Mummy V Daddy

LordSplodge said:
It tends to be the male role model (I.e "daddy") that does most of the discipline whereas the female is the more caring.

Of course both parents should be applying discipline but it is my view that the bias should be on the male. I certainly laid down the law far more that Mrs. LordSplodge but then again in her words I am a little Victorian.

Did LordSplodge Jr. no harm. He does like his mum more than me but I like my mum more than my dad. I think that's the way with sons.

Hope that makes sense as I'm laid up with a cold...
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Gotcha. We try and equally discipline our little one and give her the same message from both of us but I see what you're saying.
 
My boy is my boy, he only wants me when I'm home. Doesn't matter what I'm doing.

If I suggest doing something his first question is 'is mummy coming/playing?' and if she is involved he says he doesn't want her to come/join in.

Can understand why you feel bad but all you can do is keep trying to involve mum.
 
My 3 year old girl is like this with me and my partner depending on her mood. She's always swaying from one to the other depending on who's been 'nice' to her in that specific moment in time. Sometimes she tells me that me and my girlfriend are both her best friends.

Also my 20 month old boy has a weird thing where when he wakes up from one of his naps, or from a bad dream at night he HAS to have a cuddle with me or he just won't settle back down again. He throws a real temper tantrum if my girlfriend happens to pick him up and he knows I'm there.

All part of them growing up though. :D
 
Funnily enough my 5 week old son is very funny with me,

i could hold him and he'll cry, but when his mum does it in exactly the same place and way he stops. Very odd, and makes me feel like a tool lol
 
MadMan-JaMeS said:
Funnily enough my 5 week old son is very funny with me,

i could hold him and he'll cry, but when his mum does it in exactly the same place and way he stops. Very odd, and makes me feel like a tool lol
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That comes from 9 months of the same heartbeat, they know who mum is, mum makes them feel safe and comfortable ;)
 
In my case when I was younger I was a mummy's boy but as soon as I figured out my dad was a pushover and was far more lenient than my mum, I became a daddy's boy.
 
Mine does as well mate dont worry and hes only 2, if hes scared he makes a bee line for me if hes unwell he goes to mum if hes not any of the above its who has chocolate :p
 
GJ02 said:
Has any of you parents out there come across this ?
Your Son or Daughter seems to like mummy more than daddy or vise versa ?

As it happens at the mo he cant get enough of me, telling me im his best friend, asking me to show him Ken Block on utube, and sitting with me through benchmarking sessions.
But my wife is starting to get upset now because he wipes her kisses off, tells her that she isnt his best friend daddy is etc etc

Although its uber nice to hear him say im his best friend I sort of feel bad becuase he doesnt say it to his mummy.

he is 3 and i know it will be her turn next week / month and then change in another month

has this ever happened to any of the other mummy and daddys on here ?
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This is normal 6 month ago my boy did this and would say to his mum , ' I don't like you mummy I want daddy' Now my boy only wants his mum to put him to bed and when he gets up in the middle of the night he only wants his mummy:)
 
My girlfriends 2yr old, if he's told off by her will cry and call out for me and that he wants me. Like I'd make it all better? Doubt it, he's probably been a little swine haha they are all so very cute though and seem to go through stages of appreciation for pretty much anything.
It's not just mum/dad it's toys, tv shows, food! Makes buying Christmas stuff fun!
 
Children spend their whole youth thinking about ways of getting around their parents. Sounds like hes using you to get at Mum! Im afraid that means he likes Mum the best :D

The best thing you can do is be strong for mum and let him know that.
 
Wait until they start to play you off against each other.

Dad's said no, but mum's said yes.

Can't even remember the amount of times I'd go to the other parent if I didn't get the answer I was looking for :D
 
It's actually scary how early they try that sort of thing. These 2 (2 and 5) manage that already.

"Mummy can I have a drink please?"

"No, you're just about to go to bed..."

"Ross, can I have a drink please?"

Er.... sneaky!!
 
everything sounds about normal so far. My brother and I grew up favouring our mum more because dad was the one to do the disciplining. She was also the one that took us out to the park and swimming as my dad was at work.

kids evolve over the years and all id say is don't try to desperately impress the child into liking one or the other to bring a balance. As it happens your boy enjoys doing things with you that mum doesn't do and that is only natural. Mum maybe complains about the washing or his trousers being messy while you buy the ice creams and take everyone out for dinner.

Another thing with sons prefering mums and girls prefering dads is that mums can never imagine what goes through a boys mind while the dad knows full well and also knows that they can take a smacked backside or whaetver more than the mum does. On the flip side, dads want to wrap girls up in cotton wool and protect them from all the evil boys who just want to get their end away. Also dads seem to think of girls as more fragile and often (if smacking is used) don't hit as hard as they would with boys. Mums know full well that the girls can take it and will crack 'em one because of it.

Its no surprise that if me or my brother wanted anything we went to our mum while if the wife or her sisters want anything they go to daddy. The love is there for both equally, one just usually gives you what you want and punishes you less than the other.
 
Its very normal my 2 do it all the time (boy 9 and girl 11) though my girl tends to go more to her mother more for makeup tips now:D and me for money ;)
 
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