Anyone had an affair ?
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That's now, they won't stay matched forever. What will you do when they aren't? Leave again, split again?
I've been with my wife since we were 18, nearly 19 years now and although matched for many years, there's been plenty of times when the sex drive has been heavily balanced one way or the other. So you would walk to find someone to match your sex drive again despite being in an otherwise excellent relationship?
It's only in soaps that you eventually get caught.
No... Because now we have been together long enough for emotions and love to become involved. I'm talking about shorter relationships here. Any future differences will be worked through unless they eventually become a huge issue.
LOL...no u do get caught invariably in real life...sure some guys/women manage to keep it a secret but majority of people do get caught as someone slips up
....but sure you keep believing that.
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Related question but on a tangent:
I too used to be a lot like some in this thread. I was cheated on when very young and throughout most of my twenties I vowed never to inflict that sort of pain on some buxom wench. Call it getting old or perhaps even bitter at the world and what its people get up to, does that point of view remain or is it changed?
Gotta say I'm starting to wonder about the latter, in a non specific way of course.
I too used to be a lot like some in this thread. I was cheated on when very young and throughout most of my twenties I vowed never to inflict that sort of pain on some buxom wench. Call it getting old or perhaps even bitter at the world and what its people get up to, does that point of view remain or is it changed?
Gotta say I'm starting to wonder about the latter, in a non specific way of course.
Ah understood
LOL...no u do get caught invariably in real life...sure some guys/women manage to keep it a secret but majority of people do get caught as someone slips up
I've worked in an environment since I was 16 where it was mainly hundreds of men. I wish I'd known the exact percentage of those men who had one night stands or affairs etc. I can think of only a couple of occasions where they have been found out.
Even in my closest circle of friends or couple mutal friends with with my wife we both know of cheaters in the relationship that have never been caught. We have even sat and listened to both halves of another couple spout on about how they would know if their other half was cheating, when both me and my wife both know full well both of them have had bits on the side or full blown regular **** buddies.
Also in my industry you get a lot of contracters and it's not unusual for them to hire a live in girlfriend when abroad or have a GF in another time zone. I can only think of one that's ever been caught.
It's not something that shocks me tbh or anything I would get annoyed about.
I think bitterness can cause a cognitive delegation and impact on your moral integrity, for sure. I know where you're coming from though, as although I know I never will, the idea of it doesn't really bother me as much as it used to which is odd.
I guess it is also an age thing though as the world becomes more greyscale. That said, just got to rise above it and not lower yourself to that level.
I guess it is also an age thing though as the world becomes more greyscale. That said, just got to rise above it and not lower yourself to that level.
Yes.
Both my parents had affairs whilst they were married. Their marriage had been over for a while and they were just staying together for the kids which caused untold misery throughout the family home, shown by them separating 5 days after I went to University, with my saying "about time" when I got told.
They are now in a much better position and great friends who go on holiday together and my Dad is actually staying at my Mums house at the minute.
Just goes to show that sometimes it's better to leave your partner if it is over than try and patch things up.
Radio 2 is all about parents divorcing at the moment, which is quite apt.
Both my parents had affairs whilst they were married. Their marriage had been over for a while and they were just staying together for the kids which caused untold misery throughout the family home, shown by them separating 5 days after I went to University, with my saying "about time" when I got told.
They are now in a much better position and great friends who go on holiday together and my Dad is actually staying at my Mums house at the minute.
Just goes to show that sometimes it's better to leave your partner if it is over than try and patch things up.
Radio 2 is all about parents divorcing at the moment, which is quite apt.
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Like anything in life, as you grow older and gain more experience and your life settles a bit more, you see things differently.
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You didnt have an affair then, she did.
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I've not, however I do think that anybody in the right circumstances can be drawn into an affair regardless of the state of their current relationship.
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Yes, three one night stands and one relationship who I left my ex-wife for.
Agreed I don't think you necessarily need to be unhappy in your current relationship.
Sort of related to the subject i hope,
Never have never will due out of princible,
Although had a discussion with my gf sometime back and she says she could forgive me if i ever cheated
not that i would ever dream of doing so even with any form of permission i know she thinks the world of me just confused me when she said it.
Never have never will due out of princible,
Although had a discussion with my gf sometime back and she says she could forgive me if i ever cheated
not that i would ever dream of doing so even with any form of permission i know she thinks the world of me just confused me when she said it.