Am I crazy to want more?

[FutileBreadMachine]

Look at it from the other side though, if you had an 18yr old daughter and she brought a 44 man home to meet you, how would you react? I would kick **** out of him tbh.

This is kind of the point of view I have too. An 18 year old girl would be in her final year of High School in South Africa (where I'm from), so the whole idea of a way older man having his filthy way with her is repugnant to me. REPUGNANT!

 

[oulton]

You think you're the shizzle at 50???

Check what my misses got me for my birthday!!!!

 

[oulton]

ahh **** the pic didnt come up....

 

[Cosimo]

a lot of people on this forum would jump at the chance.

A lot would jump so long as it was female and moved.

 

[lttlejoe]

Bigot doesn't mean what you think it does.



I'm not picking on anyone and I am certainly not jealous. Without wanting to 'do an OP' I am very happily married with a little one and I genuinely wish the OP well. I just find it incredulous that he doesn't seem to know what to do with his life and he's asking GD of all places for advice (and ignoring it).

First of all...I have NEVER asked anyone for advice! This was thrust upon me - I know exactly what I want to do it's just some people DOPN'T seem to be able to read!
I merely asked if others who had reached the same stage in life as me felt that there was still more out there or should I appreciate what I have already gained in life and settle for that!

 

[V4NT0M]

A lot would jump so long as it was female and moved.

*nods*

 

[steve-h]

Look at it from the other side though, if you had an 18yr old daughter and she brought a 44 man home to meet you, how would you react? I would kick **** out of him tbh.

Well I wouldn't... I'd just be disappoint in my daughter. It's hardly his fault is it? I'd jump at the chance, so I couldn't blame him.

 

[V4NT0M]

First of all...I have NEVER asked anyone for advice! This was thrust upon me - I know exactly what I want to do it's just some people DOPN'T seem to be able to read!

IDK, I read through your post and didn't find anywhere where you mentioned what you were going to do.

Secondly you shouldn't be so surprised that people can't read, after all you can't write.

 

[the shadow]

lttlejoe just chill this is G.D after all

 

[lttlejoe]

IDK, I read through your post and didn't find anywhere where you mentioned what you were going to do.

Secondly you shouldn't be so surprised that people can't read, after all you can't write.

Well obviously you are visually challenged ...perhaps try looking at post #122!

 

[lttlejoe]

lttlejoe just chill this is G.D after all

No probs mate!

I think I can cope with a few schoolboy jibes!

 

[Mr^B]

First of all...I have NEVER asked anyone for advice! This was thrust upon me - I know exactly what I want to do it's just some people DOPN'T seem to be able to read!
I merely asked if others who had reached the same stage in life as me felt that there was still more out there or should I appreciate what I have already gained in life and settle for that!

Nope, never settle, never.

It seems you are judging success by other people's criteria, but by your own (very different) criteria you aren't successful because you still think you're missing something.

Constantly challenge yourself, learn to play an instrument, learn a new language, do ALL the things that in 20 years time you'll say "I never found the time to do [x]."

You now have all the time in the world, so use it wisely.

 

[Clipsey]

is for wimps

Do the Sparta Marathon. Athens to Sparta in two days, a distance of 246 km

Psssh 152miles in 2 days, GET REAL! The Iron man is 146 miles in less 14hours

 

[ash_scotland88]

How can it be jealously given that I suspect most of the posters in here are 20somethings and therefore have 20something partners anyway

Because they want a partner half their age!

 

[Narj]

Because they want a partner half their age!

If there's thatching on the roof, it's time to move in?

 

[Skidder]

No probs mate!

I think I can cope with a few schoolboy jibes!

schoolgirl jibes you mean!

 

[lttlejoe]

Nope, never settle, never.

It seems you are judging success by other people's criteria, but by your own (very different) criteria you aren't successful because you still think you're missing something.

Constantly challenge yourself, learn to play an instrument, learn a new language, do ALL the things that in 20 years time you'll say "I never found the time to do [x]."

You now have all the time in the world, so use it wisely.

Very wise words...That's exactly my line of thinking! I don't want settle down and be content with life as it is now. I gave up a lot and missed out as a young guy in order to set myself up for later life so that I could enjoy life and not just endure it when I reached my present age!

There are so many things I'd still like to experience and intend to do so. I never expected to have a new partner at this stage in life and wouldn't have if my wife hadn't died early in life but that is what life deals us sometimes!

My new partner has taught me to enjoy life again which was pretty dark at one period.
I couldn't give a toss if people think it odd or whatever about the age difference. That says so much more about them than me and my partner!

I don't chain her to the kitchen sink nor hold a gun to her head or keep her locked away! She is highly intelligent and a delight to be with and is the best thing that's happened to me in a long time and chooses to stay because she is happy. We are probably far better matched than many couples and any minor differences due to age are met with compromise which works very well indeed!

 

[Mr^B]

You seem to concentrate very much on your new partner, obviously there's some issues that you need to resolve with her (or within yourself).

If you're worried about the future and what problems the age gap will bring (and to deny that there will be problems won't solve them) then you need to get those concerns out in the open sooner rather than later.

Put it this way, she'll hit her sexual peak (can we talk about such things in here?) in about 14 years. And you'll be pushing 70 and will struggle to keep up. This *is* an issue, and I think you need to come to terms with it rather than just hoping you'll muddle through on some non-specific compromises. Unless the compromise is that she is allowed to start boffing her tennis coach, which I believe is the usual course of action in these cases.

 

[lttlejoe]

Just because she

Seriously, what on EARTH could you have in common with someone more than 2 decades younger than you? You respective childhoods and teens would be vastly different. Heck, I'm guessing your kids are a similar age to her.... how can you now see that as weird?

QUOTE]

What have we got in common?
Well for starters we have things like what we're having for tea that day, have the bills been paid, what colour decor are we choosing or where are we going on holiday this year or even where we're going at the weekend etc etc etc! You know, the sort of everyday things that couples talk about and do who have been together for a while!

If you have a problem with communicating and conversing with people who are younger than yourself then that is your problem but there is no barrier between us. We enjoy and share lots of things, we have very meaningful discussions about all sorts of things and have many many more things in common than not, so I hope this answers your question!

 

[Nitefly]

I love how some people think the age gap is a bigger indication of the status of the relationship over the fact they have been together 8 years

I would imagine they must have a lot in common and enjoy each other's company!