Am I crazy to want more?

Clipsey · 15 Apr 2011 at 03:21

Do an Iron man if your man enough

that will keep you busy.

Dickyb0b · 15 Apr 2011 at 03:26

my lovely and attractive long term 26 year old partner of 8 years who is around half my age

you telling me when you was 44,you was with an 18 year old???, thats sick

Totality · 15 Apr 2011 at 03:58

To be honest, reading your OP I didn't see anything particularly special about it? You grew old, bought a house, have a wife, kid and cars. Isn't that just the normal "what you're expected to do in life" situation?

Wouldn't be my cup of tea as I get bored easily and love travelling so am always heading off to other countries. I sometimes think about a family, but realise I'm not ready yet and don't have masses of savings as I'm always off doing some crazy thing. I'm sure I'll settle down some day, but for now I'm content with not having much cash, but being free to bugger off wherever I want to with mates and seeing what the world has to offer. I'll probably die poor but ah well

I worked in high level IT back in the UK and despite hating it at the time, I have found that wherever I go I can find work in IT as it is universal so has worked out well!

Coming to the end of my 1 year NZ work Visa so time to decide whether to grab a 1 year OZ one and head there for a while, head over to Canada or continue to residency here and then go to OZ for a bit if I'm accepted later on. It's coming into winter now so getting cold

It depends what you're after in life. Some people want a family and go the family route, others never grow up (like me I suppose haha) and so grow old poor. Whatever makes you happy really as everyone's different

[FnG]magnolia · 15 Apr 2011 at 05:57

lttlejoe said:
The question is:
Am I alone in thinking like this or more to the point, am I crazy to want more from life at this stage of life or should I simply settle for and appreciate what I already have and grow old gracefully if somewhat predictably and without hassle?

I see you've pretty much ignored every suggestion that's been posted.

What do you think about the situation? What do you want to do about it? What's your plan to fix things? What's your way of explaining this to your wife?

Can't you just get on and do 'it' whatever 'it' happens to be? Why are you asking strangers on a computer forum for advice which will affect your life? Think about that - advice which will affect your LIFE. This isn't a 'spec me a new laptop' or 'should I buy a better monitor', it's a bit more important and permanent than that.

You should be discussing these issues - and they are issues, they're not just thoughts - with your wife and together deciding on a way to make you happier. Asking us - particularly when you're ignoring most of the responses - is just pointless.

Narj · 15 Apr 2011 at 07:47

Dickyb0b said:
you telling me when you was 44,you was with an 18 year old???, thats sick

Jealous, tbh.

[TW]Fox · 15 Apr 2011 at 07:58

dowie said:
So to sum up the OP you might as well have basically put you live a fairly normal existence in suburbia and aside from having a wife who is significantly younger than you everything else is rather ordinary.

Seems that way. Came across as quite 'Look how amazing everything is, I have 3 cars and one is a sports car' then he tells us that his sports car is a Z3. Nice cars, the Z3, but they are about £3-4k so it rather killed the impression most of us had that he had a Porsche or something to go with his Playboy lifestyle.

lttlejoe · 15 Apr 2011 at 08:25

[TW]Fox;18907936 said:
Seems that way. Came across as quite 'Look how amazing everything is, I have 3 cars and one is a sports car' then he tells us that his sports car is a Z3. Nice cars, the Z3, but they are about £3-4k so it rather killed the impression most of us had that he had a Porsche or something to go with his Playboy lifestyle.

WTF said anything about a playboy lifestyle?
I live a quite ordinary lifestyle -I've simply reached a point in my life where in theory I should be happy with what I've got and have all the normal aspiratioons covered!
It's got nothing to do with bragging etc as some morons suggest. I really can't see what all the fuss is about? Maybe I should have worked less hard and saved less and have had no ambition...would that have been more acceptable? Money or wealth is no measure of how one feels - at least for me it doesn't!
All I asked was should I be happy with what I have and not have the feeling of wanting to do more, rather than stagnate at this stage in my life?

Maybe I should just settle down, go to the pub every weekend with my mates and get a beer belly, go bald and grey which I'm not and go on package holidays to Benidorm! Would that be how I should behave?

lttlejoe · 15 Apr 2011 at 08:29

Dickyb0b said:
my lovely and attractive long term 26 year old partner of 8 years who is around half my age

you telling me when you was 44,you was with an 18 year old???, thats sick

I'll show her your post that you think her sick.
After all it was she who made the first advances and asked me out. ****hole!

lttlejoe · 15 Apr 2011 at 08:32

PianoBasher said:
Jealous, tbh.

LOL...There's nothing to be jealous about PB - being with a younger woman is no different to being with an older one...they all nag like ****

lttlejoe · 15 Apr 2011 at 08:44

Totality said:
To be honest, reading your OP I didn't see anything particularly special about it? You grew old, bought a house, have a wife, kid and cars. Isn't that just the normal "what you're expected to do in life" situation?

Wouldn't be my cup of tea as I get bored easily and love travelling so am always heading off to other countries. I sometimes think about a family, but realise I'm not ready yet and don't have masses of savings as I'm always off doing some crazy thing. I'm sure I'll settle down some day, but for now I'm content with not having much cash, but being free to bugger off wherever I want to with mates and seeing what the world has to offer. I'll probably die poor but ah well I worked in high level IT back in the UK and despite hating it at the time, I have found that wherever I go I can find work in IT as it is universal so has worked out well!

Coming to the end of my 1 year NZ work Visa so time to decide whether to grab a 1 year OZ one and head there for a while, head over to Canada or continue to residency here and then go to OZ for a bit if I'm accepted later on. It's coming into winter now so getting cold

It depends what you're after in life. Some people want a family and go the family route, others never grow up (like me I suppose haha) and so grow old poor. Whatever makes you happy really as everyone's different

You're absolutely right about my post and me! I've done what most ordinary sensible people will do over the years and accumulate their apsirations and convert them into material goods. I was just fortunate that I obtained some things earlier in life than most.
The problem is nothing to do with more wealth creation - I simply want more of a challenge to my life right now!
For three years, I dropped out of my career and obtained a university honours degree as a mature student so I've been there and done that and it did fulfil part of what I wanted from life. I've also been reasonably sucessful in earning my living having never worked for anyone else.
In theory, I should be contented with what I done in my life so far but I just need more challenge!
When I've reached the point where I don't seek further challenge then I'll most likely dedicate some of my spare time to helping others - but in the meantime.....

[FnG]magnolia · 15 Apr 2011 at 08:47

lttlejoe said:
Maybe I should just settle down, go to the pub every weekend with my mates and get a beer belly, go bald and grey which I'm not and go on package holidays to Benidorm! Would that be how I should behave?

No, maybe as an adult of advanced years you should be able to decide what is best for you and your wife. In fact a really good place to start would be to stop using the word 'maybe' in all of your posts and just actively DO something.

A 17 year old not sure what to do with his life and looking for some kind of guidance is one thing. A 50+ year old guy who brags (a Z3, a sports car, really?) and ignores very decent advice is far sadder.

Stop posting and fix your life yourself.

silversurfer · 15 Apr 2011 at 08:49

Clipsey said:
Do an Iron man if your man enough that will keep you busy.

is for wimps

Do the Sparta Marathon. Athens to Sparta in two days, a distance of 246 km

http://www.spartathlon.gr/main.php

Skidder · 15 Apr 2011 at 08:52

What about moving down south and trying to replicate that same 'lifestyle', that would be a new challenge for you.

Snax · 15 Apr 2011 at 08:58

Give something back to society. Do some volunteer work

Castiel · 15 Apr 2011 at 08:59

Reading some of littlejoes follow up posts I am of the increasing opinion that he is full of it.

Of course the retort will be to call me a moron for having an opinion, but alas such is life....

subbytna · 15 Apr 2011 at 09:00

lttlejoe said:
Now I'm sure many readers of this post will probably be thinking WTF is he whining on about and they are most probably right.

I appreciate that I have attained many of life's goals that most people strive desperately to attain throughout their life - I'm self employed, reasonably sucessful, have a relatively secure income, nice 4 bed det home in a good area, no mortgage, debts or other financial issues, I run 3 cars icluding a sports car, been to university and enjoy a very reasonable standard of living together with my lovely and attractive long term 26 year old partner of 8 years who is around half my age and we have what could be described as an ideal relationship or as near as it's possible to get in any relationship.

Effectively I realise I have what most guys would be more than content with... so why do I always have this restless feeling at the back of my mind that there is more to life?
I'm certainly not going through a mid life crisis as I have always had these feelings ever since I first left school and went self employed and I'm not really in search of or place too much importance on accumulating more money/wealth or material things though of course they do help - I just miss that buzz and excitement one gets when stepping out into the unknown in a new phase in one's life where everything isn't guaranteed or so predictable and relatively secure.

I've always worked hard and been Mr' Responsible and I doubt that side of me would change but I have this yearning that I want to drop everything, perhaps later this year and start out all over again and do something completely different which is completely out of my comfort zone - not because I'm remotely unhappy with any part of my present life or work, but simply for the challenge of facing something new and uncharted for me.
My partner is fully supportive and understanding and I could afford to take time out for at least 2 or 3 years and still not have to work and although I could never see myself compromising my long tern security, I would like more challenge and calculated risk to my life

The question is:
Am I alone in thinking like this or more to the point, am I crazy to want more from life at this stage of life or should I simply settle for and appreciate what I already have and grow old gracefully if somewhat predictably and without hassle?

http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=18264271
this thread....maybe it IS really what you want and you just don't know it...

subbytna · 15 Apr 2011 at 09:03

Phenom x4 AMD 955 BE - Gigabyte GA-MA78LMT-US2H 760G - 4Gb RAM - 1Tb Spinpoint f3 - Samsung DVD Rom - Samsung DVD RW - Akasa Raptor - Akasa Card Reader - Bequiet L7 - Microsoft 1000 w/less kbd/mouse - Creative Labs 5.1

get a decent graphics card for a start or pump money into a mad modding scheme and build yourself a techy dream pc

lttlejoe · 15 Apr 2011 at 09:04

[FnG]magnolia;18908070 said:
No, maybe as an adult of advanced years you should be able to decide what is best for you and your wife. In fact a really good place to start would be to stop using the word 'maybe' in all of your posts and just actively DO something.

A 17 year old not sure what to do with his life and looking for some kind of guidance is one thing. A 50+ year old guy who brags (a Z3, a sports car, really?) and ignores very decent advice is far sadder.

Stop posting and fix your life yourself.

I'll ignore your petty little rant and point out my OP question was aimed to find if I was alone in thinking that I am the only one who's reached this stage of life and still has the need for a challenge in their life!

As for your sports car comment, I merely pointed out that I didn't run a Porshe..the nearest I have to a sports car is a Z3 and I hardly ever drive that!

I could probably afford to buy and run one but I have no interest in owning one. A car is just a car to me and they all cost too much money to run so, the last thing I'd spend my money on is one that depreciates even faster!

subbytna · 15 Apr 2011 at 09:04

bitslice said:
Why don't you do something for other people instead of thinking what you can do for yourself.

That should fill a nice hole in your self worth

Life isn't about consuming and getting to the top, because as you have found, there is nothing there when you reach that point.
Help somebody else for a bit, then your life will have had some point to it.

Think about it, doing the same thing over and over isn't going to make you feel more fulfilled.

post of the day...well in...

lttlejoe · 15 Apr 2011 at 09:05

subbytna said:
get a decent graphics card for a start or pump money into a mad modding scheme and build yourself a techy dream pc

Yep, you're right...the problem is if I get one now I'll start spending even more time on computers than I do right now LOL