A little bit of advice please?

mdb08

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I have a booked and fully paid for holiday in the summer, which in hindsight was a very bad move due to my age and the amount of money said holiday cost. I've accompanied below how she'd speaking to me lately, and the unfortunate thing is, its not the first time recently she has been speaking to me like this. I have within the past few days, also booked her an appointment at a local spa place for a professional massage after her exams to help her ease her stress. However, this is really starting to get me down, shes making me feel like its all my fault :( What would you guys do? I'm really considering to tell her to stuff the holiday of which I won't get anything back from and at 17 about to go to uni in the summer that £400 may be better spent else where.

Me
Good morning beautiful
11 Jun (3 days ago)
Me
Heyyyyy
11 Jun (3 days ago)
Girlfriend
Hello
11 Jun (3 days ago)
Me
How are youuu?
11 Jun (3 days ago)
Girlfriend
I'm okk. You?
11 Jun (3 days ago)
Me
Not bad. How was work?
11 Jun (3 days ago)
Girlfriend
Busy for like ages then it went dead :L
11 Jun (3 days ago)
Me
Ohhhh :L thats good then :) I hate it when its busy :L
11 Jun (3 days ago)
Me
What you up too?
11 Jun (3 days ago)

Me to Girlfriend
show details 11 Jun (3 days ago)
Heyyyy, Im sorry I've not spoke to you much tonight, but that's because I've been helping my dad put up this shed that my nan got him for Christmas and his birthday :L and its literally taken us ages to put up :( Im actually really shattered now though :( I'm sorry about that though. What have you been up too? I love you xxxxxx
Me to Girlfriend
show details 12 Jun (2 days ago)
Good morning beautiful, I'm sorry about last night we were out for ages on that shed :( hope you have a good day at work. Loveyouxxxx
Me
Heyyyy
12 Jun (2 days ago)
Me
Hellooooooo? :(

Me
phone call 9pm *just let to ring
Me
phone call 9:30pm *again just left to ring
Me
phone call 10pm *again just left to ring
12 Jun (2 days ago)
Me
Anyway, I'm going to go sleep now, hope to speak to you tomorrow loveyouxxxxx
12 Jun (2 days ago)
Girlfriend
Loveyoux
12 Jun (2 days ago)
Me
Heyyy
13 Jun (1 day ago)
Me
That was more uncomfortable than last time :L they couldn't find a vein :(
18:01 (23 hours ago)
Me
Helloooo? :(
19:45 (21 hours ago)
Me to Girlfriend
show details 21:57 (19 hours ago)
Please :( I hope your feeling better :( I'm quite worried about it, you mean the world to me and I certainly don't like to think your upset or down I love you xxxxx

Me to Girlfriend
show details 23:39 (17 hours ago)
I'm going to go to sleep now. I hope you’re feeling okay :( if I don't manage to speak to you tomorrow before your exam good luck not that you'll need it baby girl you'll be amazing! I love youxxxxxxx
Girlfriend
Loveux
23:40 (17 hours ago)
Me
Good morning beautiful, I hope your exam went really well, hope your okay, loveyouxxxx
10:04 (7 hours ago)
Me
I really wish you'd talk to me and tell me what's wrong :( I hope your okay and that your exam went well this morning loveyouxxxx
15:15 (2 hours ago)
Girlfriend to me
show details 16:52 (26 minutes ago)
Look, you might be bothered now but it certainly hasn't felt like it. I don't want to talk to you right now, I want to focus on my exams. You should do the same. Ok?
Me to Girlfriend
show details 17:02 (17 minutes ago)
I have been very bothered, I am bothered.
Girlfriend to me
show details 17:03 (15 minutes ago)
Look I'm not arguing with you - you've only sounded concerned since kirsty said something to you. This relationship isn't working right now and if you push me any further I'm walking, now please. Leave me alone until after the exams, and then we'll talk.
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daz said:
Ouch. Sounds like you should move on, she already has...
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Sums it up really.

I wouldn't want to go on holiday with someone who isn't interested in the relationship.

Try and get a partial refund and move on before she hurts you even more.
 
Not a great deal that you can do.

Even women that appear to be the nicest in the world can turn like this in the blink of an eye. It's seriously madness.
 
1) Lose the gf. As above, sounds like she's not bothered anyway. Cancel the massage etc.
2) You paid for the holiday, right? Well go with a mate and have a great time. No reason to not go.

// EDIT // Oh, she booked it with your money. Well that's a fail. If (/when) you break up, ask for a refund / the tickets (though you'd have to go through the performance of having the names changed etc)
 
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go on the holiday by yourself. a few years back i booked a holiday for a then girlfriend and myself in Italy and she broke up with me and those 2 weeks away by myself were amazing.
 
Posty said:
go on the holiday by yourself. a few years back i booked a holiday for a then girlfriend and myself in Italy and she broke up with me and those 2 weeks away by myself were amazing.
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Just done this recently myself. Best thing i've ever done (With my ex, not yours ofc :D)
 
You appear concerned for her and how does she repay you by acting like a spoilt little girl. Get rid of her. Maybe then she might behave properly for the next poor sod who ends up with here. As for holiday is it in your name? can you go with a mate? if not try get some sort of refund or check your travel insurance.

Cancel the spa thing and get a refund for that as well and move on. The spoilt little brat deserves nothing.

Edit: just read you gave her the money to book it. Hmm ask her to cancel the holiday and get the money back if she gets nippy tell her you will talk to her parents. She is a spoilt little 17 year old I assume. Telling daddy might make her think twice.

Dont just let it go as she will take her "friend" on holiday with your money !
 
Sounds like this was all planned, she has probably played you for your money mate =/
I wouldnt be surprised if this change of attitude is simply because she hasnt booked a holiday but would rather keep the money and break up with you, exam stress being the "catalyst".
 
I feel for you dude. I know exactly how this feels. Not a lot you can do, and from experience moving on truly is the best plan. :(
 
Time to move on. Take the holiday with a mate (I hope it's booked in your name ) then go and enjoy uni. You don’t need excess baggage when you’re there.
 
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