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I'm not making any sort of 'call', I am expressing my personal thoughts on an internet discussion forum.
Yes, because those are the only two choices - either privileged or living on a council estate
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I'm not making any sort of 'call', I am expressing my personal thoughts on an internet discussion forum.
Yes, because those are the only two choices - either privileged or living on a council estate
[TW]Fox;19082737 said:Yes, because those are the only two choices - either privileged or living on a council estate
Where the other choice?
Would you consider yourself 'spoilt' for still living underneath your parent's roof? Because I sure as hell would.
The difference is that I'm not quick to roll out some such terms. I appericate that some of us had better/more understanding/more wealthy parents than others and don't let it bother me.
I've not used the word 'spoilt'.
There are ways of making sure your kids have what they want whilst at the same time ensuring they don't take things for granted. Personally I think caving in and just buying them £20k+ cars every 3 months because they happen to be bored with the existing £20k car is a method of doing it I just can't see me ever agreeing with.
There are varying degrees of everything - and DM's approach (Which of course he's totally entitled to, it's his money) is at the extreme end of the spectrum, IMHO.
I wonder if setting them both up with a pretty nice car each and saying 'Thats that - you've got great cars. Want more? You've got the means to do that yourself from now' is probably, in the long run, a more rewarding way of doing things.
When I bought my first car aged 17 my Dad helped me onto the car ladder by offering me half the cash and no more. He could quite easily have just bought the whole car - heck it was a 1200 quid Citroen - but he didn't, and I honestly think I appreciated finally getting my hands on it a whole lot more as a result. I worked, earnt money, and the reward for my work was... a car! A car I'd spent my own money on.
There are ways of making sure your kids have what they want whilst at the same time ensuring they don't take things for granted. Personally I think caving in and just buying them £20k+ cars every 3 months because they happen to be bored with the existing £20k car is a method of doing it I just can't see me ever agreeing with.
There are varying degrees of everything - and DM's approach (Which of course he's totally entitled to, it's his money) is at the extreme end of the spectrum, IMHO.
I wonder if setting them both up with a pretty nice car each and saying 'Thats that - you've got great cars. Want more? You've got the means to do that yourself from now' is probably, in the long run, a more rewarding way of doing things.
When I bought my first car aged 17 my Dad helped me onto the car ladder by offering me half the cash and no more. He could quite easily have just bought the whole car - heck it was a 1200 quid Citroen - but he didn't, and I honestly think I appreciated finally getting my hands on it a whole lot more as a result. I worked, earnt money, and the reward for my work was... a car! A car I'd spent my own money on.
I don't think you know what 'spoilt' means.
You're right, I sure as **** don't
.I consider myself immensely lucky that my mum gives me a bit of money to help me pay for rent even though she's left the country. Lucky to the point where I feel indebted the first thing I'm doing once I have the money is paying her back two fold
I'm still not sure how paying rent/bills to your parents equates to the same thing as being bought a new £20k car every time you get bored of the last £20k car?
If she was paying him back for the car I'd understand your line of questioning but failing that?
If she was paying him back for the car I'd understand your line of questioning but failing that?
My logic is that they've given you the means to provide for yourself and fly the nest, and yet you haven't. I'm sure Mark has give his daughter the means to provide her own car and yet she hasn't.
If you take a step back it's hard to see how you can be so quick to judge.
If you take a step back it's hard to see how you can be so quick to judge
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My logic is that they've given you the means to provide for yourself and fly the nest, and yet you haven't. I'm sure Mark has give his daughter the means to provide her own car and yet she hasn't.
If you take a step back it's hard to see how you can be so quick to judge
It's really a completely different situation though isn't it? Living at home and paying your way (or at least a contribution) vs being bought brand new cars every few months and a shop to run for when you finish college...
It's not even close to 'fundamentally the same'.
Your parents helping out a bit vs paying for everything for you at your whim is entirely different.
Because you quite simply aren't paying 'proper' rent. You are getting a subsidized figure because if you weren't you would have flown the nest years ago. This subsidized figure to some twisted individuals like me could be seen as a 'gift'. At the end of the day your parents are doing you a favour. Mark's doing his daughter a favour
As for 'paying' for it, Mark has already mentioned that his daughter gives him the odd couple of quid when she has it. My your logic that means that she's paying for it and as such gives you (or anyone else for that matter) no right to moan.
As for 'paying' for it, Mark has already mentioned that his daughter gives him the odd couple of quid when she has it. My your logic that means that she's paying for it and as such gives you (or anyone else for that matter) no right to moan.
Must be the cider talking.
Not really. You're either given something by your parents or your not. If you are like in the Case of Fox I don't see how you can get the hump when someone else gets a bit more from their parents than you.
Paying 'proper' rent would give you a whole apartment/house though, living with your parents is not the same thing at all.
Also, Fox and Mark's situations are both hugely different.