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Yeah that's exactly it, I can't remember who said it, I think it might have been Stalin but to paraphrase a single death is a tragedy, a million deaths is a statistic.
Is there something wrong with me?
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Yeah that's exactly it, I can't remember who said it, I think it might have been Stalin but to paraphrase a single death is a tragedy, a million deaths is a statistic.
9/11, Dianne, Japan all terrible things, but tbh I didn't give a crap bout Jade Goody, may even have been fair to call it karma, I still don't get why the hell people cared, she was a celebrity because she was a racist and because she stole money from fat people FFS lol
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I'm like OP but also for people i have direct involvement with.
So why do i only get trolled for saying stuff like this?
So why do i only get trolled for saying stuff like this?
It might be something to do with the fact that you would have claimed to have killed those million people with your evil gaze
So if one of your parents died, you would be like "Oh well, nevermind eh?" Sure thing.
I felt some sadness for what has happened in Japan and my sympathy is with them but overall its not affected me really and I don't really expect people to get that emotional about it unless they are directly effected i.e. have a loved one out there.
Its one thing to feel no emotional involvement another to make light of or be disrespectful of the situation... however I don't think the comment about the photography stuff if it was merely an observation as stated was disrespecful or insensitive.
Its one thing to feel no emotional involvement another to make light of or be disrespectful of the situation... however I don't think the comment about the photography stuff if it was merely an observation as stated was disrespecful or insensitive.
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It might be something to do with the fact that you would have claimed to have killed those million people with your evil gaze
Except that was a joke and i believe it involved a dog not people
No idea how i would feel, and i didn't say that.
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I saw that post on TP and I felt he was pounced upon by people falling over themselves to announce their emotional credentials.
He probably didn't help matters by referring to the situation as a "carry on" (which he has now felt obliged to edit out) but I felt that the chewing out he got was unnecessary.
He probably didn't help matters by referring to the situation as a "carry on" (which he has now felt obliged to edit out) but I felt that the chewing out he got was unnecessary.
Perfectly normal, first thing I did when I heard was to make sure that my friends that are out there and friends that have family out there were alright. But, apart from that, I don't really feel anything towards it.
It is a huge tragedy, but it's beyond my control, there is nothing I can say or do to change the fact, so I don't see the point in stressing about it.
It is a huge tragedy, but it's beyond my control, there is nothing I can say or do to change the fact, so I don't see the point in stressing about it.
You are not odd, what is odd is the people who have no personal connection to people like Diana or Jade Goody or any connection to events like Haiti feeling anything more than a vague sense of sadness and compassion for those that died.
Feeling compassion for those outside of your immediate experience is quite normal, but the hysteria and outburst of sentiment in the aftermath of Diana's death for instance is just madness.
Don't be worried about how you will feel about your own children, the minute they come into the world they will become the only real concern you will have, everything else will become secondary to their welfare and well-being.
The very fact that you are asking these questions means that you are not a sociopath or are anything other than quite normal.
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Perfectly normal.
You're just like me, second guessing yourself and thinking the most negative outcome of upcoming events like having children.
If you don't feel ready for something then don't do it, but if one day you wake up and feel like you want to do it then do it!
You're just like me, second guessing yourself and thinking the most negative outcome of upcoming events like having children.
If you don't feel ready for something then don't do it, but if one day you wake up and feel like you want to do it then do it!
That says you did feel something, yes? Same as me when I was a lad - I didn't get upset when my nana died, but I blubbed hard when the cat died a couple of months later.
Be more worried if you feel emotionally involved in everything that's going on in the world - there was a guy like that at work, "wrapped too tight" as Willard says in Apocalypse Now, he ended up on long-term sick.
Being totally honest, you are the normal one, not the other way round.
From what i have seen, most people react as you do, it it only people who are either unstable to begin with, or being quite frank, are attention seekers that react as you have described when they empathise with the suffering of people they have no personal attachment to.
It's a tragedy, but what's interesting is many of those people you have described don't cry when they see families being wiped out in Iraq or other less media friendly places on Earth. They cry because they think that is what is expected of them much of the time, and are too afraid to not be seen giving the correct emotional response.
If you said "I know all these people have died or are suffering but I genuinely don't care" then that's a problem, that shows an inability to empathise and is a good indicator for the type of mental illness that tends to lead to the likes of serial killers
But you didn't say that, you recognise their suffering, you're just emotionally well balanced (and dare i say it intelligent enough) that you don't instantly start blubbing.
From what i have seen, most people react as you do, it it only people who are either unstable to begin with, or being quite frank, are attention seekers that react as you have described when they empathise with the suffering of people they have no personal attachment to.
It's a tragedy, but what's interesting is many of those people you have described don't cry when they see families being wiped out in Iraq or other less media friendly places on Earth. They cry because they think that is what is expected of them much of the time, and are too afraid to not be seen giving the correct emotional response.
If you said "I know all these people have died or are suffering but I genuinely don't care" then that's a problem, that shows an inability to empathise and is a good indicator for the type of mental illness that tends to lead to the likes of serial killers
But you didn't say that, you recognise their suffering, you're just emotionally well balanced (and dare i say it intelligent enough) that you don't instantly start blubbing.
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Japan is technologically advanced and will be able to recover relatively quick. Granted it is saddening, but I had more sympathy for the 2004 tsunami because it affected 3rd world countries who have less capacity to recover than say Japan.
Other disasters: Jade Goody I don't give a monkeys about. Princess Diana I do give a monkeys because I met her in real life, some 11 years before she died.
Other disasters: Jade Goody I don't give a monkeys about. Princess Diana I do give a monkeys because I met her in real life, some 11 years before she died.
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Some of the footage was pretty moving to me tbh. Watching a huge surge of water carrying ships, fire, bodies and debri, moving towards helpless victims was pretty hard to watch imo. I think it was the 'tsunami moves inland' video on the bbc news site.
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I think having no emotional response whatsoever to 9/11 as it happened is not normal.
When couples, hand in hand, started jumping off the top of the tower - to feel total and utter indifference as if you may as well be watching an episode of 'location location location' - well .. I think is strange.
When couples, hand in hand, started jumping off the top of the tower - to feel total and utter indifference as if you may as well be watching an episode of 'location location location' - well .. I think is strange.
The public outpouring of grief over Diana was abnormal.
I find the personal stories of tragedy more moving than the overall event. I suppose it's impossible to get your head around the whole thing.
But as britboy says, to feel nothing when watching people search for loved ones in rubble, or jumping out of skyscrapers, or videos like this, I'd say makes you a little more than desensitized.
I find the personal stories of tragedy more moving than the overall event. I suppose it's impossible to get your head around the whole thing.
But as britboy says, to feel nothing when watching people search for loved ones in rubble, or jumping out of skyscrapers, or videos like this, I'd say makes you a little more than desensitized.
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You didn't cry when jade goodie died?!
That woman was a national hero! She brought so much to this country and left a massive hole in the nations heart when she passed...