Perhaps you're right..... Still takes the ****!
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Perhaps you're right..... Still takes the ****!
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He will get this problem solved
He will get this problem solved
You didn't want a relationship and she did, she's now found someone who wants her for more than her body and you're jealous. If you wanted her to yourself then you should've made her your GF. Did you really think she'd be your **** buddy for life? Just use this as a lesson for the future.
From the sounds of it, it's the complete opposite. If things weren't serious then you wouldn't be making a thread on here about it and you wouldn't have cut off all contact with her, you'd have said fair enough and wished her all the best with her new BF.
From the sounds of it, it's the complete opposite. If things weren't serious then you wouldn't be making a thread on here about it and you wouldn't have cut off all contact with her, you'd have said fair enough and wished her all the best with her new BF.
But you wanted more.
Perhaps but she was also a really good friend... Talked a lot, really got on.
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So I have this friend....... A friend with benefits.
Known here for about 6 months now and we had been really close. But there was always an agreement, (enforced by me) that things would never get serious.
Anyway, I check out here Facebook page and her status now reads "In a relationship" with some dirty look goon. So I asked her what was going on and wanted to know why she never told me.... She fed me some bull about still wanting to be friends.
To cut a long story short I basically told her to **** Off (Not in those words.... I did it in a more dignified fashion). Deleted her from facebook and my phone.
How do I feel about this revelation.... Slightly shocked and hurt. Although I cant tell if I'm hurt because a friend lied to me or because I wanted her to myself.
Now I have to get rid of the beneficial pictures I received during the agreement.
Why Lie?
Watch your swearing
Gilly
Did you really think she was going to let you use her forever?
Come on dude give your head a wobble lol.
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There is only one way to sum this up really:
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Dude.... you make me sad.
If you're friends with benefits, that means either of you are free to look for a relationship or opt out.
You never had any illusions of her saying she wanted something with you, and you told her plainly you weren't interested in her like that... and now you cry because she's trying to find someone ?
metbandit1 your signature is over the 4 line max as per the rules.
If you're friends with benefits, that means either of you are free to look for a relationship or opt out.
You never had any illusions of her saying she wanted something with you, and you told her plainly you weren't interested in her like that... and now you cry because she's trying to find someone ?
metbandit1 your signature is over the 4 line max as per the rules.
Id agree if I wanted something serious with her.... I'll admit that a part of me really liked her but not enough to settle down with her.
Is it too much to ask for just a little honesty!
And you've thrown that away, not her.
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She didn't owe you anything. You were friends. You just had sex is all.
It's not as though she was in a relationship the whole time you were friends / sleeping together.
Friends are supposed to tell each other things though.. Heck I wouldve told her!
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Maybe she knew what a muppet you are and how you would react.
You sound like a kid whos just spat his dummy out because he couldnt get his own way, now grow up and move on.
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I may be wrong, but my take on it is this. From the way you reacted to the news and the fact that you're undecided about why you reacted that way, it looks very much like you did want a relationship but introduced this rule so that you could have the relationship you wanted with a complete get-out clause that could be used at any point. She has used the rule against you and now you're annoyed that the relationship is over and you have no comeback.
Just how I interpreted it.
Just how I interpreted it.
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No, you tell each other what you want.
You're both doing it for sex... that's it. It's clear you're either really jealous, or had greater feelings for her than you first thought. Either way, take a bit of time, think about it, and you'll realize you are the one in the wrong and not her.
This, and many others. She didn't have any obligation to tell you at all, and if she intended to hide it from you she wouldn't have made it public on Facebook. Removing her from your facebook & your phone contacts sounds like a childish tantrum, and combined with expecting commitment that you have personally ruled out of whatever relationship you had makes your position pretty groundless. You should apologise to her the first chance you get.
On a more general note, reflect on your behaviour during this episode and if the situation comes up again, consider whether you're really mature enough to maintain a non-committing relationship. From the sounds of it, right now you're not - you're not alone. Most people I know don't really have the werewithal to deal with a truly liberal sexual relationship, which is why people always hear about them ending badly.
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