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airrunner

airrunner

airrunner

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I am continually told that you offended that person there or you shouldn't have said that it wasn't appropriate. I've been told by my partner that i think iam always right and up your own arse on times.

Now im obviously trying to combat this and im struggling because i honestly don't think this is the case with myself.

I am always frank, i never beat around bush with things, if it doesn't sound right or i think their talking nonsense i will say and correct them. I am also very direct.

But do you honestly think this behaviour is not appropriate for normal social gatherings? and that i need some serious changes within my outlook as well as personality?
 
It depends, I don't think that you can/should change who you are. But, maybe dilute it a bit when meeting new people. With people you know, I think that you can be more of yourself.

Having said that, if someone thinks that you're up your own arse, maybe you could try harder to empathise with people and see things from their point of view?
 
OP, you sound like me lol. I'm always told that I'm up my own arse, always offending people etc. I'm always told that I think I'm always right but most of the time I am, shoot me... lol.
I'm frank and have been called harsh many times but it's just in my nature.
People have told me to change ie. my dad, he said that I'll end up very few friends if I don't change but if I change then I'm not myself.... I'll just be some fake. Ah well, it would be a boring place if everyone had the same personality.
 
airrunner said:
I am continually told that you offended that person there or you shouldn't have said that it wasn't appropriate. I've been told by my partner that i think iam always right and up your own arse on times.

Now im obviously trying to combat this and im struggling because i honestly don't think this is the case with myself.

I am always frank, i never beat around bush with things, if it doesn't sound right or i think their talking nonsense i will say and correct them. I am also very direct.

But do you honestly think this behaviour is not appropriate for normal social gatherings? and that i need some serious changes within my outlook as well as personality?
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Were you offended when she said you are up your own arse?
 
airrunner said:
I am continually told that you offended that person there or you shouldn't have said that it wasn't appropriate. I've been told by my partner that i think iam always right and up your own arse on times.

Now im obviously trying to combat this and im struggling because i honestly don't think this is the case with myself.

I am always frank, i never beat around bush with things, if it doesn't sound right or i think their talking nonsense i will say and correct them. I am also very direct.

But do you honestly think this behaviour is not appropriate for normal social gatherings? and that i need some serious changes within my outlook as well as personality?
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Are you a fire sign? :)
 
I rarely, if ever, consider if what I'm saying could offend some nonsensical poor soul. Then again, I'm not the type of person that goes round offending people for no reason.
 
I don't see "changing yourself" as a bad thing - there's no reason why we should be set in concrete (and set since when? Birth? How you were when you turned 16? 18? 21? s'ludicrous...), if you do come across as harsh there's no reason to not try and figure out if you are being harsh or if you're just surrounded by a bunch of wusses. And if you do decide you're actually being harsh, moderate it a bit. And if they're a bunch of wusses, buy them South Park boxed sets for Christmas.

No harm in self improvement!

Of course if you flat out refuse to even consider "moderating" the controversial jokes then I guess you really are up yourself :p
 
Nothing wrong with being blunt and to the point, just have to know how to phrase it without sounding like a right ****. I kept getting bruised ribbs from the missus when i was being too 'forthright' to someone who was annoying me, now im polite and just go and get a beer instead :D
 
I hope you appreciate my directness when I politely inform you of the number of grammatical errors in your post and irritating syntax throughout. No offense of course ;)
 
airrunner said:
I am continually told that you offended that person there or you shouldn't have said that it wasn't appropriate. I've been told by my partner that i think iam always right and up your own arse on times.

Now im obviously trying to combat this and im struggling because i honestly don't think this is the case with myself.

I am always frank, i never beat around bush with things, if it doesn't sound right or i think their talking nonsense i will say and correct them. I am also very direct.

But do you honestly think this behaviour is not appropriate for normal social gatherings? and that i need some serious changes within my outlook as well as personality?
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No need to change, just keep it to yourself and place a subconscious label on them. Starting with your partner, he sound like he has a cob of corn shoved up his ****. :p
 
airrunner said:
I am continually told that you offended that person there or you shouldn't have said that it wasn't appropriate. I've been told by my partner that i think iam always right and up your own arse on times.

Now im obviously trying to combat this and im struggling because i honestly don't think this is the case with myself.

I am always frank, i never beat around bush with things, if it doesn't sound right or i think their talking nonsense i will say and correct them. I am also very direct.

But do you honestly think this behaviour is not appropriate for normal social gatherings? and that i need some serious changes within my outlook as well as personality?
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Im the same, cant change , dont want to change, its called being real
 
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