Going to lose my Dad soon

Brucey you're a top bloke, you did your duty and looked after your dad in his last days. You can be rightly proud of yourself.
Now you must take time for yourself to mourn your loss, however you must also do the right thing by your fathers estate (assuming you are the oldest sibling) and make sure it's protected and correctly dealt with. Tell your brother to sod off until after the funeral and then your fathers property will be dealt with. Stand your ground and don't let him use your weakened emotional state to push you to do something you are not happy with.

My deepest condolences and I wish you well.
 
I hope he went peacefully and that you can come to terms with it.

My grandad died on friday. Diagnosed with luekemia last march - been getting steadily worse, took a bad turn in hospital on thursday and his kidneys failed overnight, he'd been put under because of the pain. They took all his tubes and mask off on friday... was told he could survive upto 24 hours but he was gone in 20 minutes... nothing quite prepares you for it...
 
So sorry to hear your news. Just try keep strong that's all I can recommend as I went through it 4 months a go.
 
Moley said:
Brucey you're a top bloke, you did your duty and looked after your dad in his last days. You can be rightly proud of yourself.
Now you must take time for yourself to mourn your loss, however you must also do the right thing by your fathers estate (assuming you are the oldest sibling) and make sure it's protected and correctly dealt with. Tell your brother to sod off until after the funeral and then your fathers property will be dealt with. Stand your ground and don't let him use your weakened emotional state to push you to do something you are not happy with.

My deepest condolences and I wish you well.
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Dad did not do a will, Am I number 1 due to being the eldest ?
 
All you can do is try and comfort your dad, I don't think words will express his gratitude for doing so if you have been close to him. It's a really sad situation to be in, and the thought of such a loss is incredibly grievous, but the fact you are continuing to visit him regularly is a great kindness that not many people can see their loved ones go through. You and your father will be in my thoughts, and I hope that any suffering may be shortlived and kept to a minimum. I pray these words aid in your comfort somehow.
 
brucey034 said:
Dad did not do a will, Am I number 1 due to being the eldest ?
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If your dad didn't leave a will then I believe his estate will be "in probate" and you will need some help to administer it. The probate helpline can help:

The Probate and Inheritance Tax Helpline is open Monday to Friday 9am – 5pm. The 0845 30 20 900 number offers callers the following 3 choices

1) Leave an order for forms and leaflets on the automated service
2) Speak to a Probate advisor
3) Speak to an Inheritance Tax advisor

But do yourself a favour and leave it until after the funeral - you have enough to deal with already.

Good luck to you.
 
Dude I was scrolling through the threads and this honestly just made me stop and feel so sorry for you. I hope you stay strong and like others have said we're here for support.
 
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