Birthday gifts - might as well not bother...

iv-tecman · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:01

I always buy my girlfriend something special for her birthday.. I normally tend to take a few days off work to celebrate this occasion with her as well.

Last year I got her silk nighwear, perfume and took her out shopping in London followed by evening meal, the year before we had an extended weekend break at a spa and I got her some lovely diamond earrings etc..

This year sadly I was unable to get time off work, I left it too late and missed the opportunity to book a few days off. I have just given her this years birthday gifts before leaving for work and said we’ll be going out for a meal this evening, and I got her a lovely new black evening dress, a fresh bottle of the same perfume I got her last year as she’s pretty much used it all and a type of cardigan type thingy for the evening dress to keep her top warm when wearing it..

Now these aren’t cheap gifts… I paid quite a bit of money for these and the evening meal will be on top, sadly she’ll get less time with me today but after I gave her the gifts, she looked grateful to get them, jut looked upset.

Said to me would rather have no gifts and have the day with me, then have gifts and see me go to work.. Guess that is kind off sweet, however said I got you nice gifts… Apparently I can’t buy love with nice gifts and don’t want gifts, just wants to spend the day with her guy as she says.. So, fine – next year no gifts and booking the day off work for next years birthday today.. Thank you, she’s just saved me £200.

See if she feels the same next year when she gets nothing, but I spend all day pestering her..!!

bloodiedathame · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:03

Real world = weekday at work.

DampCat · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:03

Christ it's not like she hated the gifts. Man up, Nancy. She is just expressing her love.

Pull a sicky tomorrow and spend the day with her.

Efour · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:04

Worst ive spent some money thread ever.

iv-tecman · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:05

DampCat said:
Christ it's not like she hated the gifts. Man up, Nancy. She is just expressing her love.

Pull a sicky tomorrow and spend the day with her.

think the boss might cotton on to this considering I asked only a few days ago if it was possible, I requested a day off weeks ago but no joy... I tried again last week, saying it was for the gf's birthday, but again no joy... He'll know.. lol

bloodiedathame · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:06

Has she taken the day off work?

Badgi · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:06

Do something at the weekend/next day off instead.

Gackt · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:07

Make yourself throw up at work.

antijoke · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:07

I don't get how you arrived at the thread title from what she has said.

Django x2 · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:08

Sounds like you give to receive.

You suck. All she's saying is that she'd rather spend the day with you irrespective of the gifts you get her.

Oh, and.....

sadly she’ll get less time with me today

...you've got tickets on yourself!!!

krisab · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:09

I would rather spend a day with my fiance anytime if i wanted than to have gifts. Gifts does not always express how much you love a person

Cosimo · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:09

Worst I can’t take the day off thread I’ve seen.

iv-tecman · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:09

bloodiedathame said:
Has she taken the day off work?

Yep, she's currently at home but I reckon she'll now have time to try on the dress, if it doesn't fit she has the gift receipt and she'll now have time to take it back, get a size that does fit and be ready with the dress on for tonights evening meal.. win win I think.!!!

Easy, actually I was just a bit miffed I guess but now I think about the post about manning up.. Yeah, just being silly...

kae2 · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:10

eh? Get a grip.

bloodiedathame · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:11

Take your lunch hour with her (if possible)?

[FnG]magnolia · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:12

Be prepared for a royal roasting next year if you don't get her anything. I know she said not to but this is the wimmenz we're talking about. Handle with care.

markweatherill · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:14

Efour2 said:
Worst ive spent some money thread ever.

Worst 'I've got a girlfriend' thread ever!

iv-tecman · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:15

bloodiedathame said:
Take your lunch hour with her (if possible)?

Yes, excellent idea, was already something I was going to do.. Going to text her in about an hour and say ‘meet up for lunch’.

And ok ok, understood I’m in the wrong – sort of… I have been in a bit of a funny mood lately. Not the first time in the last few weeks been told to sort it out. She’s not been very happy with me for weeks, but that’s another story.

Badgi · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:15

[FnG]magnolia;17644979 said:
Be prepared for a royal roasting next year if you don't get her anything. I know she said not to but this is the wimmenz we're talking about. Handle with care.

Last time I took my girlfriend literally and didn't get her anything for her birthday, she put bleach in my tea........

Laylah · 25 Oct 2010 at 10:19

iv-tecman said:
And ok ok, understood I’m in the wrong – sort of… I have been in a bit of a funny mood lately. Not the first time in the last few weeks been told to sort it out.

Must be something in the water lol
but back to the thread..
Im sure she wouldnt mind if you got her nothing next year but then she may think that there is something wrong and that you dont want to make an effort. I agree with the others who have posted she was declaring her love saying it doesnt matter how much money you spend, shes grateful but time with your is much more prescious. Doesnt mean the moment you left the house she didnt stick the dress up against her infront of the mirror and swish with a huge grin lol