Poll: Is it ever okay to 'cheat'?
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If you know that you are sleeping with someone that is in relationship you know that your actions are going to potentially be the cause of a lot of pain. A woman doesn't sleep with herself, it takes two to tango.
It is a rather douchey thing to do.
I bet a lot of single people don't know that though, as I implied, its all situational but generally moronic.
If it is concensual then it isnt 'cheating'.
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4/5 I have morals, if everyone else still had theirs the world would be a nicer place.
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She will regret it and never speak to you again - so if you're after a shag it's okay (unless the husband can own you in a fight) - if you actually like her you're wasting your time.
Ditto
I don't believe in karma/religion/fate, but I like knowing that I'm not a #### to other people
If you think of this. If you say to the other someone "I am cheating on you" before you do cheat on them, and it upsets them. Then no, it is not okay to cheat.
In other words, don't lead someone on and waste time. I wouldn't like it done to me.
In other words, don't lead someone on and waste time. I wouldn't like it done to me.
Both sides raise valid points. Ultimately the person cheating with your other half has no obligations to you. However, I would never want to be in that situation myself let alone be the cause of it. Morals are ultimately a personal thing and peoples rationales will differ.
The problem is that it's not as clear-cut as the OP makes out. The blame ultimately lies with the woman, as she is the one who is married, and she is the one who is propositioning you. However, you do have a choice, so you do have to bear some of the guilt for sleeping with a married woman.
The Bro Code, on the other hand, is perfectly clear. As long as you're not bros with the woman's husband, she's good to go. Don't steal the husband's condoms though, that's just rude.
Oh, and lube is public property.
The Bro Code, on the other hand, is perfectly clear. As long as you're not bros with the woman's husband, she's good to go. Don't steal the husband's condoms though, that's just rude.
Oh, and lube is public property.
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I'm going with 2...
But I'm aware that there may be repercussions.
But I'm aware that there may be repercussions.
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Due to the nature of the users on this forum, the answer is always of course, hell no to cheating, but as iv said before on this topic its never ever black and white and clear cut scenrios never happen, its way to complex and as ever, society has morals influenced by religious background, think about it, if 'cheating' was the norm and you were bought up to know this, you would never see it as a bad thing, its just society has said its bad. Why am I saying this dear reader?, well naturally humans are NOT programmed to be monogamous, naturally both male and females will sleep around, 99% of the natural world this happens (aside from a handful of speicies where some genetic trickery has made them to generally mate for life, therefore its natural to them to be monogamous)
Of course a lot of people have long and happy marrages, and thats great, a conciously focused decesion like this can be very rewarding, but notice how everyone says most of the time it takes effort or nearly all people have a few relationships ? especially recently ? its because the natural human desire for sex with attractive people overrides, our instinct is who we are as a species. I suppose peoples general viewpoint is it happened less many years ago, yeah probably, because religion had a more powerful place in peoples lives, but I bet it happened a lot more than people ever admitted.
So I view it from the viewpoint, everyone is human, if my mrs cheated on me yeah it wouldnt be ideal but I fully understand how it can happen, and would look at the circumstances and such, you just have to think about humans, as a human, its kinda weird how influential society can be, even though most members of society probably think more or less the same (which isnt what society says as a whole)
Of course a lot of people have long and happy marrages, and thats great, a conciously focused decesion like this can be very rewarding, but notice how everyone says most of the time it takes effort or nearly all people have a few relationships ? especially recently ? its because the natural human desire for sex with attractive people overrides, our instinct is who we are as a species. I suppose peoples general viewpoint is it happened less many years ago, yeah probably, because religion had a more powerful place in peoples lives, but I bet it happened a lot more than people ever admitted.
So I view it from the viewpoint, everyone is human, if my mrs cheated on me yeah it wouldnt be ideal but I fully understand how it can happen, and would look at the circumstances and such, you just have to think about humans, as a human, its kinda weird how influential society can be, even though most members of society probably think more or less the same (which isnt what society says as a whole)
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