How do feel about sharing your possessions with people?

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Things change I've changed

Things change I've changed

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Personally I don't like lending out my possessions to anyone, not even friends, on too many occasions I've had problems while doing this, people not returning stuff, things getting lost, damaged, scuffed or scratched discs etc, so to avoid conflict with these people I prefer not to lend anything out and on the same token not to borrow anything off of anyone.

Recently though I've been criticised for this more than usual which is a little annoying, I take good care of the possessions that I've accumulated and worked hard to acquire what little I have, I don't really feel it's right that I'm criticised and earlier today even insulted for refusing to lend out games and movies to people.

These are my things and I should have the right to do as I wish with them just as I respect other peoples right not to lend or share their possessions out, more often than not it just ends up in conflict.

So I was wondering what is your view on lending your possessions out?
 
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I lent a good friend my jigsaw the other day, he had it for one day and it's now lost. He says someone stole it from the workshop. Doesn't seem like he's doing much to get it back either.
Made me more anxious about lending people things, especially if they are going to be using them outwith their home.
 
I don't lend anything out anymore.

Lent a game to one friend who promptly moved house half-way across the country with it.
Lent some CDs to my brother who now swears that they are his and he bought them himself.
One "friend" actually helped himself to some of my stuff when I left him alone for a few minutes.
 
i'm getting to the point where i don't want to lend people stuff, as others have said i've been shafted by mates who don't seem to have any respect for other peoples' belongings
 
I've lost count of the number of CDs I've lost to people I've leant them to. My brother also has a stack of my DVDs that he simply can't be arsed to return to me. I've told him he's not getting a lend of anymore until he brings the other ones back "oh I'll do it tomorrow, or the weekend". THAT WAS THREE ****ING MONTHS AGO!

So no. I don't lend people stuff anymore.
 
DVDs and other such things why not. No one ever asks to borrow more expensive stuff. Generally give away stuff when I've upgraded anyway. Unless it's worth selling.
 
I'm extremely anal about my possessions, especially the expensive ones. I always keep things in immaculate condition, and when I see the state of some of my friends stuff I always get paranoid if they happen to be using/borrowing something of mine.

I remember letting my friend ring her parents on my iPhone 4 as she'd left her keys at home, after the call she shouted out my name and literately threw my phone at me. We must have been about 20 meters apart and being a girl, it was a pathetic attempt at a throw. Lucky I managed to catch it (I'm just ninja like that) but I still raged hard. :mad:
 
Life experience. Some people are reliable, others are disrespectful idiots. I know plenty of people that I would confidently loan anything as I know that they will take care with my possessions or replace anything they break/lose, or that they will happily loan me things in return. On the other hand there those that I wouldn't trust at all.
 
last few times ive lent stuff i tent to forget ive lent it out and end up trying to remember months later what it was i lent someone. i try not to lend stuff out now only to those i know will replace if anything happens.
 
I'm usually happy to lend my friends stuff and expect that I'll receive it back in decent condition but it's not a huge issue most of the time, I've come to terms with the fact that accidents will happen so as long as I don't think they've been hugely careless with my possessions it's probably ok. Although if they do break something I would normally expect them to at least offer to replace it - I may not take them up on the offer but it's nice to have that little bit of respect shown.
 
I no longer share stuff after having lent a CD to someone and it came back cracked.

It was only a freebie demo CD from a magazine, but still annoying.

The same person also somehow accidentally vandalized one of my timpani sticks that I was asked to keep by my uni for the orchestra. He decided to simply nick them for a prank, and when I got them back all the soft material on the end of one of them had been frayed and ripped off, and he had no idea how that happened.
 
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I don't understand how people can be such ****s with other people's possessions. Then they don't care of it/don't return it on time/ return it at their convenience etc. Then if I make a big fuss about it, apparently I'm making a big fuss over nothing, I need to calm down. :confused:

If I borrow something from someone, I damn sure take care of it.
 
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