Going to lose my Dad soon

brucey034

brucey034

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My dad has been in a lot of pain since Christmas, the doctor has done numerous tests but was unable to locate the problem.
My dad collapsed on Friday while he was at home, luckily I was there at his house.
We have been told by the hospital that my Dad has lung,liver and bone cancer.
It's only been four years since we lost my Mum.
Where do you start ? my dads home is rented and it's full of stuff, a lot of it sentimental.
My younger brother and his wife travelled down too see dad which was nice or so I thought.
They are making noises about who is having what etc, they have even sorted what they want to do with my dads television.
Unreal just crazy, my concern is my dad, and making sure he has the best care possible for the short time he has left.
It had not even entered my head about the financial stuff etc.
My dad does'nt really have any money, just an old car and usual household stuff.
He hasn't done a will and I know that has to be done.
Numb is probably the best way to describe how im feeling.
 
Sorry to hear that mate....just try and keep your dad in as much comfort as possible and be there for him:(.
 
Just awful news. It happened with my grandad, they could find no problem with him even though he'd had a hacking cough for over a year - by the time they located the lung cancer one of his lungs was dead and there was nothing they could do.

I just don't understand why things aren't found until they're too late - cancer is such a horrible, sneaky illness.

Stay strong and make your dad's remaining time really peaceful for him. You're doing the right thing. Belongings and money can be sorted out afterwards.
 
sorry to hear that, im in kinda the same problem with my dad, my bro keeps on about his money etc, its amazing how selfish people can be.
 
I've noticed that siblings always seem to change when it comes to the financial stuff. There's always a money grabber unfortunately.

Sorry to hear about your dad, I wish him the best of luck.
 
brucey034 said:
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We have been told by the hospital that my Dad has lung,liver and bone cancer.
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Thats an insane amount of bad news to take in all at once, even more so for your dad :(. Just spend as much time as possible with him and try to forget about the selfishness of others at this time.
 
I can understand what you must be going through, best advice I can give is just stay strong and keep your head on your shoulders, hopefully what ever happens will be for the best. Hope you're Dad has the best care possible for however long he has left.

Regarding the Will, best to call a Solicitor and try get something sorted.
 
Vita said:
I can understand what you must be going through, best advice I can give is just stay strong and keep your head on your shoulders, hopefully what ever happens will be for the best. Hope you're Dad has the best care possible for however long he has left.

Regarding the Will, best to call a Solicitor and try get something sorted.
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Agreed.

Best wishes through all of this dude.
 
So very sorry to hear about your dad's bad news. :( It sounds like you're doing everything you can to make things as easy as possible for him, just keep on doing what you're doing.

As someone said above, don't be too quick to judge - perhaps your brother is just handling the bad news in the only way he knows how: being practical. I'm not saying that IS the case, just suggesting that might be the real reason behind his apparent callousness.

It might be wise to have a chat with your dad over things like power of attorney, a will etc. It sounds awful but having been through similar with a relative two years ago, having the legals covered can save a hell of a lot of grief later on.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all. All the best to your dad. :)
 
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