the friend who has now split up with his gf

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cm1179

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has been in touch sporadically throughout their 3 year relationship but now him and his gf have finished he suddenly wants to get 'back on the scene' and organise a 'lads night out in the city' and sends texts such as 'what you doing tonight, mate, fancy the pub for the football tonight'?

do they expect just to pick things back up from where they left?
 
yes. friends pick up where they left off. friends understand why this happens as we are all generally the same in this respect.
 
Jealous of his relationship or angry he was stolen away from you?

Drop the ego, he's your mate, life is too short....go out with him and have a fantastic night.
 
He probably wants to enjoy freedom again. Take advantage of it while you can!




Edit: you can always take the mick ;)
 
I'd say the same. I'm aware that, being in a relationship at the moment after a while on my own, I'm the one doing the ****** off.

Just cos he texts, doesn't mean you have to go out.
 
So you haven't seen this guy in 3 years? Not heard a word from him? Find that hard to believe if that's the case.

People's attitude towards friends change when they're in a relationship, insomuch as they don't have as much time to spend with them as they used to. Particularly evident in tight knit friendship groups where people have been friends for years.

As the above though, I wouldn't think badly of it more the return of a prodigal son so-to-speak. Recently happened with a mate of mine, he's always flitted in and out of the group but we always welcome him back. There's no malice in it, it's just how it is. Go and have a good night out and a catch up with your mate. :)
 
If you are free, go out for beers with your mate. If you are not, don't.

It's pretty simple.
 
That's what friends do. Your friend calls you at 3 in the morning and you listen to the soppy daft twonk, why, because he is your friend. Suck it up, take the mick out of him and make him feel uncomfortable, but he is your friend.
My friends understand that life changes, you see the single ones a lot more and the married ones less and the newly divorced are just a pain in the arse.
 
I'm going to go against the grain here and say i've had one friend who is a repeat offender, gets a girlfriend and dissapears without a trace, only time you hear from him is if he "likes" something on your facebook etc

Soon as he splits up, he's back on the scene, phone calls, texts, out on the town etc until he gets into another relationship and then he's off again

Another friend is exactly the same, what I dont understand is, they dont bring their girlfriends out with them, they would rather bin off their mates that they've known for 15 years than bring them out to the pub etc
 
I find this only happens with males. If a woman drops or slows down contact with a friend I find that they can be bitchy and / or take the attitude of "well if she couldn't be bothered to keep in contact with me, why should I?".

Last week I met up with a mate who I hadn't seen in over a year and a half, we picked up exactly where we left off, talking about boobs and farting. Good times :).


If you don't meet up with him you'll gain nothing and maybe loose something.

If you do decide to meet up you'll no doubt have fun and maybe bring the friendship a little closer to what it was.
 
I don't see some of my mates half as much as I used to, I have my tight group of friends, but then people from school who are still great friends but we don't see each other too much.

But when we do it's like I saw them yesterday, that's why they are friends.

Lots of people see their friends less when they are in a serious relationship.
 
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