cant find anyone with a similar setup to mine.
Boo!
Same mobo and cpu so I can help there- is your cpu the 125 watt or the 140 watt though?
Going to assume its the same as mine which is the 125 watt.
First turn load line callibration off; if it is on I found my volts going totally crazy and above the limits for the chip. With it off your volts will drop under load a bit but that is better than with it on.
Second cool and quiet only works up to 3.7 for me, if you only adjust the processor multiplier; adjusting the fsb for me makes things unstable but tbh i havent really tried here, I prefer things neat and simple, given my oc isnt too bad I think best leave it alone. I was edging 3.9 using frequency multi and 211 fsb but something had become unstable.
3.8 is what people say is the sweet spot so I am happy leaving it at 3.7. 1.375 should see you rock solid. If you do not care about power saving then 4ghz is the upper limit, but tbh consensus is that this is not worth it; temps, stability and general happiness of the chip start to drop off really sharply there.
Temp wise 48 max is considered optimal, I have about 50 at times, 60 is your upper limit but you shouldnt be getting there.
Performance wise first thing to do is set the NB to 1.2 and 2400. Mine does 2600 at this but you may need 1.225-1.25 for that. This will directly affect any ram overclock- too few volts may make your system crash when ocing the ram- I blamed my ram for a long time till i realised I was undervolting my nb.
HT link will show no significant benefits and may affect stability. Some say it helps loading gpu textures but nothing is proven so best leave it imo.
Turn your ram speed to 1600, then lower the timings, mine is meant to run at 2000htz, I dont know if this means I have some extra headroom but 7-7-7-20 (1t) is rock solid through 48hrs+ of the most demanding games.
Storage wise obviously use the ssd for your os. I have partitioned my f3 for 120gb for the steam folder if you game- if this is the first partition on the drive it will be 'short stroked' meaning that the data will be read of the outside and fastest part of the drive. Rest of my steam folder (lots more than 120gb) and all my storage is put on the outer parts of the f3, I replace steam games as and when I play them by just restoring the backups.
These chips are not great clockers on the core but the nb really does offer a lot of benefit, couple that with ram with tight timings and there is where you will see performance benefits.