Do You Have Friends?

arknor · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:17

Freefaller said:
They spend all their time online and don't know how to interact with "real" people!

lol explain my marriage , kid etc then.. if we cant interact with people how do we get jobs

some of us just dont feel the need to have friends , my doctor thinks i have aspergers but the goverment arent intresting unless i can pay £1000 for diagnosis :rolleyes:

should have been caught when i was at school but when u go to one of the worst schools in the country i guess you get neglected (not an exgeration it was one of the schools ranked at the bottom for our country)

To the chap in Newcastle, what are you doing ? Whilst I'm from teesside and therefore a smog monster in the eyes of the geordies, I do feel the need to highlight how friendly the NE is, how can you be there 10 years and not make a friend ?

read above.

where abouts do you live in nottingham anyway? i used to live in bulwell

i moved when i was around 19, all my family still live in the area

Bleek · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:19

I don't want to make the OP feel rubbish but I have hundreds of friends, I really don't know how I'd 'survive' without seeing friends on a regular basis i.e. every few days?

I'm much less of a family man, I don't have my own, I only keep in touch with my immediate.

Saying you don't have a single friend is really quite sad - can't you join a local club/group such as football or running where meeting people is easy?

JHeaton · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:19

vonhelmet said:
I'm rubbish with people. Absolutely hopeless. At the moment I'd count myself as having one friend. Loads of acquaintances, but only really one friend.

This is similar to my situation at the moment, although it hasn't always been that way. I used to be all right at making good friends, now I'm useless.

FNGsam · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:21

Tunney said:
Come to the OCuk meet-up in London and make some friends.

This TBH. I move from aussie over here and only had my cousin that I knew basically. Dossed at his place for a while and made some friends there (wasn't hard considering there are like 15 people living there

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Made some really good friends from work now as well, who are my really good mates and have a missus as well which I guess is good sometimes

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FabienO · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:22

Most friends don't really hang out unless there's an agenda involving alcohol, sport or food.

Nash · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:22

Negative.

arknor · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:24

Bleek said:
I don't want to make the OP feel rubbish but I have hundreds of friends, I really don't know how I'd 'survive' without seeing friends on a regular basis i.e. every few days?

I'm much less of a family man, I don't have my own, I only keep in touch with my immediate.

Saying you don't have a single friend is really quite sad - can't you join a local club/group such as football or running where meeting people is easy?

i bet you have hundreds of friends like my uber popular step son who works in a nightclub.
hes got 956 friends acording to his facebook... i know for a fact he only hangs around with about 10-20 of them....

therutz · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:27

FabienO said:
Most friends don't really hang out unless there's an agenda involving alcohol, sport or food.

SOOOOOOOOOOOO TRUE

LOAM · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:27

arknor said:
where abouts do you live in nottingham anyway? i used to live in bulwell i moved when i was around 19, all my family still live in the area

We are out in Woodthorpe now, started in Lenton (doesn't everyone ?).
When in Newcastle, buy something black and white (if theres anything left that is black and white ), head to the nearest pub, instant friends

Bleek · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:31

arknor said:
i bet you have hundreds of friends like my uber popular step son who works in a nightclub.
hes got 956 friends acording to his facebook... i know for a fact he only hangs around with about 10-20 of them....

Not at all, I just have many circles of friends from all walks of life.

I know thousands of people, that's different to having a few hundred friends.

By friend I mean any single person I could quite happily invite round for a brew or out for a drink. Admittedly some of them I'd rather have accompanied by other friends, but if push came to shove...

Philip · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:41

JHeaton said:
Two or three, don't really speak to them much. I've been somewhat anti-social the past few years.

Similar to myself, I've pretty much been anti-social since I left high school, I chat to a few people online but that's pretty much it.

OriginalJonty · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:42

I have many friends all of whom I could rely on for pretty much anything. Don't have a girlfriend though.

Bleek · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:44

Philip said:
Similar to myself, I've pretty much been anti-social since I left high school, I chat to a few people online but that's pretty much it.

Don't you want to get involved rather than being on your own all the time? :confused:

Philip · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:48

Sometimes I do but most of the time I just prefer to be alone.

Hedge · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:49

I have around ten close friends I talk to regular but many more through work etc, I think if you have no friends you must have seriously poor social skills or you must be a bit of a git that no one likes.

It must be a lonely life folks, get out there and live a little .

IceBus · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:53

I have some amazing friends, but right now don't live anywhere near the vast majority of them. A lot live stateside while I'm stuck in Northern Ireland, and most of my friends from here are now over in London or Manchester. Can't wait to get out of Northern Ireland and hopefully back to the USA.

StoutMeister · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:55

Jaap74 said:
pass me the razorblades.......

Skidder · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:56

Bleek said:
Not at all, I just have many circles of friends from all walks of life.

I know thousands of people, that's different to having a few hundred friends.

By friend I mean any single person I could quite happily invite round for a brew or out for a drink. Admittedly some of them I'd rather have accompanied by other friends, but if push came to shove...

That is why I think some people have been making the distinction between good friends and mates. Real friends are people you view almost as family in terms of what you would do for them and vice versa. I would imagine most people have much wider circles for drinking, messing etc.

Fenris · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:57

I don't, got to the point that I don't really care either.

flibbage0 · 13 Apr 2011 at 08:57

I have quite a few acquaintances, If I see them on the street we will have a quick chat.

Actual friends I spend time with at the moment is 1 or 2.