Would you do the swap

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sigma said:
LOL must be the cider talking now.

My parents income had absolutely no impact on the choice of my first car.

I bought it myself with my own money.
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Actually, I'll back track a bit.

We're not all the same, but we aren't unique to the point where else and every single one of us will make completely unique decisions in the same given situation.

Also, income doesn't have a thing to do with what I'm talking about . You can be a well off parent and still be a bit of a ****. I'd like to think my dad applies here.

Not short of a few quid, but would refuse to pay child support until the CSA has FORCED him to. Even though me and my brother struggled when growing up.

He wouldn't loan me (key word, LOAN, for a few months) £2k to buy a car I really wanting, insisting that he was broke. What was the father/sons activity he had planned for that day? Helping him shop for a new BMW (incidentally the last time we spoke :),

He claims to have money set aside for my future but when I pitched to him that I wanted to start doing work on the side and needed a bit of money as a deposit on a lock up he refused.

I'm basing my future plan of father hood on the complete opposite of everything he has done :D.
 
This is the problem Joshy. You think there exists two ways - the DM way or the way your Dad did it.

There are infact probably a million different ways in reality.
 
Joshy said:
Seriously just **** off. Seriously nobody is interested in all of these 'Hater' comments, we've seem them about million times. It's boring now.

You're either
A) A person who has kids but can't dream of offering that sort of lifestyle to their children and has deluded to thinking that they are 'Better off' without it or

B) The type of person who shouldn't have kids because anyone who doesn't have the desire to give their children absolutely everything they can possibly can provide is a **** and shouldn't be allowed to reproduce.
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I in no way intended my post to be offensive. I can 100% say that if I had the money I would do the same thing as DM. And if I was in the same position as his daughter I would only be to happy to accept these cars/gifts. If it makes both of them happy then good on the both of them.
 
kPATm said:
I in no way intended my post to be offensive. I can 100% say that if I had the money I would do the same thing as DM. And if I was in the same position as his daughter I would only be to happy to accept these cars/gifts. If it makes both of them happy then good on the both of them.
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I'm sorry I jumped on you :).
 
I still don't get your point Joshy. I don't really want to go into personal details but again, my parents had no influence on my first car, I'd been saving since the age of 16 for it.
 
sigma said:
I still don't get your point Joshy.
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I think I summed it up the best with the 'If you're getting £10, don't 'moan' that someone else is getting £20" statement :).

I now appreciate that fox isn't 'moaning', but the only applies to most of those who might try and take a similar route.
 
Joshy said:
I think I summed it up the best with the 'If you're getting £10, don't 'moan' that someone else is getting £20" statement :).
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So if thats your point why have we spent the last page whinging about what you'd wrongly guessed my personal circumstances to be when I wasn't moaning? :confused:
 
[TW]Fox;19083178 said:
So if thats your point why have we spent the last page whinging about what you'd wrongly guessed my personal circumstances to be when I wasn't moaning? :confused:
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To me your personal circumstances are the same as they were long before we started. You live at your parents almost certainly at a subsisted rent (even though you have to do your own cooking, cleaning and washing :p)

You're lucky that your parents are 'helping you out'. In some people's eyes that is you being 'spoilt', and If I was one of those people who truly cared I've probably label you as such, but like I mentioned earlier, I don't let it bother me :). I thought myself lucky that my mum didn't hand me eviction papers on my 18th :D.
 
If DM's daughter was paying him every month for the car you'd have a point. She isn't, so you don't, so lets draw a line under it :p
 
Joshy said:
I think I summed it up the best with the 'If you're getting £10, don't 'moan' that someone else is getting £20" statement :).

I now appreciate that fox isn't 'moaning', but the only applies to most of those who might try and take a similar route.
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So what's you're point then? A hypothetical?

No one has 'moaned' or 'complained' about what DM is doing, at best they've said don't throw good money after a bad cause. The 'cause' NOT being his daughter, but the 'cause' being her very healthy appetite for expensive motors and the potential disconnect she may/or may not have about the value of money.

Nothing more.
 
Everyone must be spoilt then Joshy. You seem to find a reason why, living at home means you save money to eventually move out to a house you buy. Rather than paying rent forever. It's sensible not spoilt.

Spoil by definition suggests you are spoiling something, in this context it is refering to the child being spoilt as they don't learn the value of money, the way things need to be earnt. Ambitions to achieve dont exist if you get everything for free.
 
My dad bought my first air freshener, oh the shame....

Do you know what, some people have more cash than others. DM is obviously rather well off, is it any wonder that the family benefits from this "success"?

Isn't it the whole point of working to buy nice things and live well. Seems like DM is doing that and others are jealous.

I am jealous, you git!
 
ecksmen said:
others are jealous.
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Of course, I forgot - the only reason anyone can disagree with anything - because they must be jealous.

I guess the reason we all rolleyes at the kids on 'My Sweet 16' on MTV is purely jealousy as well right? As its kinda the same thing.
 
[TW]Fox;19083101 said:
See the example I gave of my first car. Do you honestly think my Dad could only afford to give me 600 quid towards a Xantia as my first car? Don't be daft, he could have bought a new C5 if he wanted but what really would that have acheived? Nothing - the way he went about it meant that, aged 17, I'd worked to earn money, and used that to buy myself a car. I was proper chuffed, and I had a physical reminder of the value of work. It was also mine - my money was in that car, so I looked after it like it was worth all the money in the world, because to me, it was! I'd just spent a huge amount of money for a 17 year old college student who worked saturdays in a shop. I like to think it meant I took a lot more care of it.
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I like this post Fox. Cheers. :)
 
[TW]Fox;19083101 said:
See the example I gave of my first car. Do you honestly think my Dad could only afford to give me 600 quid towards a Xantia as my first car? Don't be daft, he could have bought a new C5 if he wanted but what really would that have acheived? Nothing - the way he went about it meant that, aged 17, I'd worked to earn money, and used that to buy myself a car. I was proper chuffed, and I had a physical reminder of the value of work. It was also mine - my money was in that car, so I looked after it like it was worth all the money in the world, because to me, it was! I'd just spent a huge amount of money for a 17 year old college student who worked saturdays in a shop. I like to think it meant I took a lot more care of it.
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I wish somebody had told my parents that :( :p
 
I dont see the issue here, Daughter has a rich daddy, daddy buys a nice BMW for his little girl, little girl likes the car but wants a new one and daddy is going to part ex and add 2k. Daughter is happy, daddy is happy that daughter is happy.

If we all had the money would you really begrudge your daughter getting the car she wants?
 
Just out of interest, would the people who disagree with DM also disagree with a father who says he won't buy his son/daughter a car because he wants them to "learn the value of money"? IMO, that's far more dangerous than spending a fortune buying them whatever they want, because the average 17 year old will either buy some mini which will almost certainly kill them in a crash, or just lie on their insurance policy so they can drive something decent.
By most people's standards, my parents spoilt me, but it never did me any harm.
 
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