My Dad.

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I didn't know whether to make a thread about this or not, but I guess it would be a nice start to getting these emotions off my chest.

For the last 3 months my dad has become very poorly. He lost his appetite and then really quickly lost weight. My father being at the age of 90 has lived a wonderful life. Is a very hard worker, and still looks like he is probably late 50 early 60's. He was one of the first Pakistani men to arrive in England back in the early 1950's. Worked in a couple of factories, even saw empty bomb shells from the world war. And generally has done very well from himself, he has very strong will power and it upsets me to see him in the condition he is in.

About 1 month ago, his condition started to get worse so his GP referred him to a haematology specialist. She then booked him in for a camera down his mouth, and one up into his bowels. The results came back fine.

She then booked him in for a CT scan and the results from that were a bit shall I say worrying. Turns out his lymph-nodes were rather swollen, and they suspect he may have lymphoma.

He's been in hospital for the last 3 weeks, and I'm finding it quite difficult to see him in a bed as he cannot walk at all now. They've done a biopsy and are waiting for the results from that to determine what stage it is at and how far it may have spread.

The doctors can't say much yet as they don't know what stage it is at. They've got him on steroids and it does seem to be helping however, he still isn't eating anything, his appetite is just not there.

I don't really know what else to say, but I do ask, if any of you are religious please pray for him to get better. I really don't know what I'd do without my father.

Being in hospital is a very daunting place. Seeing sick people on a everyday basis does make you wonder. Some of the patients in the ward hardly have any family come see them which is quite sad in my opinion. So please do look after your parents whatever age or health they may be.

And thanks for reading.
 
I'm sorry to hear that you Father is sick. I'm not religious so praying would be rather pointless from my perspective, but you have our thoughts and hopes that your Father is around for some years yet.

I sometimes wished that I had that kind of bond with my Parents that you and others here obviously have.

Good Luck to you and yours and I hope your Father is well soon.
 
/Hug

Hope everything works out.

I can honestly say I don't know what I'd do without my parents, were very close.

I've been there and lost a lot of my family, the visits to hospitals are soul destroying.

Fingers crossed everything is okay :)
 
Thats sad, i remember visiting my dad when he was in hospital for a few months, and sadly passed away.

As said above im not religious so wont pray, how ever i will keep all my fingers, toes, etc, crossed in hope he gets better!

My thoughts are with you and your family.
 
Life is inevitable. However the constant of your love for him will endure through the ages. Take solace from this.

He will be in my prayers tonight.
 
To have fathered a child at the age of 68 is rather impressive, assuming you're his youngest. :eek:

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
 
You say that, but I totally spazzed out once and prayed for someone who people thought was going to die, even though I'm really not religious... they lived. Then my housemate was saying how his grandfather was really ill... he prayed for him... and he lived.

Obviously praying works* :cool:.





*May not be 100% true.

It's ok, I'm covered. My best mate is a Muslim, I'll get him to pray on my behalf. It would be more appropriate for Vita anyway. :)
 
Sorry to hear about his illness but like the others have said, it's inspiring how much love and respect you have for your Father. I assume that as your dad's Pakistani, that your family is Muslim?

I'm a Christian and do believe that God heals. I've seen family members very quickly healed from long-standing illnesses through prayer. The Qu'ran attests to Jesus being a healer and miracle worker, although what we ultimately believe about him is rather different. I shall pray, but would encourage you to do the same. We Christians believe that there is power in the name of Jesus. If your religion permits it, and you feel comfortable doing so, ask God for him to get better in the name of Jesus ("the prophet Isa" will do fine - God knows what you mean).

Anyway, for what it's worth, I sincerely hope and pray to my Father in Heaven (how we Christians generally refer to God) that he recovers quickly - in the name of Jesus.
 
CM's right, 90's a fantastic innings. I'm sorry to hear about this.

Sorry to hear about his illness but like the others have said, it's inspiring how much love and respect you have for your Father. I assume that as your dad's Pakistani, that your family is Muslim?

I'm a Christian and do believe that God heals. I've seen family members very quickly healed from long-standing illnesses through prayer. The Qu'ran attests to Jesus being a healer and miracle worker, although what we ultimately believe about him is rather different. I shall pray, but would encourage you to do the same. We Christians believe that there is power in the name of Jesus. If your religion permits it, and you feel comfortable doing so, ask God for him to get better in the name of Jesus ("the prophet Isa" will do fine - God knows what you mean).

Anyway, for what it's worth, I sincerely hope and pray to my Father in Heaven (how we Christians generally refer to God) that he recovers quickly - in the name of Jesus.

A scientific study was performed in America about whether those that were measurably and actively prayed for, had different survival rates to those that weren't. I remember the programme well, because it was done around the time of the 9/11 attacks so a lot of patients unsurprisingly refused prayer by Muslims.

No differences, statistical or otherwise were found in survival rates.

It's nothing more than trying to attribute a reason for something which on a biological basis was either going to happen or not. Or a way to seek comfort, no real harm at all in that.
 
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