Living at home atm and I'm 24. However I did a 5 year uni degree and my first job (started in September) is only 15-20mins from my parents house, so it's a bit pointless moving out as I'll only be round here for max 12 months and I get on fairly well with my parents.
How old do you think is too old to be living with your parents?
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Do any of you think, and I know it's not a nice thing but it's valid.. The only way they'll ever have a house of their own is when some people are no longer with us? I think that's the sad reality for me, if I had it my way I'd have my parents live forever and not have a house to my own.
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This is what I would say too.
If I hadn't taken the postgraduate I would have accepted the design engineering job near home. I would live at home to save £500-600 a month towards a house deposit.
This (imo of course) is worlds apart from my loser friend who earns little more than minimum wage with a £10,000 car loan to his name.
I would live at home to save for my own house, not because I am a retard with money and have no other option so my parents are 'stuck' with me.
Ninja edit: I would have been 23 when I would have moved back in, with the view of being there 2-3 years together £10-12k together for a house deposit.
No, not at all. Mid-20s living with parents seems very common these days from what I can see, probably in part due to the fact that every Tom, Dick and Harry seems to go to uni, often with a gap year / year in industry / >3yr course. So the boomerang kids who aren't the elite (landing big jobs in the city) come back to roost at say 22. They will stay there until there is a compelling reason to leave, i.e:
-Family issues i.e. find it hard to live with parents
-Move in with a partner
-Land a decent job that's not easily commutable
I lived with my dad from age 21-26 because after graduation I moved back in with him and then got a local job. I moved out at 26 because my girlfriend (now wife) lived in another town and we wanted to live together. If she hadn't been around then I would likely have stayed living with my Dad a lot longer.
I think in terms of social acceptance times have changed, people used to frown a bit on late-20s living at home but nowadays I don't think it is until you hit 30 that eyebrows start to be raised - and to be honest, who really cares anyway? Might be a bit awkward explaining it to a new/prospective partner, but if they are that bothered by it, maybe you are better off without them anyway.
Totally depends on the situation and how big your house is.
If you're stepping on each other's toes, move out.
However, if finances dictate that you need to stay at home, there's not really any shame. Apart from not being able to get a better job
Just remember to repay the debt when they stop working.
If you're stepping on each other's toes, move out.
However, if finances dictate that you need to stay at home, there's not really any shame. Apart from not being able to get a better job
Just remember to repay the debt when they stop working.
Kinda worked out that way for us as my partner didn't have any savings until her Dad died, we started looking for a house about 5 months later. Our second house was paid for in part from money I inherited due to (directly or indirectly) my grandparents, Mum and Sister all dying.
I still think I could have afforded to buy a house though, in 2006 lenders were literally queueing up to throw money at you, a 10% deposit was considered the norm (with plenty of smaller deposits around) and having worked for nearly 5 years I'd saved up some money while living with my Dad, plus he probably would have topped me up if required as he's a strong believer in 'bricks & mortar'.
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25 is not too old at all really. plenty of people doing it to save cash etc
just move when the time is right. there are so many variables but if you're paying your way, there are no arguments and your comfortable enough then enjoy it while you can!!
just move when the time is right. there are so many variables but if you're paying your way, there are no arguments and your comfortable enough then enjoy it while you can!!
25 living at home. Not wierd in the slightest. I have been out had my flat and realised its not all its cracked up to be. Now I cant afford to live elsewhere. If some people dont find it socially acceptable thats there problem
I get used to my independence and privacy as a student, Going back for summer for 3months is tough. After uni i imagine i will move out as soon as i can afford to. Not that i don't like my parents or my home, i like it very much, it's just having your own place is much nicer. I guess i just like being the boss. I'M THE BOSSSS 
I'm 19 and moved out of home and in with my girlfriend last year. (However currently travelling)
I'm in a bit of a different situation, where my girlfriend's parents own the place we stayed in and refused to accept any rent money. I think without the financial support it would have been a lot more demanding to leave home when I did.
I don't think age is a factor, but more the situation you are in. Full time employed in a well enough paying job should mean you are independent enough to pay your way in life, although I understand why people stay with their parents to save.
Totally depends on the situation and so many factors affecting it
I'm in a bit of a different situation, where my girlfriend's parents own the place we stayed in and refused to accept any rent money. I think without the financial support it would have been a lot more demanding to leave home when I did.
I don't think age is a factor, but more the situation you are in. Full time employed in a well enough paying job should mean you are independent enough to pay your way in life, although I understand why people stay with their parents to save.
Totally depends on the situation and so many factors affecting it
I'd say when you start to get past 30.
Unless their are extenuating circumstances like providing care to an elderly family member like a parent and grandparent.
Having said that, bloke across the road from us is in his 40s and still lives at home and appears to be single ... Slightly odd.
Unless their are extenuating circumstances like providing care to an elderly family member like a parent and grandparent.
Having said that, bloke across the road from us is in his 40s and still lives at home and appears to be single ... Slightly odd.
I'm 32 and recently moved back in with my parents for 6 months or so. It does wind me up when people judge you for living with your parents. They seem to assume it means you're not capable of looking after yourself. I even had a girlfriend finish with me last time I was back at home because she didn't think I was independent enough!!
I've moved out a couple of times before; lived with my now-ex for 4 years when I was 25, broke up with her and moved back in with the 'rents for a year and then rented a room until March this year.
I really didn't get on with my live-in landlord so decided to come back home again to clear the last of my debt before renting a mates flat off him later on in the year.
I've moved out a couple of times before; lived with my now-ex for 4 years when I was 25, broke up with her and moved back in with the 'rents for a year and then rented a room until March this year.
I really didn't get on with my live-in landlord so decided to come back home again to clear the last of my debt before renting a mates flat off him later on in the year.