Poll: Is it ever okay to 'cheat'?

[arknor]

no my parents are still together and they are in their late 60's now , i have never been cheated on either.

Paranoia because he's in, or has been in (or expects to be in) an insecure relationship most likely.

im seperating from my wife of 10 years and we are still living together for the short term, i dont plan on looking for another relationship for quite some time as i can go for more than a few minutes before i feel like i need to satisfy my sexual urges

 

[Alex74]

if i didnt key your car someone else would.
if i dont rob your house someone else will.
if i dont steal your car someone else will.
if i dont rob your house someone else will.
if i dont get your daughter pregnant and do a runner someone else will.

you can use this "someone else will" for just about whatever you like

you might not be the one cheating your still "aiding and abetting" it might not be a crime but you still involved in the act and knowingly helping to crush someone else for your moment of joy.
i reckon the sort of person with this mindset is the sort that would cheat and i wouldnt want you anywhere near my daughter if i had one.

To be honest, only the last of those examples is nearly applicable. All others are totally unilateral decisions as opposed to the shared decision of entering a sexual relationship (assuming the daughter is a consenting adult), but even then suffers from the very nature of the relationships involved compared to what we're talking about here.

I think people are assuming that you are placing the blame entirely on the single person who accepts the advances of the married person (or the other way round).

I would say that the responsibility is with the person in the relationship to make their interest or lack thereof clear. If there's interest, and that interest outweighs the intention to maintain the marriage, then any sensible person should have a serious think about whether they should stay in the marriage before indulging. They are, after all, the ones 'betraying their vows' as it were.


WRT OP, No.4/5 for me. I'm just not that sort..

 

[elmuzzy66.]

no my parents are still together and they are in their late 60's now , i have never been cheated on either.


im seperating from my wife of 10 years and we are still living together for the short term, i dont plan on looking for another relationship for quite some time as i can go for more than a few minutes before i feel like i need to satisfy my sexual urges

Sad to hear that hope all works out for the best. Beware off the rebound.

 

[steve-h]

if i didnt key your car someone else would.
if i dont rob your house someone else will.
if i dont steal your car someone else will.
if i dont rob your house someone else will.
if i dont get your daughter pregnant and do a runner someone else will.

Strong logic...

 

[arknor]

Strong logic...

yup , someone else will only steal your food from the work fridge if i dont m8 , no hard feelings eh.

gonna be sleeping with your wife to after i pop around with a bottle of wine tommorow while your out.
i bet i can tempt her fairly easily once shes tipsy but he if i didnt prey on her someone else will init, shes the one in the relationship not me so i can take no blame at all.

 

[Deific]

You've changed your tune quickly arknor.

Good to see you've come around.

 

[steve-h]

yup , someone else will only steal your food from the work fridge if i dont m8 , no hard feelings eh.

gonna be sleeping with your wife to after i pop around with a bottle of wine tommorow while your out.
i bet i can tempt her fairly easily once shes tipsy but he if i didnt prey on her someone else will init, shes the one in the relationship not me so i can take no blame at all.

no... not "yup" as your logic is completely backwards. Your examples do not relate in the slightest.


And I love how you add the drunk part in, and make it as though you're the one after her and not her after you.

But even with that new scenario... she wouldn't be worth my time and I'm glad it happened sooner rather than later. She obviously didn't have much respect for me, so it's better the hypothetical relationship is over really. And being tipsy isn't an excuse, is it?

You've changed your tune quickly arknor.

Good to see you've come around.

 

[EdGey]

I would not feel comfortable going with a girl who I knew had a boyfriend/husband. No matter how willing or nice looking she was.

So 4.

 

[godinman]

Once again, I'm with arknor here. I still don't like him very much tho.

No offense.

 

[arknor]

You've changed your tune quickly arknor.

Good to see you've come around.

she'll be the one coming around when i get her drunk and take advantage , she will regret it in the morning but hey if i didnt someone else would so im doing steve-h a favour..

some people dont seem to realise its the blokes preying on a lot of the married women and without them most wouldnt even consider it, ofcourse theres always the slappers who will anyway but they arent likely to ever get married in reality,

Once again, I'm with arknor here. I still don't like him very much tho.

No offense.

for what reason? you keep stating this in every thread im in...

 

[Pighardia]

I understand what you are saying Arknor, but the OP specifically states that she propositions you.

 

[steve-h]

I understand what you are saying Arknor, but the OP specifically states that she propositions you.

Nah, that's been changed that a million times so it fits his argument

she'll be the one coming around when i get her drunk and take advantage , she will regret it in the morning but hey if i didnt someone else would so im doing steve-h a favour..

some people dont seem to realise its the blokes preying on a lot of the married women and without them most wouldnt even consider it, ofcourse theres always the slappers who will anyway but they arent likely to ever get married in reality,

And being drunk/tipsy(?) to a certain level doesn't mean you're suddenly powerless and unaware of what's going on. And she would be the one letting herself get in that state, so...

 

[Robbo]

The person doing the cheating is the one at fault, the single person is not to blame.

Cheaters are the lowest of the low, I cannot understand how some people are cheated on and then take back their partners afterwards

 

[arknor]

I understand what you are saying Arknor, but the OP specifically states that she propositions you.

yea but its all stemming from another thread about someones neighbour flirting with them.

shes married and her husband is away for half the year working, everyone was saying go for it etc and i was one of the few arguing against cheating

 

[Twentyone]

5. I wouldn't ever sleep with her. I'd be just as guilty as she is.

So no, never.

 

[godinman]

for what reason? you keep stating this in every thread im in...

This is only the second time, and the second time I've stated that I agree with you. Don't take it too seriously, I've just seen your posts around and came to the conclusion that I don't like you very much. Keep up the good work and I might reconsider

 

[arknor]

The person doing the cheating is the one at fault, the single person is not to blame.

Cheaters are the lowest of the low, I cannot understand how some people are cheated on and then take back their partners afterwards

so basicly you want to "cheat" with someone elses partner and then lay all the blame on her?

nice...

This is only the second time, and the second time I've stated that I agree with you. Don't take it too seriously, I've just seen your posts around and came to the conclusion that I don't like you very much. Keep up the good work and I might reconsider

i can be quite blunt with people on the internet in real life im not like that at all

 

[steve-h]

so basicly you want to "cheat" with someone elses partner and then lay all the blame on her?

She's in the relationship, not you... she's the one actively seeking to stand and bang.

I'd like to know what you think would happen if you rejected her advances. Would she find someone else or stay a happily (LOL) married couple?

What would you do in the situation?

 

[Robbo]

so basicly you want to "cheat" with someone elses partner and then lay all the blame on her?

nice...

Well, that would depend on what the single person knows, but they aren't really doing anything wrong either way unless they are intentionally getting the woman drunk or something like that.

The woman is a moron of the highest order as she is cheating, the single person is not so bad.

 

[Nitefly]

Cheating is generally highly immoral whichever side of the fence you are sitting on. However, I have become slightly less black and white about it since my teenage years. I don't believe the 'once a cheat always a cheat' nonsense. I know some very steady relationships that have survived acknowledged one night stands.

I would have course by highly upset if a partner cheated on me, but I imagine I would be more forgiving if it wasn't overly sexual or repeated.