Neighbours with hardons about treating public road spaces as their own

MikeHiow said:
We're talking about the OP, not me.
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rypt said:
Thing is though, most of these people don't even use the space as they have a drive and use that.
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I am talking about the OP, you have read the OPs posts in this thread I take it.....

MikeHiow said:
If you cannot see the benefits of the OP humouring his neighbours by taking a more humble approach to the matter, then I can only conclude one of three things,

A. You are one of these smart ****s who will do anything "because you legally can". - yes, because the only thing other than being a pushover is a smart arse. that's right.
B. You live in an area where there is no really "neighbourhood". - plenty of 'neighbourhood', we all get on great.
C. You are too insecure to back down to meet a larger agenda. (This usually accompanies small mans syndrome). - Yes, this is me, small man syndrome.

Doing something because you legally can is not always the right option, and backing down to take a better, more logical approach is not a sign of weakness but instead a sign of intelligence - a means to evaluate the situation and take the action that leads to the best outcome, in this instance hassle free parking and maintained relationship with the neighbours for the sake of a 5 minute conversation.
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Its got nothing to do with weakness, its not pandering to stupid peoples stupidity as generally these people will whinge about everything and anything.
The fact that you go on about showing signs of weakness tells me you over analyse things and seem to think its all about power and showing that you will bend over for people just to keep them quiet.
 
MikeHiow said:
Who really wins though?

To begin with: you want to park there, neighbour does not want you to park there.

End result: you want to park there, neighbour allows you to park there.

You have won this situation, for the sake of simply humouring your neighbour.
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Who wins?
You want to park there, so park there. End.

It's not about winning, do you have some power complex or something?
 
MikeHiow said:
Who really wins though?

To begin with: you want to park there, neighbour does not want you to park there.

End result: you want to park there, neighbour allows you to park there.

You have won this situation, for the sake of simply humouring your neighbour.
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To begin with: That's the way it happens
End result: and how on earth will this happen, these neighbours will act like children and if they don't respond to acting like adults, then just get on with your life and do what you do and park where you wish.

Simples.
 
There is no over-analysis, I'm simply breaking down something that should be trivial, for your benefit.

The fact you see my method as "bending over" or being a "pushover" would demonstrate that you are closer to having this "power complex" that you accuse me of. All you seem to be showing here is some kind of conceited view of dominance.

For me, being perceived as a pushover is of no consequence, but being seen as polite and avoiding hassle and any potential future escalation is of far more benefit.
 
Hassle and future escalation? should be trivial?

It shouldnt be trivial at all. They do not use the space and have no legal right to claim it. You are trivialising it by going and knocking on the door.
 
MikeHiow said:
There is no over-analysis, I'm simply breaking down something that should be trivial, for your benefit.

The fact you see my method as "bending over" or being a "pushover" would demonstrate that you are closer to having this "power complex" that you accuse me of. All you seem to be showing here is some kind of conceited view of dominance.
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Well I know you haven't got a degree in psychology, so I'll just stick the logical prognosis of a mild case of delusion.

Presuming I have some power complex is just plain wierd and you presume Morba has the same issue....... WAAAAAT ?????

When you grow up and get off your little island into the real world you might realise that things are not as simple as your creative mind make them out to be.

For me, being perceived as a pushover is of no consequence, but being seen as polite and avoiding hassle and any potential future escalation is of far more benefit.
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Neither Morba or myself never mentioned we were impolite or aggressive in any way, this was something you just assumed and made up.

Have fun analysing this post :)
 
I get the impression Mike lives in a really dodgy area and is therefore worried if he doesnt seek permission to park on public roads he may get his car damaged or something, does seem a bit odd?
 
I was referring to Morba's accusation, not you.

If a neighbour cares enough to for the OP to declare it as a "battle" and for them to be putting notes on his windscreen, I cannot see why anyone would see anything but diffusing the situation as the best option.

I've not suggested that you implied aggression (although the OP has), but ignorance isn't necessarily going to work, either.
 
[TW]Fox;18512919 said:
I get the impression Mike lives in a really dodgy area and is therefore worried if he doesnt seek permission to park on public roads he may get his car damaged or something, does seem a bit odd?
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No, I live in a quiet cul-de-sac where everyone knows each other and has the courtesy not to park outside each other's houses.
 
My close is similar, everyone sticks to their 'own' space and if for whatever reason wish to park in someone elses usual space, will be courteous and ask if they mind beforehand, no one ever says no and everyone gets along happily.

Someone who came along and just started parking wherever and bleating 'but its legal, i can do whatever i want' with some sort of an attitude would very quickly find themselves ostracised from the neighbourhood.

It's nothing to do with bending over or being walked over, it's just a neighbourhood community having a bit of courtesy that makes everyones lives a bit more pleasant. I know which sort of neighbourhood i'd rather live in.
 
The people next door have an E class and either a Land Rover or a Van (depends on a few factors). Their two daughters also have cars, they usually have another vehicle and often have a 6th knocking around for some reason or other.

Their driveway holds two cars - parking can be, erm... "interesting".

It is hugely irritating to not be able to park outside your own house, but thats the way it is sometimes - you just park somewhere else.

We have no actual problem with this, but I'd put all the money I have on the fact that if we parked outside their house they would be round here in a flash kicking off that we had "taken their space".
 
DRZ said:
The people next door have an E class and either a Land Rover or a Van (depends on a few factors). Their two daughters also have cars, they usually have another vehicle and often have a 6th knocking around for some reason or other.

Their driveway holds two cars - parking can be, erm... "interesting".

It is hugely irritating to not be able to park outside your own house, but thats the way it is sometimes - you just park somewhere else.

We have no actual problem with this, but I'd put all the money I have on the fact that if we parked outside their house they would be round here in a flash kicking off that we had "taken their space".
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thats a lot of vehicles! do they all get used or do most sit around not used all day?!
to an extent it is to be expected, given allocated parking is getting less yet more people are driving in each household
 
Our cul-de-sac used to be nice. It's unusual for houses round the area to be rented out, however, due to unfortunate circumstances, the next door neighbour had to move out indefinately and rented the place out...to a bunch of idiots. Luckily they are moving out soon. Looking forward to it. On multiple occasions this has happened...

Green = Grass
Orange = House
Yellow = Driveway
Black box = our car
Red box = Neighbour's uncontrollable guest cars :mad:

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They have four cars themselves, two usually stashed in the garage. The rest are guests cars, as mentioned.

You'd think either the guests would have the decency to realise that they don't own the cul-de-sac....or the people who rent the house...
 
stop being a snob, its not being a renter that has caused the problem lol.

thought about calling the police? you are being blocked from joined the highway.
 
Morba said:
stop being a snob, its not being a renter that has caused the problem lol.

thought about calling the police? you are being blocked from joined the highway.
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Example++

Your attitude shines through again - phoning the police before simply just asking them to move?

Your neighbours must love you.
 
The problem I have with these sorts of things is neighbours using space outside someone elses property when they have space outside their own. It is not against the law, but I think it is rude and inconsiderate.

We have a case down my road where 3, sometimes more, neighbours who live on the previous road park down here. All of them have garages/drives/space on the road, yet park down the next road which has apartments and where we struggle for space. One leaves his van down here 5 out of 7 days a week, the other can fit both his cars on his drive with comfort, which he occasionally does, yet chooses to park one in front of our block and walk to his house, and the other just does not use their drive or garage, but parks down here and walks to his house?

Now to me, again it's not illegal, but it's flipping rude to take the space outside someone else's home when you have more than adequate space outside/on your own.
 
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