We're on a break

You can hang in there and see where it goes but personally, I would walk. If someone in the relationship feels you should take a break, somethings not working and someone is not happy.

If something/someone should come along and take her mind off you, its over. If not you guys might try again until the next time she feels she needs a break, and the next, only to leave you in the end with a lot of wasted time.
 
SMN said:
Yup. "Going on a break" is how a woman dumps you if you havent done something to warrant it.
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Made me lol but so true

Also, if she see's that you're not interested in getting back with her, then she will feel insecure, work her magic to get you back, then dump you from a height, beware :p
 
paradigm said:
It's a nice way of her ending it gently, to give you time to get used to the idea.

Move on, find someone new.
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SMN said:
Yup. "Going on a break" is how a woman dumps you if you havent done something to warrant it.
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From experience, these guys are spot on :)

Think of the good times and move on as hard as that sounds right now.

Take the time to party and enjoy yourself :)

Sometimes there are other reasons for wanting space but if faced with that situation now, I would walk.
 
anticonscience posted the only contribution I was going to make to this thread, so I've had to rethink...

A 'break' tends only to workout for the person initiating it. Your gf now has the opportunity to go hump the guy at work/school/uni etc who has been showing her attention. Then she gets to decide whether she'd rather carry on with him or take you back.

All the while you are sitting at home scratching your head, wondering how you got in this situation. Sitting at home holding onto the dim hope that she will come back, having realised you are indeed her lobster or whatever.

Ofcourse, you can choose not to sit about being confused, cease the opportunity to have some fun, go out and do a 'Ross'. Then probably get lambasted for being a dirty cheater etc.

The choice as they say, is yours.
 
[FnG]magnolia;17651779 said:
Time to move on, fella. I don't know anyone who went on a break only to return to their partner and enjoy a worthwhile relationship. It's not impossible but it is unlikely. I take it she instigated it?
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It's tricky being a public forum to go in to detail for obvious reasons but yes she did, I can see why because I did something that triggered her being distant and no I didn't cheat - I lost my temper and was out of character, it put her off, and for two weeks it's been 'odd'.

Her choice to take some breathing room as she didn't know what else to do, she keeps saying she wants to be with me and has still texted me etc. I'm tempted to say 'no more contact' until she's clear what she wants otherwise it's just stringing me along for what potentially is a bumpy ride.

We've been together for six months, and it was going well, too well.
 
Answer: no being on a break has never ended well for me.

Saying that it's not always about bonking another man, in my last case it seemed to be to test if she could make it on her own without my support. Turned out she could!
 
naefeart said:
A 'break' tends only to workout for the person initiating it. Your gf now has the opportunity to go hump the guy at work/school/uni etc who has been showing her attention. Then she gets to decide whether she'd rather carry on with him or take you back.
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That's not the case, we're both adults, it's not about other people, it's about trying to work us out. It's been made crystal clear there isn't another person in this otherwise it would be over.
 
Bleek said:
That's not the case, we're both adults, it's not about other people, it's about trying to work us out. It's been made crystal clear there isn't another person in this otherwise it would be over.
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The again she might be keeping hner options open, if it doesn't work out with the "other person", they will get back together.
 
I can see why most would assume it's about another guy, I'd be doing the same if I weren't privy to details. I assumed I'd get a lot of negative responses on a forum.

It is however nice to hear some people made it work!
 
bloodiedathame said:
My current gf and I have been together for 7 years, with a couple of 4 month breaks in between... I feel that we've found ourselves now and we're stronger for it, though things that happened in those months we both regret.
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I had a brief break in my current relationship. As it stands, we haven't been stronger and I can't be happier about it.
 
Burnsy2023 said:
I had a brief break in my current relationship. As it stands, we haven't been stronger and I can't be happier about it.
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What triggered it?

And also, no offence to all, but how old are you? A lot of the responses thus far do seem a little on the 'young' side. This isn't a teenage romance, we're both in our adult years (but sub 30).
 
Bleek said:
That's not the case, we're both adults, it's not about other people, it's about trying to work us out. It's been made crystal clear there isn't another person in this otherwise it would be over.
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Fair enough, more details are always helpful. I was over indulging at bit, but the crux of my point is still valid:

She is in control and there is not much you can do until she decides whether she can get over your temper issue.

So what do you do in the meantime, put yourself on hold?

I don't know exactly how you upset her, so I can 't comment on how justified this break is. Perhaps it's you that needs to make most use of this time, to workout what ever aggression issues you may have. Perhaps even try to prove it was either a one off, or that you are working it out.
 
Bleek said:
What triggered it?

And also, no offence to all, but how old are you? A lot of the responses thus far do seem a little on the 'young' side. This isn't a teenage romance, we're both in our adult years (but sub 30).
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27.

My point still stands.
 
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