Facebook then there isn't much hope for the relationship I'm afraid. Him admitting to her about invading her privacy would make for a very unhappy lady.
 
TangoSixteen said:
He should smash her back passage (her gravy covered pasty?) then tell her to do one.

Needs to cut all ties and drop her faster than an african baby with leprosy.
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I feared this day would come. I actually agree with something this numpty has said :eek:

Well, not the first bit or the general tone or the standard provocative language but the 'needs to cut all ties' bit.
 
Just say that some random foreign guy sent him a message saying she was a good kisser or something and see what she says haha. If she hasn't cheated she'd be annoyed and wouldn't go back there and if she did something she might admit it.
 
me and my girlfriend know each others facebook password, we know each of us snoop on each others profiles just to see chat between friends etc, we know we trust each other and neither does anything behind each others back were open and give each other trust.

If she is so tight about him not going on her facebook then she must have a reason to be...
 
Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you have to share everything. I am sure there are plenty of couples who do not share their passwords.
 
It sounds to me like the trust has disappeared for both parties. That usually spells only one thing in the long term.

Probably best to walk away.
 
He'll struggle to confront her without admitting he went through her phone and whatnot, so it's basically as good as over.
 
lozzick said:
me and my girlfriend know each others facebook password, we know each of us snoop on each others profiles just to see chat between friends etc, we know we trust each other and neither does anything behind each others back were open and give each other trust.

If she is so tight about him not going on her facebook then she must have a reason to be...
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does she know your OKUK pass though?!
 
Get proof. Suspicions are natural if someone is acting in a suspicious manner! It doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is over. She is still with him after all.

PhillyDee's idea is great! :D
 
vonhelmet said:
Now that's a good idea.
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That's what I thought.

I'll drop you an update later on. Think I will tell him to talk to her in a way that doesn't bring up the fb rubbish. They've been together for plenty of years and lived together at least a year. Seems daft to throw it all away. Especially when it "could" be sonething innocent or at least not as serious as it looks at first glance.
 
she'll probably just say its a girls holiday or something. I wouldn't tell her about the FB stuff, that will only lead to more rubbish. Definitely avoid that!!!!

he doesn't know what happened but if he feels funny about it then it will show and the relationship will falter - trust and all that
 
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