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McDaniel

McDaniel

McDaniel

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I just don't get them... ?

Me and my girlfriend broke up Tuesday - she decided she didn't want to continue the relationship knowing that I loved her and she didn't love me, she had tried to feel the same but just couldn't so decided to end it before I got to involved. We were together about a year.

So you know, fair play I thought - very gutting to be told that, and not have such feelings reciprocated, but kudos for being honest and having the balls to say it to me and make that decision.

So as you do when your newly single, you got out a lot more - so I headed to a mates in London last night, small group fancy dress party - was only 8 of us and there was a young lady there who was smashed off her face and took a shining to me, so there are now a few pictures on the dreaded facebook - one specifically where she is sat on my lap.

My ex has then messaged me going mad, saying stuff a long the lines of "you clearly had a good night, some girl all over you, I can't believe you be like this so soon after breaking up".

Woah... be like what? I hadn't done anything with this girl, just banter and a fun evening with some mates - now she has gone offline, commented on some of the pics just saying "nice".

.... She dumped me... I went out with some mates and now I am in trouble?!

WTF!
 
The phrase:
"you don't know what you've got till it's gone"

comes to mind. (for her)

As with most girls, she'll pull out the "We should still be friends" just to keep you on a tether.
 
You're expected to have a period of mourning. It is standard proceedure.

Good on you for going out and enjoying yourself. She'll get over it.
 
Mason- said:
The phrase:
"you don't know what you've got till it's gone"

comes to mind. (for her)

As with most girls, she'll pull out the "We should still be friends" just to keep you on a tether.
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Aye - I did spoil her too, she even said, "you treat me so well, i'll never find anyone who treats me like you do - but I just don't love you".

Luckily I moved to a new job recently so don't see her at work - the 2 mates I went with still work with her though, so I've warned them they might get the 3rd degree tomorrow lol
 
McDaniel said:
but kudos for being honest and having the balls to say it to me and make that decision.
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There's your problem...


McDaniel said:
.... She dumped me... I went out with some mates and now I am in trouble?!

WTF!
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Why don't you tell her that? Tell her that not only did nothing happen, but she breaks up with you because she doesn't love you, yet you love her, and now she's giving you a hard time because you're trying to unwind and get over her?
 
Minxy said:
You're expected to have a period of mourning. It is standard proceedure.

Good on you for going out and enjoying yourself. She'll get over it.
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Oh, don't get me wrong - the odd night i've had nothing to do i've been mega sad and fapped relentlessly - i am gutted about it... but when your out with some good pals, drinking, listening to some tunes, playing drinking games you relax and just go with the groove.

Nothing happened, she asked me to stay and I declined, even said photo you can see my body language, i don't have my arm around here or anything, she is on me - not t'other way round!
 
Unfriend her, then set the picture as your profile picture. If she got rid of you, she's got no right.
 
Good Lad! She split with you, And now you're moving on with your life. If she's got problems with the fact you have fun with other girls, then that's not really your problem. She needs to get over it.

Just so you know, You're not alone in this. Girls do it all the time, and i'm sure guys too. I'm a very friendly guy, There's always pictures of me on facebook with various women, Nothing usually happening, Just friends. But the moment you split with a Girlfriend, Those innocent pictures turn into loony ammo for the Ex
 
TheCenturion said:
tell her that? Tell her that not only did nothing happen, but she breaks up with you because she doesn't love you, yet you love her, and now she's giving you a hard time because you're trying to unwind and get over her?
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I did say that, well I said...

"if i recall, you ended it with me - so not that it is any of your business, but nothing happened anyway - just had a good night with the lads, was fun."

to her

"omg - regardless of whether I ended it, I wouldn't expect you to be with some other girl so quick, if I did that I wouldn't hear the end of it..."
 
Its nice to think that even if a relationship breaks down the other person is feeling a little sad, whether it be you finished it or they did. I imagine if you saw her sitting on a mans lap a few nights after you would feel a little sad too.
But... as the others have said, remove her from friends that way she wont have to see you be manhandled by drunken ladies :D
(I would feel jealous too, if my ex put pics up on facebook a few nights after we broke up)
Thought id also add, she had no right to shout at you ...
 
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McDaniel said:
I just don't get them... ?

Me and my girlfriend broke up Tuesday - she decided she didn't want to continue the relationship knowing that I loved her and she didn't love me, she had tried to feel the same but just couldn't so decided to end it before I got to involved. We were together about a year.

So you know, fair play I thought - very gutting to be told that, and not have such feelings reciprocated, but kudos for being honest and having the balls to say it to me and make that decision.

So as you do when your newly single, you got out a lot more - so I headed to a mates in London last night, small group fancy dress party - was only 8 of us and there was a young lady there who was smashed off her face and took a shining to me, so there are now a few pictures on the dreaded facebook - one specifically where she is sat on my lap.

My ex has then messaged me going mad, saying stuff a long the lines of "you clearly had a good night, some girl all over you, I can't believe you be like this so soon after breaking up".

Woah... be like what? I hadn't done anything with this girl, just banter and a fun evening with some mates - now she has gone offline, commented on some of the pics just saying "nice".

.... She dumped me... I went out with some mates and now I am in trouble?!

WTF!
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Uhh its pretty obvious to me. You told her you loved her she unfortunately didnt love you so it leads to the end of the relationship. She then finds pretty much straightaway a photo of you in a compromising position with another female.

How is she not to think - "if this is how he acts then he couldnt have felt that much for me if he is with someone else in a matter of hours"

I would imagine she felt betrayed because you professed you loved her but your actions have shown her that no really you didnt. Or do you get all cosy and intimate with any and all women who happen to be willing?

:)
 
i'd have thought her reaction is kind of an obvious one as well as the reason why she reacted like that. she thought you cared about her and wouldn't want anyone else, then 1 week later from what she has seen you've got a new girl. she wasn't there was she so how would she know what actually went on.

i'm surprised at how many guys are backing the op and saying bad stuff about the girl. i bet if the guy had come on here saying he dumped her but some reason within a few days she's out with another guy everyone on here would be saying stuff like she clearly didn't love you, just sleeps around good job you got rid etc
 
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