Am I crazy to want more?

Have you challenged your body in anyway? Be it through sports or exercising. I can't help but think no amount of success will compare to achieving your bodies potential.
 
lttlejoe said:
Now I'm sure many readers of this post will probably be thinking WTF is he whining on about and they are most probably right.

I appreciate that I have attained many of life's goals that most people strive desperately to attain throughout their life - I'm self employed, reasonably sucessful, have a relatively secure income, nice 4 bed det home in a good area, no mortgage, debts or other financial issues, I run 3 cars icluding a sports car, been to university and enjoy a very reasonable standard of living together with my lovely and attractive long term 26 year old partner of 8 years who is around half my age and we have what could be described as an ideal relationship or as near as it's possible to get in any relationship.

Effectively I realise I have what most guys would be more than content with... so why do I always have this restless feeling at the back of my mind that there is more to life?
I'm certainly not going through a mid life crisis as I have always had these feelings ever since I first left school and went self employed and I'm not really in search of or place too much importance on accumulating more money/wealth or material things though of course they do help - I just miss that buzz and excitement one gets when stepping out into the unknown in a new phase in one's life where everything isn't guaranteed or so predictable and relatively secure.

I've always worked hard and been Mr' Responsible and I doubt that side of me would change but I have this yearning that I want to drop everything, perhaps later this year and start out all over again and do something completely different which is completely out of my comfort zone - not because I'm remotely unhappy with any part of my present life or work, but simply for the challenge of facing something new and uncharted for me.
My partner is fully supportive and understanding and I could afford to take time out for at least 2 or 3 years and still not have to work and although I could never see myself compromising my long tern security, I would like more challenge and calculated risk to my life

The question is:
Am I alone in thinking like this or more to the point, am I crazy to want more from life at this stage of life or should I simply settle for and appreciate what I already have and grow old gracefully if somewhat predictably and without hassle?
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All the hyperbole aside, what exactly is it you want from life? Whatever it is, go and do that. If you can't or don't want to do this then moderate your life goals down to something more manageable. If you do want it then get on with it.

You're (at least) a 50 year old man unless my maths is way off. Act like one.
 
Whilst I don't have half the things you have, I sit here smugly appreciating that I am half your age and happier than you. :p
 
simulatorman said:
Sounds like a midlife crisis of sorts to me. You need to have some excitement or a challenge in your life. Take up climbing, race cars or something similar. Adopt some kids that will give you what you are missing.
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If it was a mid life crisis, that would be so easy to resolve but I don't have those issues!
I definitely agree that I need something by way of a new challenge - that has probably been the story of my life so far and the one thing that has kept me motivated and kept me going.

As I've said, I really wish I could settle for what I've achieved but I can't and just wondered if I'm alone in my thinking!
 
krooton said:
Whilst I don't have half the things you have, I sit here smugly appreciating that I am half your age and happier than you. :p
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When I was your age, I had virtually all I have now except for my new partner so, material things are not a prerequisite for happiness for me!

In fact, I'm not remotely unhappy...I'm just seeking more from life which is very different to being unhappy.
 
Isn't there a word for "always wanting more"...?

I don't lack ambition or goals, but I am glad that I don't need that much to be satisfied with my lot in life.
 
everyone wants more of something, you just go to figure out what! If you have no responsabilities (ie grown kids etc etc) you can go and do something wild and crazy!

start dogging :D
 
Why don't you do something for other people instead of thinking what you can do for yourself.

That should fill a nice hole in your self worth :)

Life isn't about consuming and getting to the top, because as you have found, there is nothing there when you reach that point.
Help somebody else for a bit, then your life will have had some point to it.

Think about it, doing the same thing over and over isn't going to make you feel more fulfilled.
 
You know what grinds my gears? I know you, GD en masse, don't care but I'm going to explain, regardless. Buckle up, buttercup.

No one owes you anything. Darfur war orphan? Yeah, that's tough and horrible and a dreadful situation to be in. Living in a first world country? Tell me about your make-believe problems, no really, I want to hear about how your internet is slow or your bald spot is increasing in diameter or your friend on facebook hasn't responded to your oh-my-GOD so important status update. Also, please tell me about your wife who is half your age but you're not happy for reasons that you cannot explain, even though you appear to be a mature and educated adult.

Oh, it's TAX or it's MUSLIMS or it's, I don't even know, LIBERALS, is it? What about that hedge fund which is under delivering? That's not your fault either, I mean it can't be, right? Apple products are stretching your fabulously healthy income? Well, boo to the hoo. Wait, it's not muslims because you ARE a muslim; it's those other guys who are oppressing you even though you have literally no idea what repression means.

Get a goddamn grip.

So, getting back to the OP and his inability to attempt to fix his life. You should be ashamed. You should think about what you have and if it is not what you want then you should change it. If it's nearly what you want then you should adapt it to what makes it exactly what you want. If it's exactly what you want then stop posting about your OH MY GOD TERRIBLE LIFE and just man the **** up and be an adult and love it.
 
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Semple said:
I think by the sounds of things you're now set in your way. You feel like every day you wake up and do the same daily routine over and over again. As you've stated you do live a comfortable lifestyle and run a successful career/business and that you've been with your partner for a long time.

You sound like someone who wants new challenges whether these be career challenges or a personal challenge. As you're self employed perhaps, if money permits and you're willing to take a risk, you could start on a small business. That for one should be a fairly big challenge. If you're not looking in the direction of a career challenge maybe look closer to home. I noticed when reading you said you lived in a 4 bedroomed house but didn't mention any children. Not been there myself yet but pretty sure you could ask most parents and they will say bringing a child up is a huge challenge.

You could also look at challenges that suit your personality. Such as sports. Try out some new sports or maybe a sport you'd like to get better at.

Choose a challenge that you feel suits your lifestyle and personality. Something that you'd enjoy doing and something that you can keep challenging yourself with.
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I think fundamentally, you're right about me being in a rut, well maybe not quite a rut but I'm too on top of things at the moment to stretch me enough. I need to feel slightly insecure or venture into the unknown in order for things to challenge me and give me that buzz I miss so much!
I suspect starting a new business from scratch is probably what I need to fulfil my needs - it's not so much monetary gain that I'm seeking, I just need something to challenge me mentally!
 
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