To those with teenagers...

G|mp said:
Especially don't listen to Asim, if his parents had been better at bringing him up he might not of asked a computer forum about bleaching his penis.
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Lolwut? I haven't seen that thread, sounds funny :D Is it just me or has GD slowly become more and more full of starred out swearies? Didn't seem to see them this often when I used to read here about a year ago..
 
Social networking is just as popular as TV etc. Parents just have to accept it. Its not like shes riding every 6th former in town each night whilst doing lines of coke.

Any more ridiculous posts will be met with suspensions as there is some real fire in here.
 
I hate the availability of social networking, texts, phones etc that kids have due to tariffs. My daughter moans all the time that her phone runs out of battery and says its faulty, I say its because she uses it so much, she claims she didnt so i looked at her bill this month, she had used more than 7000 texts in a month.

7000!!!
 
ouch, if you average that out its a text every 6 minutes awake or asleep!!

There was never any intention of banning social networking just moderating it.
 
thepeganator said:
I'm the other end, completely agree with the OP.

Family time is useful and needed, and I'm glad in hindsight that I had it!

Technology is great yes, kids communicate via fb, msn etc, but this shouldn't be relied on!

Have I ever got through an interview using the internet or facebook?
No, because I actually have some social skills due to the internet not always being in use!

There is an overwhelming reliance on facebook and other social networking sites nowadays, and it's degrading some of our social skills sets.

Let them facebook or chat, but go ahead with limiting.

I was never allowed the tv on ALL evening, and had a certain amount of credit per month on my phone.
The advent of facebook/twitter/msn has meant that the idea of limits is eroding. When my credit was done I was done, no getting more, I knew the limit and made it last.
With facebook having no limit, it needs to be enforced somewhere!

I have seen the progression though, with me it was "can I please read my book for longer before the light gets turned out", with my sister (3 years younger) "can I please stay up and watch the tv please", with my brother (13 years younger) "can I please go on the computer/internet for longer".
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We have a router that can allow us to specify what times a computer (by IP or MAC address) can access the internet. It worked well when they were younger (early > mid teens) as it went off at 9pm so they'd spend an hour or so doing other things which almost calmed them down before bed. It was left online for longer at weekends though (so we're not that tight :D)
Now they're older (mid > late teens) and the times are now midnight during the week and 2am at weekends (they work at a local pub/restaurant sometimes so if they work late, they can still go on it when they get home). The eldest is almost 20 - hers is unrestricted.

I can relate to the OP though definitely, and it is difficult to have a father/child relationship when they're glued to a computer/phone screen all the time.

Plus, if the row with her mum was unrelated to the internet, removing her access to the internet is a damn good punishment - might make them think next time :D </evil-father-muahaha>

I'll bet that most of the angry responses are from non-parents or those with young kids (yet to reach teenage years). They'll understand exactly how you (and how I did) feel when their kids get older :D
 
jonifen said:
We have a router that can allow us to specify what times a computer (by IP or MAC address) can access the internet. It worked well when they were younger (early > mid teens) as it went off at 9pm so they'd spend an hour or so doing other things which almost calmed them down before bed. It was left online for longer at weekends though (so we're not that tight :D)
Now they're older (mid > late teens) and the times are now midnight during the week and 2am at weekends (they work at a local pub/restaurant sometimes so if they work late, they can still go on it when they get home). The eldest is almost 20 - hers is unrestricted.
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I think those times are perfectly well judged. althrough i wouldn't allow unrestricted until 21 :D
 
Ok heres how I see it:

You shouldnt stop her using it or talking to her friends. I use it to communicate and organise stuff. I think thoe if your concerned is to sit down and talk to her. If your worried about her security explain to her about the risks and let her make her own decissions.

If you want her to spend more time with her organise a trip or a day out. Do something she will want to do.

At the age of 21 i still live at home so I see this war time to time. For example my dad doesnt want phones at the dinner table which I respect and my phone stays in my pocket. My 18 year old sister however strugles to follow this rule and trys everything to sneak text etc.
 
Just stumbled across this thread. Dont know if you have the ban still in place but just thought Id give an opinion on it.

Im currently 20 myself and to be honest Im on facebook a lot my self. If im in the house then my laptop will be up and running with facebook open. Even though its open I dont constantly sit on it waiting for every update possible as I do jobs around the house etc but its still open just incase someone wants to talk and I hear it go off. Now this has never done me any harm and I still go out and enjoy time with my friends when ever I can. Just means that when Im not with them I can still talk to them and arrange plans with them as well. Now I completely agree that family time is important but like many people have said you cant force them to watch a dvd. There is that distraction of wanting to go on facebook etc. For my family time I would go out for a meal with my mother and spend time like that. That way she wont have any distractions and if she goes for her phone then you can say its rude etc when eating to be texting other people.

Thats the way I see it anyways and many people might disagree with me especially with me only being 20 they might think I have a biased view on it but you need a view from both sides.
 
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