Heartbroken

My long term cheated on me for the second time in the 5 years we were together and she had a few lies floating around for 3 of those. But yes, I felt like you do. We're both happier without each other although it's taken me a while to get over it.

Without knowing how the relationship was breaking you down, I can't say. But maybe a break would have been a better idea than a full break up?
 
What you shouldn't do is what you feel like doing, which i bet is stay in and listen to angry music.

Do the opposite and go out and hang around with your mates and get over her with someone else.

To get over s love affair, just a start a new love affair.
 
What should you do?

Don't talk to each other for a while.

Under no circumstances 'try again' or 'work through it', you've done this for a reason, you need to keep remembering why, any attempt to rebuild what you had will probably mean you'll have to go through all of this again.

Whatever you do don't give her 'one for the road'.
 
People don't know what they've got till it's gone. Are you sure it was the relationship that was causing your depression and not something else.
 
If the relationship wasnt working in your eyes then you did the right thing, it's natural to feel bad about how she took it, you have spent years together and her being in pain is the last thing you want but in the long term it's the right thing for both of you and one day she will see that. Just stick to your guns and tell yourself you did the right thing for both your sakes.
 
You can congratulate yourself on actually having the balls to do it! Unlike most people who would rather continue to be unhappy than alone. A few months down the line you'll be glad you did, I don't doubt you'll miss her but that's the price you pay. Miss her temporarily? or continue to be depressed which would most likely end up affecting your health.
 
Get a rebound bootie call! It'll do you wonders!

No but seriously sitting around being upset will make things ten times worse. Start a new hobby/something to fill the time gaps to avoid being alone. As mentioned, you split with her for a reason.
 
Well done.

Break contact for two weeks - not because you want her gone, but because you need breathing-space.

Within a week you'll know it was for the best. It may be harder for her, if she didn't see it coming - but her life will also be better not stuck in a relationship where your and her depressed attitudes would only make it a misery.

Well done, again, being the dumper is often just as hard as being the dumpee.
 
For the foreseeable future do not keep in contact with her and do not try and be friends. You'll end up sleeping with her and be back in a situation you don't want and the situation will repeat itself.

Don't mope about in bed and the house all day. Get out to see your pals or go for a run or whatever you like to do.
 
You've done the right thing JimaaaH and don't concern yourself with her feelings too much - she'll be out on the town tonight/tomorrow - some random bloke is going to make her feel MUCH better!
 
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